My country and I were introduced by a matchmaker. Behind her guitar era, she still hides half of her face from us. Free love seems to be a big violation of Tao and harmful to the face of her ancestors. Besides, at that time, my mother was seriously ill and had reached the last stage of her life. I can't bear to see her cry for my marriage. In order not to let her worry about me any more, I had to marry myself between dreams and waking up. To use a fashionable word now, my country and I belong to pure? Flash marriage? Less than a hundred days after we met, we rushed into the marriage hall.
It was the season when osmanthus blossoms, and the wedding day was only three days away from my birthday. That day, my mother cried with tears, and I cried with tears. I remember my grandmother cooked me some eggs and said that eating an egg before getting on the bus would bring me good luck. I cried while eating, and the eggs were salty with tears in my mouth. At that time, I only felt that I really left my family and went to a completely strange home.
I'm at a loss about marriage. I don't know whether I am gambling or betting my youth on tomorrow. I asked myself again and again in my mind, but no one knew the answer.
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After all, married life is not about writing poetry and painting, but always full of romance. If we compare marriage to a book, except that the first chapter is written in poetry, the rest may be plain prose, because we have to face the realistic version of daily necessities.
My husband's house is not too far away. I was a private teacher at that time, and I still rode my bike to and from the village primary school where my parents lived for more than ten miles every day. At that time, the salary was seriously low, and the annual salary was only 750 yuan. After careful calculation, I earned less than 3 yuan a day. Nevertheless, I have no regrets, because I love that profession and those innocent and lovely children. My country graduated from a technical school, and I don't have any tasks. Working as a temporary worker in a department, the annual salary is less than 2000 yuan. At that time, if our money adds up, we can go on living.
After more than two years of marriage, our son was born. I have an extra mouth to eat milk powder, and I am the king of small stomachs. You can eat a bag of milk powder for three days. No matter how careful I am, the days can only be kept tight. Nevertheless, I think the days are quite warm.
At that time, we rented two mud houses from our neighbors. Because of the age, the four eaves of the house have been seriously drooping, and a thick layer of moss has grown on the roof. From a distance, it looks a bit like a little green castle in a fairy tale. But this does not affect our little happiness. Even in the cold winter, sitting in front of a warm stove after work, eating steaming frozen tofu stewed in China, even if there is no meat in it, it is still delicious! The feeling of happiness at that time was from the heart.
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In those days, it was not easy to save some money by earning a dead salary.
I managed to save 500 yuan, but I didn't save it because of the trouble, but I was confused about where to put it. There is only one drawer with a lock at home, but my country and I each have a key, which should not be suitable for putting a small vault. Finally, I put 500 yuan into the inner pocket of a Lanizi coat and carefully pinned some pins. That dress and other unused clothes have been hanging there quietly for a long time. I don't think China can value an old dress no matter how careful he is. Since the price of that dress has doubled, I will always touch it from time to time to see if my 500 yuan is still when the country is not paying attention. Fortunately, the baby has been safely hidden there.
However, things are far from what I expected. One day a few months later, I was in a hurry to use money. When I happily took out the 500 yuan, I was completely blindsided. When did my money turn into kraft paper? I just hold the folded square kraft paper in my hand, and I just want to slap myself. Isn't this a typical modern version of "36 plans"? Stealing a column? Really? Needless to say, it must be that hateful country. I was so angry and annoyed that I even began to doubt my life at that moment. Somehow, I am easily deceived by my feelings. Every time I touch my pocket and try to squeeze it, there is a bang. That feeling is obviously my 500 yuan. Why didn't I think about taking it out? Some people say that a woman should never let a man know that she is smarter than him, but I am completely clever and I am mistaken for cleverness.
People grow up after they are stupid. Since then, I have been studying the "Thirty-six Strategies" while living. It has nothing to do with the military. It is a pure love version of Thirty-six Plans.
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? Only when love dies in the most prosperous time can it last forever, and the trivial life of daily necessities is the biggest killer of love. Seven-year itch? In the days when Guo Xian and I got married and fell in love, we faced wave after wave of tests.
When two people are together for a long time, the hidden nature will gradually emerge. Because you can't pretend to live in front of the other half all your life, it will be very tired. Like other couples, we play symphonies of pots and pans in plain days and polish ourselves and each other in the time of daily necessities.
I am introverted and would rather keep my illness in my heart than say anything, while my country's personality is just the opposite. He likes to say, I don't want to hear it, and it is often more than half a sentence. Gradually, I also found that this country is narrow-minded and suspicious, which is the last thing I can accept. At that time, there was a hit drama "Don't Talk to Strangers" starring Feng and Mei Ting. Sometimes I gnash my teeth and cry. Anjiahe in the play is not a thing, but what happened to me and the weak Mai Xiangnan? I always feel that the screenwriter and director are real relatives of my family, and they are TV dramas based on China and me.
Once, we had a big fight over a trivial matter. On the fifteenth day of the first lunar month, all the grievances that had been suppressed for a long time poured out and filed a divorce lawsuit with the court, intending to completely part ways with the country. On that occasion, we made a terrible noise and even alarmed the leaders of our respective units. Because they came forward to coordinate, looked at their young son, and then looked at the sad and repentant face of the country, I also calmed down and let bygones be bygones. Later, I often bought with my son:
? At the beginning, if I didn't want your father and son, how could you have a happy life today! It was mom's sense of responsibility that saved you both. ?
The son smiled and left the pie mouth. I know you are reluctant to part with this family! ?
In fact, in reality, who can make life smooth? Laughing and cursing all the time became an episode to reconcile the time we spent together, which made my cousins call China a couple? Would you like to tell the judge? .
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Speaking of happiness, everyone has a different definition of it. When I was a child, Happiness liked to play hide-and-seek with us. I always feel that it is hidden in gold and silver jewelry, in high-end cosmetics, in brand-name clothes and in the distant future. But now I really understand that happiness is actually hidden in the simple days of daily necessities, which is only a kind of inner richness, not measured by the thickness of money and material life.
Happiness is brought to me by my country after work. He personally wrapped a steamed stuffed bun, which looked a little different, but it was steaming hot.
Happiness is that the country is drunk and doesn't forget to bring only half a hawthorn popsicle. Honey, your favorite hawthorn popsicle, with pulp! ? I quickly took a bite, the taste was sour and my heart was sweet. Happiness is also two cantaloupes that he held tightly in his hand when he first opened the garden, saying that he would let me have a taste.
Happiness is a mobile phone with temperature that you take out of your arms like a national child. It was my first mobile phone in my life, and it was my favorite red, small and exquisite appearance. It was won in the lottery with China 100 yuan. His third brother chased after his ass, and he was so scared that he hid his mobile phone in his arms and ran home.
In fact, some things are not as strong as possible, but just right. For example, in a deeper way, we walk a long way slowly and carefully with beautiful things. In fact, happiness should be two people's attachment to each other and lifelong companionship, and I just want to enjoy that steady happiness in the plain.
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At first, we didn't have time to fall in love seriously. The so-called time problem makes us forget that we are still young. Now, time makes us forget our love.
Time is always so carefree. As if in the blink of an eye, China and the United States are no longer young, wrinkles have crept onto our faces, and frost has appeared on our temples. We're not like young people anymore? Love? If there is love, it is also a kind of affection that life cannot give up.
On the 10th day of August this year, China and I have gone through 25 years.
On that day, China specially made a few side dishes to celebrate. Before dinner, he mysteriously opened a small box with a delicate necklace inside. He said he owed me too much over the years, so he took this opportunity to buy a necklace to compensate me. I can't help laughing at Guo's clumsy way of putting a necklace on me. At dinner, Guo sent a small video to his son who worked in Shanxi and told him with a smile. Son of a bitch, today is a good day! Can I have a drink with your mother?
? Come on, wife, do it! ?
? Wife? That's what we call each other now. At first, China always envied his colleagues, saying that their wives called men at home? Husband? Let me call it that. But I absolutely don't like this name. I am a grounded person and don't want to accept fancy things. In fact, at first I thought he was stupid, so I called him stupid boss, which was in the phone address book. And then I kept screaming? Wife? After a long time, he got used to it.
We are not old, my wife calls us that, just hoping that we can stay together until we are old. It is easy to call a husband and wife, but it takes a lifetime of companionship and waiting to call a wife.
This is our day, feeling a little happiness in the ups and downs. That kind of happiness is real, not pretending to live for others to see. Picking up my glass, I said to my country: I don't know if there is an afterlife. If there is, I will still hold your hand. We'd better switch roles, but you're still mine. I'm your wife for life?
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Author: autumn whispers
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Whispering in autumn, people in Suiling, Heilongjiang like literature, music and painting. There are poems and essays published on public platforms and literature websites. Write a simple life with warm words, ignore the hustle and bustle of the world, don't go against your original heart, just be a quiet tea drinker.