This is a letter written by a single mother to her daughter. There is self-blame and regret in the letter, but more of it is the strong maternal love that cannot be broken! Below I have compiled the letters written by single mothers to their daughters. A letter for your reference.
Part 1 of a letter written by a single mother to her daughter
Qianqian my son:
This is the second time my mother has written to you in twelve years. Mom The first time I wrote to you was when my son was in the second grade of elementary school. I hope that my son, you will read this letter with your heart. Every word here is what my mother has wanted to say to you for a long time. I think, from now on, my mother will treat you not only as her daughter, but also as her friend. She needs you as her most important friend in her life.
My son, I came back from the Panyu Xiangjiang Wildlife Park yesterday. My mother’s heart has been very heavy. She sent you away and returned to the company alone. My mother copied the photos taken at the Xiangjiang Wildlife Park into the computer. Then my mother reopened it one by one and looked at it. As I watched, my mother shed tears. Because, I saw the tears of humiliation in my son's eyes, and the face full of childishness was missing the sunshine, simplicity and heartless happiness that other children should have at this age. My child, There was a hint of melancholy and grievance in his eyes, and even his smile was forced. It was obvious that my son was unhappy, and my mother saw it in her eyes and felt pain in her heart. Suddenly, I began to wonder, maybe as a mother Chu Yi chose divorce without hesitation. This decision was wrong and selfish. It meant that half of the sky where my children grew up, the sky of love that should have been supported by father and mother together, collapsed. This half The lack of love in the sky is a regret that will accompany my son throughout his life. Even if the father is dead, others can believe that if the father is alive, he will love them very much. My son's father is still alive, but he has never given my son fatherly love. This void cannot be filled by anyone. Mom, I'm sorry for causing so much harm to your life because you chose the wrong life partner.
My son, before this, my mother always felt that she was fighting alone on the battlefield of fate for more than ten years. Today, for the first time, my mother deeply realized that, Mom is never alone. My son, you have been enduring this bitter fate with mom. And my relatives, it is because of you that you have supported mom to be strong today. Mom should be Proud to have you.
However, despite this, your mother still has some legitimate requirements for you, which must be put forward in your future life. Although your mother loves you very much, she is a little disappointed with your performance in some aspects. I hope that in the future, my son will correct his shortcomings in these areas and continue to improve, and carry forward his own strengths. My son will still be my mother’s best child and her final pride.
When you entered the zoo yesterday, do you know why your mother was suddenly so angry? Your mother asked you to help get mineral water, because she had to check the ticket and hold an umbrella in one hand, but you didn't I was willing to help my mother get it. At that time, my mother felt really sad. I felt that my child, within the scope of his ability, was not even willing to help his mother, let alone help others in the future? This is very disappointing. Behavior, if you grow up in the future, you will be a selfish person without caring about the feelings of others, then your mother will fail as a mother. You don’t know, in order to let you have a good time before going back during the summer vacation, your mother bought the most expensive ticket here and wanted you to have fun. She started planning to take you out two weeks ago, but it was delayed due to thunderstorms. Knowing that you were coming, Mom got up at 6 o'clock and queued up at the entrance to buy tickets. After buying the tickets, she waited at the entrance of the zoo for more than two hours before you arrived. Mom's cell phone happened to be broken, and she was so anxious. Mom I just need your help to get the mineral water, but you are not willing. Can mom not be disappointed? What makes mom disappointed is not that you didn’t help her get the mineral water, but that behind this incident, I saw my son It’s scary how selfish and indifferent his character is. I don’t want my children to become such people in the future. My beloved child, I don’t want you to be a very selfish person, do you know why? Because life is short, your mother will leave you one day, and you will also lose your mother’s love for you one day, but if Your mother has given you a heart full of sunshine, kindness and warmth. You will have many real friends in your future life. You will be loved by many people, and they will love you instead of your mother. A very selfish person, he His world will become narrower and narrower, he will have no real friends, and he will not get the love of others. Mom does not want you to live such a lonely and gloomy life. My child, in this world, my mother is just an ordinary woman who is extremely ordinary. Unlike other children, as soon as they are born, their parents have already paved a sunny road for them and are waiting for them to walk on it. Mom I can't give you anything, except to guide you to have a healthy and sunny character, and to give you an open-minded and gentle heart. Mom can only do so much. Mom believes that such a character will become your future life. The most important treasure on the road. This kind of wealth will accompany my son throughout his life and will eventually lead him to the other side of happiness.
Mom is a little tired after working all day and wants to take a nap before continuing to write this letter.
I fell asleep for a while and woke up soon. My mother has been under a lot of pressure at work recently and often suffers from insomnia. When she wakes up, she feels exhausted all over.
My son, time flies so fast. You are 12 years old in the blink of an eye. Everything that happened seems like yesterday, but my son has already grown up, and his body is gradually exuding a girlish charm. I still remember the way my son just fell to the ground. After more than four hours of excruciating pain, my mother gave birth to you. At that time, the doctor held you in front of me, a black ball, and said , you are a daughter. My mother was very tired at the time, so she didn’t feel too surprised. The little meatball seemed wrinkled and a bit ugly. It was only when grandma asked me to breastfeed you for the first time that I really realized, I became a mother, I really became a mother, and I had my own child. From that moment on, a primitive maternal love awakened in my heart. Before marriage, I imagined countless times what my child would be in the future. Look, what kind of life and environment should I give her, what kind of poetic but intellectual name should I give her? However, when you finally came into my life unexpectedly one day, my mother I feel like I am not prepared for anything, not even my home is crumbling.
My son, your father, and I eventually separated because of our incompatibility in personality and different values. My son didn’t understand anything at that time. I remember the day I divorced your father, my son was less than two years old. My son, you didn’t know that I was going to divorce your father. You happily followed us to the street, thinking that we were going to the market. At that time, my mother thought, maybe it is a good thing for my son to be separated from your father when he is so young. But now that I think about it, it’s a pity no matter what.
My child, in recent years, my mother has been too busy with work and has no time to take care of you. Before you were 7 years old, your grandma and grandpa were taking care of you. Every day when you work outside, your mother misses you so much. At that time, my mother would call home after work every day just to hear my son’s tender voice. Every time I heard my son calling “Mom” on the phone, I felt that the fatigue from working all day was gone. You The childish voice was full of delicateness, which made my mother's hard heart soften immediately. When she heard it, she felt very happy and satisfied. Until now, every time she hears my son calling her mother on the phone, she feels happy in her heart. It's touching. I can't describe the feeling of emotion. Because we are so far away from my hometown, it sometimes takes my mother a year to see my son. I feel sad every time I think of this incident. I want to stay with my son and watch every bit of my son’s growth and the tiny changes day by day. In the eyes of a mother, the smallest thing in her child’s body is Change is also the most surprising miracle in life in the mother's eyes. This kind of joy of witnessing life cannot be experienced unless you become a mother yourself. However, your mother's memory of your growth can only be fixed in the year before you were one year old. The day after you turned one, your mother went out to find a job and left you. After that, she could only talk to you on the phone. Listen to grandma and grandpa talking about all the details and changes in your life intermittently. Mom wanted to see all this with her own eyes. All of this will become the most precious memories in the lives of mother and you in the future. Children and parents are also a kind of fate, which is the most important fate in life. It would be great if I could accompany my son to grow up together. , this is a mother’s most basic wish, but for her, it has become a luxury wish. After you were 7 years old, your mother took you to your aunt's house because the aunt's house was closer to your mother. Mom can see my son at least once a week. Moreover, my mother was worried that grandma and grandpa would dote on you too much, and fear that overindulgence would make you too cowardly in the future, so she had no choice but to take you out. Can you understand mom's good intentions?
It has been 4 years since I came to my aunt's house. During these 4 years, I have seen many changes in my son. A lot of changes have happened in Mom's heart. Mom knows that your aunt and uncle are also very kind to you. But after all, it is not my own home. You can get along well with your aunt's family at such a young age. I can see that my son is very sensible. My son never makes any requests to his mother and aunt, and he never competes with his younger brother for games. Every time he wants to give me a gift, my son says no. My mother feels a little sad in her heart, and she can feel it. The careless and squeamish look on my son's face gradually disappeared. This was actually the happiest expression of a carefree child in his childhood. Mom felt sad when she saw this. On weekends, in order to cultivate my son's interest in reading, I often took you to the library to read. I found that my son also liked reading. But one day, I asked you why Do you like reading books? The answer you gave me was unexpected. You told your mother because when you first came to your aunt's house, you felt you had no friends and were bored, so you found some books to read, and slowly I just like reading books. My mother originally thought it was her interest that was cultivated by her taking you to the library. It turns out that it was the inner loneliness that made my daughter fall in love with reading. I think that at this age, my son should still have a carefree childhood, but he has already experienced loneliness. This kind of premature maturity is caused by your mother not giving you a happy family. My son should have his own thoughts. , this is what I hope for, and also what I don’t hope for.
On the one hand, I hope that my son will be carefree and never grow up. On the other hand, I hope that my son can grow up quickly and stand with his mother like an adult, and bear the ups and downs of life with her. You said, my mother is Isn’t it very contradictory?
Growth always comes to us irresistibly with unstoppable force. Especially since this year, I have seen my son begin to glow with youthful brilliance. The beautiful pimples that appear on his face from time to time and his growing height remind me that my son’s puberty is coming. My child, your youthful growth is a mixed blessing for your mother. My mother even started to get a little nervous. How should I get along with my daughter at this period? I feel that this is not just my daughter’s adolescence, but I, as a mother, am also facing a new test. My child, I am also a mother for the first time, and I am inexperienced, just like you are facing your own growth and clumsy youth for the first time. You also need to forgive and understand mom, my child, can we go and grow up together? You have begun to have your own obvious and strong personality, and I have begun to be very afraid that you will go in the wrong direction and bump around. We can even become quite antagonistic. Are we still mother and daughter? Will we be friends? This is what I am worried about.
Last year, there were two things that touched my mother’s heart deeply. The first thing was that last summer, my mother often took you and your brother to the swimming pool on weekends. Do you know why your mother likes to take you swimming? First, of course, swimming can exercise. The second reason is the selfish secret in my mother's heart. Today, my mother will tell you, because in the swimming pool, I feel that my son needs me very much and is very happy, like a cheerful little mermaid. , and every time when the water was deeper, he would rush to me and catch me. At that moment, I laughed at my son for being a fearful person. It was also at that moment that I felt that my son needed my mother's protection so much. Normally, my son would sometimes stay far away from me. I can't even touch you, it feels like I am very independent. Mom enjoys the time and feeling in the swimming pool and my son's vagina.
The second thing was that while my mother was doing laundry, she secretly ran to see what book my daughter was reading, and unexpectedly found tears falling from the corners of my son’s eyes. My mother felt a little curious and a little surprised. She quickly smiled and asked, "Baby, what book did you read that moved you so much?" My son quickly closed the book in embarrassment. Mom had already seen it. It was a Yilin magazine. , the article above said, "Father's love is a mountain," and my mother suddenly understood in her heart that the mountain of father's love in my son's heart has always been collapsed and blank. Mom sighed sadly in her heart. Mom hugged you tightly. Mom told you, my son, there are all kinds of regrets in people's lives, but everyone's regrets are different. It is a pity that you don't have father's love. But you have to know that there is at least one mother in this world who loves you with all her heart. No matter what setbacks you encounter in your life in the future, mother will be your eternal harbor. My aunt loves you too, my uncle loves you too, grandma and grandpa also love you. You just lack father's love. Some people are still orphans, and some people are still missing arms and legs. They all have to live strong. My child, you have to love yourself, you are no worse than anyone else, you are great. I want my children to know that although the road of life is not smooth, we still need to love life and always be grateful for life and the world. Be kind to everyone around you and be kind to yourself. Happiness is sometimes like perfume, you have to sprinkle it on yourself first, and then you can spread it to others.
Qianqian, my son, my mother remembers every laughter and every tear on your way of growing up. You don’t know, every weekend when I sleep next to you, my mother feels so happy and at ease. When she wakes up in the middle of the night, she will quietly turn on the light. Sometimes, without turning on the light, she will secretly watch by the moonlight outside the window. The way my son is sleeping is so cute. My mother wants to watch it for a long time. She feels very peaceful and very rich inside. It's like appreciating a work of art of your own. Mom even wonders, what kind of friends will my son meet in the future? Will he meet a man who loves her very much and cherishes my son as much as mom does? Look, mom is so ridiculous. . .
After writing this, my mother suddenly felt that she was old. Why was she so shaky when she was not even 40 years old? I talked about the front and forgot about the back. Yes, my mother is really old, because my daughter has grown up. In the near future, my daughter will love her mother as much as I love her. Because we truly love someone, we will become more and more trembling. We are afraid of your cold, afraid of your heat, afraid of your injury, afraid of your pain, afraid of your falling, and afraid that you have never fallen. You fly too high, afraid of you crying, afraid of you laughing, afraid of everything. All this is because you love someone too much. I remember sometimes I saw you wearing too few clothes in the winter, so I forced you to wear more clothes. You seemed to be very impatient and said to your mother, "Mom, why do I feel that you are becoming more and more like grandma?" Are you afraid of the cold or the heat? Yes, I am becoming more and more like my grandma. Because I love you like my grandma loves my mother.
Qianqian, my son, you are about to leave your mother and go to your grandma’s house to attend middle school. Your mother’s eyes will always be on you, no matter how far away you are. But I hope my daughter can fly by herself one day. Mom just has a wish. As long as my son grows up happily and lives healthily, mom will be satisfied.
Qianqian, my son, you will be the pride of my mother’s heart forever. Because of you, my mother’s life has become so rich, with these unprecedented softness and touches, and because of you. I was so moved that I became more patient and humble than ever before, and I realized how happy it is to have a person with whom I have flesh and blood who is always thinking about me in this world. Mom really wants to say sincerely, thank you, my beloved baby, you are the most precious gift God has given to mom.
My son, no matter when and where, no matter good or bad times, remember, mother loves you very much. Mom will always support you in my heart.
I hope that my son will continue to make progress, and my mother is willing to work hard with you and grow up together! I also want to strive to be a good mother. Just like I want my daughter to be a good daughter.
Baby!!! Let’s do our best together, okay? Remember, we are both the closest relatives and the best friends!
Part 2 of a letter written by a single mother to her daughter
Child, in the first sentence, I want to tell you that you, like everyone else, cannot choose your origin, including your parents. So don't complain, accept everything you have, and then think about how to live better.
There are many things that I cannot promise, such as giving you a complete family, such as giving you the best education. I cannot even promise not to kick you out of the house when you make me angry. Dear baby, the only thing I can promise is this: I will always love you.
But kid, don’t put undue pressure on me with this kind of love. I want you to understand that you are you and I am me. As an equally independent living individual, you belong only to you and not to your parents from the moment you are born. The crystallization of life and nature connected by an umbilical cord is not a relationship of attachment and possession. As a mother, I create conditions and provide support for you, but everything in the future is up to you.
Child, I will not allow you to blame me. No matter what choice I make, I will try to be responsible for you in my own way instead of yours. I repeat, you have no right to choose your parents. I heard that in traditional customs, children from single-parent families will receive more strange looks or inappropriate sympathy. Sorry, kid, I don't do that, and I hope you don't mind either. If you must be extreme, autistic, or neurotic, that's not my problem. You, like thousands of lives, fly to the earth like dandelion seeds, some fall on the soil, and some fall in the cracks of stones. That is the law of nature, without exception.
Okay, let me tell you again, the secret lies in how you choose to think about life.
I am a very special mother. This is your blessing or misfortune. Both results do not depend on me, but on yourself. Oh, child, it is wise to respect and accept your mother, and to make your own achievements with her support.
On many issues, my views are different from others. For example, I'm not sure whether I will get married again, but you'd better be mentally prepared - if I get married again, I must be looking for a suitable partner for myself, not for you. I will treat you as a divorced person. 's father. "Regarding it as having been released" seems to me to be a narrow and ridiculous requirement. It is not impossible, but it requires the accumulation of fate and life. My principle is, just respect and love me, as I will not force your will. Mimicking the tone in the skit, he said: "This is a very sensitive issue." ?I can't say how well I can handle it, but I will try my best. Everyone may get hurt in the process. This will be a headache for me. If you help me, I will ask him for help.
My child, you lived in a rural area in the early years of your life. This is not only because of the limitations of my living situation, but also because I don’t mind the shortcomings of that environment. I have always had a subjective view. I feel that the unspoken rules of the city can be learned quickly, but the will rooted in the earth requires a solid closeness to the soil. This view may not be completely correct, but at least it has been verified by myself. In any case, you will be happy because you can navigate between two states of life at an early age, find out the differences, and then form a sense of self.
You will find that there is no perfect life and environment in this world. In the countryside you will see poverty, narrow-mindedness, clumsiness and unawakened stupidity, while in the city you will see selfishness, hypocrisy, inexplicable indifference and clumsiness. Arrogant and rude. There has never been a paradise, neither here nor abroad. But if I can choose a spiritual habitat for you, then I pray that the Creator will give you the understanding to appreciate literature, music, painting, architecture, poetry and other arts, and give you the ability to have a deep dialogue with nature.
Child, education is a very subjective matter, so don’t expect me to train you in the way you like. I protect your nature to the greatest extent, but at the same time I believe that choice is important to a person's success. Especially when you change from a girl to a girl, or from a little boy to a teenager, I have to tie you up so that you don't grow crooked in this weird society, and you don't even have the possibility of being a chopping block. , let alone become a pillar. Therefore, what I am going to tell you below may not be reasonable, but you must pay attention to it and implement it. Don't challenge your mother, I want to tell you firmly - I will never be afraid of you crying, not afraid of you going hungry, not afraid of you running away from home.
You don’t have to like reading, but don’t read stupid books. Some words have no other purpose than making you even stupider if you are already stupid. I will forcefully assign reading tasks to you, even if you threaten me with suicide, it will be useless. I don't expect you to take up writing, but literature will give you valuable qualities.
It’s OK to flip through fast-food fashion magazines occasionally, but don’t read them like the Bible. You are not allowed to watch entertainment programs on TV for more than 30 minutes. If I find that you have five holes in your ears and speak like a host, I will immediately take you to your grandma's house and kneel on the washboard.
Of course you can fall in love freely, and you can even fall in love many times, but don’t be unrequited in love, let alone narcissistic, push yourself to the point of no return, use vanity as love, and stupidity as loyalty. I will never allow my children to shed tears in love and lose all self-esteem. Always believe in the fact that no matter how beautiful or talented you are, there will always be people of the opposite sex who are not interested in you. It's okay to confess your love to a man you like, but if he really doesn't like you, don't force him and just walk away. Always believe that you deserve the best man, but always learn to motivate yourself to become better and better.
Basically, I will not interfere with your choice of career, but it is best for you to engage in work that will increase your value as you get older, such as lawyers, marketing, etc. I am not opposed to engaging in art, but don’t take a tragic path. and pain route. If you must struggle behind closed doors, then please pack up and leave my house.
Sooner or later you will face the problem of love and sex. I am not a conservative moralist, but you are not an inclusive rag either. The separation of love and sex is not technically a problem, but you should still cherish your body, not everyone is qualified to enjoy it. Let me tell you from the painful experience of an old woman: After sleeping with a terrible, ridiculous, and stupid man, you have to spend 10 times the wisdom and courage to believe that you are not terrible, ridiculous, or stupid. At that time, I wished I could recite a spell to destroy the other person's body and eliminate all traces of it, so that I could have a clean memory.
No matter you are a daughter or a son, you must be focused after getting married. There will be more beautiful, richer and more charming people appearing in this world anytime and anywhere. Don’t make yourself look like a social butterfly or a conquest maniac. One-to-one relationships are not about moral tradition but about enjoying more focused love and sex. Of course, concentration cannot guarantee that you will have smooth sailing, but at least you won’t lose to low-level mistakes.
Son, if you are really unhappy after marriage, I don’t mind your divorce, but you’d better think clearly, don’t be afraid of the unknown, don’t be afraid of being too late, I tell you from an old woman’s happy experience: life It is never too late to start, and God will never open the door to despair to those who are willing.
You can boldly criticize society’s chronic ills, but don’t complain and take action, even if it’s trivial. This world is not for you, but it provides opportunities for everyone to realize the value of life. Of course I know that any great life will eventually return to dust, and life is nothing but a void. But I don’t want you to be like an old monk who has entered meditation at a young age, with a fairy-like temperament, or to fantasize about running to Walden Pond to fish like Thoreau all day long, and then advertise your brand image to the audience and say: I am low-key, I Indifferent, Thoreau and I have a heart-to-heart connection.
I will laugh out loud, my child! Only those who are high-profile enough are qualified to be low-key, and the sea after the majestic waves can show the beauty of calm. And Thoreau was a thinker, you are not. Pessoa was also a hermit, but he buried his head and took out a copy of "The Record of Panic". My kid, you can be a little ambitious, but don’t kid yourself. When I was your age, I aspired to make 100 million, or more, because I firmly believed that wealth makes a country strong. I’ve interviewed many entrepreneurs who have changed the way I think about money and business. There is no shortage of people in China who can stand by and give guidance. I hope you are an activist. It is best to be as wealthy as Bill Gates and create more wealth and positive value for society.
My child, when we can sit together and discuss this issue, I will be old, with a pen in my hand, writing words that will never be taken seriously. The ideal is a high ground that I cannot reach, and the fire is passed on in your hands. I have a lot of answers I want to tell you, but I want you to find the questions for yourself first. I'll be waiting for you in the study at any time, listening to your confusions and problems. I don't know when I fell asleep. When I went out, your steps were very light. Maybe you wouldn't notice that I was watching you tenderly from behind.
Part 3 of a letter written by a single mother to her daughter
No matter whether there are thorns or roses ahead, baby, I will take you with me, because I will be complete with you. , are you willing to go with me? In fact, you have been answering me, answering me happily.
You are the continuation of my life. You are the source of all my happiness and my motivation to move forward. You are all my hope. You control my happiness and pain. Without you I would Everything will be meaningless! No matter you are an angel or a naughty naughty boy, no matter whether your report card is all excellent or not, I still love you deeply, because----you are my dearest daughter , in my heart, I am the most beautiful and kind-hearted flower-like daughter!
I once separated from you to pursue what I called the sky, thinking that no matter what, we would still be a mother and daughter who love each other. I Gao I also overestimated your ability to survive. After only one year apart, I felt like I had experienced a century. I couldn't even feel the arrival and departure of spring... All the pain told me how wrong it was to be separated from you. Choice. At that time, I decided that I must be with you no matter what! I want to find the other half of my heart. I have tasted the feeling of separation of flesh and blood, so in the future, I will not be with you at any time or under any circumstances. Separate, don't lose you.
When we lived temporarily in a small dark room, you would happily listen to, sing, and dance after doing your homework every day. Pictures of your favorite stars were plastered all over the wall, and Jolin Tsai had the most. And your favorite brother Jay Chou, you painted a picture called Merry Christmas on the entire wooden door and wrote "WLCOME". Your favorite is the Snow White Barbie doll. You dress her up every day, and there is a bear. Baby, you should keep it at all times, because this bear was a gift from your sister when we separated. You happily cook and eat on the electric stove. Occasionally, you will make me angry because of your playfulness. As soon as I get home, you will While calling mom loudly, you gave me a passionate kiss... Those days when we, mother and daughter, depended on each other, baby, you were the highlight of my life. Many times when I was unhappy, I would be surprised by your happiness and strength. Life The changes in your life have not made you disappointed, but you are more sympathetic to other children who do not have maternal love. Baby, you are a happy, sunny, brave, smart and loving child... Later we moved twice, and every time you I can't bear to leave the room where I stayed with you, because there is a shadow of your growth in the room... I said that we will always have a home that we never have to move, and you stayed with me happily until you were 13 years old. Growing up into a healthy big child of 1.6 meters, I sometimes wonder if the girl next to me with long flowing hair and tight jeans is my little baby, is she the baby who sounds like a baby with a milky voice?
Baby, I want to separate from you temporarily. Mom wants to give you a home that you will never move away from again, but you don’t want to leave right away. I have discussed this issue with you countless times and asked for your opinion. , I don’t know what to do best. You told me happily that I would come to pick you up after you finish junior high school. You said that it was the first time in your life that you met such good teachers and classmates, and that you might never meet them again in the future. You also said that you like China. culture, you must take advantage of this stage to learn Chinese well, because you are afraid that you will not be able to adapt to the foreign environment immediately. Honey, are you annoying your mother? Do you feel that you have strong wings? I hope you will work hard in the direction of translation in the future. , it is best to be a simultaneous interpreter to realize the dream that my mother has not realized. You still answer that you want to be a star or a super girl. I am dizzy! I am dizzy! I am really dizzy!