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We are born ordinary and mediocre, and each of us is the most inconspicuous among the stars. Sometimes it's dull, sometimes it's shiny.
Most people follow the rules and think that it is the arrangement of fate and the law of nature. Day and night change, flowers bloom and fail, and tomorrow will not be any different.
The world is cruel. It will set everyone's starting point at a huge gap, making you lose completely from the beginning. But it is undeniable that the world is extremely gentle. It has given us too many opportunities to change something and leave the choice of the end point to ourselves.
The new issue of Qi Bao Shuo is discussing: "Is it a good word that he works really hard?" In the end, the opposing side won, thinking that "you are excellent" is a good word, and "you work really hard" means "You are stupid, so you can only show your hard work." But is this really the case?
No success is achieved overnight, and no excellence is taken for granted. Many people only see you smiling brightly in the sunshine, but never think of the figure behind you who lights a lamp and boils oil in countless dark nights.
Without the foundation laid by hard work day and night, that excellence and success would be in vain and vulnerable.
We say that "working really hard" denies "your excellence", so does "really excellent" ignore your efforts, and can the reason for excellence be attributed to talent?
I always believe in the meaning of hard work, because it is the only shortcut for most people to rewrite their own destiny. This road is full of thorns, but only through this road can I see the spring flowers blooming.
I have always thought that people from privileged families don’t have to work hard. They have many choices and success can come easily. The people who should really work hard are ordinary people who have to work hard for their dreams.
I thought it was wrong many times, but I was still wrong this time. Effort is never exclusive to certain people, everyone has the right to work hard.
The world is really ruthless. It tortures our innocent and immature people until they are dripping with blood and look disgusting. All we can do is try our best to fight it head-on. No matter what the world is like, we can proudly say that I have lived up to myself.
02
My friend Shanshan and I went to different schools in the same city after taking the college entrance examination. A year ago we agreed to visit each other here frequently, but more than a year has passed. , we never got to meet each other.
Yesterday, I asked her if she had time for us to have a meal together. She also wanted to meet with me, but there were various activities of the student union under the university waiting for her to plan and arrange, and she really couldn't spare the time to engage in such extravagant activities.
In my memory, she has always been a novice who knows nothing. She has been relying on others for so many years. But after going to college and having no acquaintances, she had to work hard to change herself and learn various skills. The girl who had always relied on others, after just one year of transformation, could finally give others a shoulder to rely on.
When she told me about her achievements in the past year, I felt that she was so unfamiliar today. Maybe I underestimated her too much. I never thought she would become so good. It turned out that in these days that she had never met, she had been working hard to move forward, giving a heavy blow to those who once looked down on her.
Zhang Haochen said: "The world is very chaotic, and you are the only one who is most reliable. Anyone can go, but you will always be with you. Time will not stop waiting for you. Every day we live now is The youngest day in the rest of my life. ”
I once thought that in college, everyone should study hard and move forward, for fear of falling behind others one day. But this is not the case. We once competed for first and second place, but now we have just passed the test. So I lay in bed all day, with my mobile phone as my companion, and playing games.
You might say that everyone around you is like this, and we are no different, so continuing to be decadent will not have any impact on yourself. But no matter how decadent you are, you still have to have a degree. The people around you can bring you comfort, and the only one who can save you is yourself.
Yes, you have not regressed, you are still where you are. But everyone is working hard to move forward, and you are the only one who is severely left behind. You don't have the complacency in front of you, and think that you are living a generous life, but you don't know that poetry and the distance can only be a misty fantasy for you.
03
We worked so hard to come to this world, not just to linger and be sad every day. We cried enough when we were born.
No one can go back alive while alive. So, don’t waste your time, believe, be lonely, love, hate and waste, dream and regret. You must believe that as long as you chase the sun, there will be no tomorrow that you cannot reach.
From beginning to end, I thought that I was a stupid person who had tried many things and was accustomed to failure. After every failure, I will be sad and regretful. But after I feel sad, I will clean up my mood and improve myself again.
There were many skills that I wanted to learn, but they were far more difficult than I expected. However, halfway through, I couldn't give up. When everyone was moving forward, I didn't want others to turn around and show me pity and sympathy, while I could only be alone and forget about their backs.
We don’t want to work hard because we are afraid of failure after working hard. The journey is bumpy and bumpy, and there will always be regrets when you stumble along the way. But if you don’t work hard to move forward, there will be no chance to stand up again.
People who work hard always shine, and their excellence becomes their greatest attraction. I rarely take the initiative to meet strangers, but there was a girl who really attracted me. She has been present in many competitions and prepared every game to perfection.
In the eyes of others, she has always been a hard-working girl who never wastes time. She has already achieved financial independence through part-time work and has excellent academic performance. She has expressed my sincere admiration to her more than once in my heart. I think boys would be ashamed of a girl like this!
I took the initiative to ask for her contact information. The purpose was very simple. I just wanted to make a hard-working and outstanding friend.
Life is elsewhere, but where is that elsewhere? Spending the same time, we don’t have time to appreciate flowers. Rabindranath Tagore said: Go ahead without stopping to pick flowers to preserve, because the flowers will naturally continue to bloom along the way.
04
Our youth is ignorant and confused, unable to see through the illusion woven by life. We, who have been immersed in time, don’t know what our future selves will look like. Everyone is born to be a painter. From the moment he is born, he begins to outline his life. Whether it is black and white or color painting, it is a unique work of art in the world.
Instead of being hesitant and confused, it is better to do everything down-to-earth from now on, so that your youth will leave no regrets. Let yourself go further and further on the road to excellence. One day in the future, when you look back, you will still be able to see the self that worked so hard.
I have some personal humble opinions, and I don’t ask everyone to follow them, but if I can give you one more day to improve and improve, it will be a pleasure.
1. Weigh the pros and cons and make a good choice.
Frost wrote in "The Road Not Taken": "There are two roads in the forest. You can only take one and miss the other." When we were young, our mother taught us how to choose. You can only choose one toy or snack. When we grow up, life tells us: You can’t have your cake and eat it too. At this time, we cannot use monetary benefits to measure its value. The only yardstick is ourselves. You can't follow suit and make the same choice as them. Everyone has to go their own way, and the one that suits them is the best.
2. Persevere through thick and thin.
Wang Guozhen once said: "Since you have chosen a distant place, you will only have to live through ups and downs." If you decide to do something, do it with all your heart, and don't complain. The phoenix tree will not yield to the wind and rain, and you have to endure it until the spring comes. Open and walk to the bright lights. Work hard to get better, and then look at the vastness of the world.
3. Stay with yourself and enjoy solitude.
Lu Sihao said: "Children who want to reach for the stars, loneliness is a required course for us. I am not afraid that I will not be good if I work hard. I am just afraid that people who are better than me will work harder than me." Maybe you are now I often feel alone and have nothing to rely on. But solitude is always a plus, you won't be disturbed by trivial matters or distracted by other people. The best period of appreciation is when you are alone. Many years later, you will be grateful for the lonely self you once were. Your loneliness is glorious even though it is a failure.
4. Be yourself and let others comment.
Zhang Haochen said: "If you still care about what others say about you, then you must also subconsciously agree with what others say about you. Only when you are truly strong can you not be afraid of any speech." Moving forward Along the way, we will all receive praise and ridicule, just because your progress makes them restless. The best answer is to not let yourself lose your true colors in the noise.
5. Plan well and cherish your time.
Lin Qingxuan said: "Although there will be a new sun tomorrow, there will never be the sun today." Life is short, and we have no time to squander it. We must plan well and make good use of trivial time. Make a little progress every day and make the most of every inch of your time.
Excellent people are still working hard, so why do you have the right to be decadent? Everyone around you is moving forward, so what reason do you have to stop where you are. I hope we can all live up to our time and ourselves.