1880, my grandfather Charles Robertson grew up on a farm in Kansas. He wants to move to Terry, India, to see what he can do in this border colony. So he and his wife Harriet packed their things, put them in an open carriage, and took their children to the unknown future. They settled on the banks of the Simalon River. This place is now northeast Oklahoma. My grandfather built a wooden house and fenced his land. Soon, he borrowed some money and opened a small shop in this small village, which is now Dulsha, Oklahoma.
My grandmother Harriet leads a hard life. She has to take care of nine children. She is in poor health and life is very inconvenient. She supplemented the original wooden house with old newspapers. There are no doctors there. There is only one church school with only one classroom for children to learn. Hard life, debt, cold winter and hot summer are all their portrayal-but in terms of cutting-edge living standards, Charles Robertson succeeded. Harriet lived to see her husband become a successful and respected resident, her children happily married, and Indian Terry Terry became a state of the federal government.
The development of these states in the federal government is not only due to the foresight of people like Charles Robertson, who opened up new horizons and expanded their territory, but also because these brave wives, like Harriet, bravely tried new opportunities. These women believe in God, their husbands and themselves. They face danger, hardship, disease and death. When they go west, do they miss the comfortable home they left? Do you regret living without friends, parents, wealth and want, fear and toil? If they have no regrets, then they are inhuman.
But that's all. Pioneer ladies followed their husbands to these desolate areas and wrote a glorious page in American history. They left their children a huge legacy, including a land, a city, a vast land, and a glorious tradition of indomitable courage and unshakable confidence.
A wife who wants her husband to succeed must carry forward the industrious spirit of our pioneers. A wife must be willing to let her husband do what he likes best, even if it is risky. No matter what setbacks she encounters, she must have the courage to trust her husband and support him fearlessly. Those who can play their initiative and creativity regardless of safety will not shrink back for other reasons.
Now, he is an ordinary middle-aged man who is tired of life. He repairs his car in his spare time. He has a depressed face, a stomach ulcer and nothing else. Life just passed. He spent most of his life suppressing his dissatisfaction with his work. He has no real interest in his work, no enthusiasm, and no ambition to finish it-all because his wife is unwilling to give him a chance to try.
For example, a man I know has worked in a position he doesn't like all his life just because his wife would rather sacrifice any cost to maintain a stable life.
He started as a bookkeeper, but later he earned enough money to open his own garage. Then he got married; His wife thinks he'd better not resign before they buy a house. When they have a house, they will have their first child. The man's wife made him feel how difficult it was to start his own business-so the days passed. His salary is enough for family expenses, and insurance money can be used to pay for children's education. Is it necessary to start your own business? That's ridiculous! What if I fail? He may lose his seniority in the company, his company's pension, sickness allowance, and medium-fixed salary. So the man lost the opportunity to start a business because his wife didn't want to give him a chance to try.
Many great achievements may be due to selfless wives' willingness to try an opportunity and give up material comforts, so their husbands can engage in jobs that suit their personalities. The Salvation Army is not only a living monument of its great founder, William Bu, but also a living monument of William's dearest wife, Catherine Booth, because she devoted so much energy to promoting this sport.
William Bu regards missionary work as his first duty. He preached to the poor, disabled and homeless in the slums of London. He, his wife and children all endured cold, hunger and ridicule. He tried to help the poor at the expense of his health. His wife has been thin since she was a child. Catherine Booth suffers from scoliosis and must use the spine. She is still threatened by lung disease. In his later years, he suffered from cancer. Before she died, she said, "I never knew that one day I wouldn't live in pain."
However, this thin and sick woman not only has to cook, wash clothes and take care of their eight children, but also helps her husband to make their love efforts for people poorer than herself. She also preached. In the evening, after a tired day, she will go to the slums to help those who are hungry, sick or in trouble. She prepares meals for unmarried girls who are pregnant with illegitimate children and looks for a place to live. She talks to thieves, tramps and prostitutes.
You must think (you don't think so) that Catherine Booth would want to leave this miserable place if given the right opportunity. This opportunity has happened before. Once a pastor's meeting was moved by Booth's sincerity and left him a comfortable preaching job in a relatively rich area-so that he could put down his job in a slum. They neglected William's wife. Catherine Booth immediately stood up and shouted, "No! Don't! "
Thanks to her fearless and firm confidence, the Salvation Army is now working everywhere. I really hope Catherine can live longer and see the results she has paid for her husband. I hope she knows now that at William Bu's funeral, when his coffin passed by, the streets of London were crowded with more than 65,000 people to pay tribute to him. The mayor of London also saw him off at his funeral. The European Court of Justice and the President of the United States also sent wreaths. Behind his coffin, 5000 young Salvation Army followed, praising their great leader. I'd rather believe that Catherine already knows everything-this thin woman completely ignored her own safety and joined her husband's great dedication.
What is exciting, however, is that this type of wife seems to be only a minority. In a recent survey by Cheval Brewing Company, 6,000 housewives of all ages were interviewed. One of the questions asks, if the husband is engaged in a stable job that he doesn't like very much, and wants to transfer to another job that is not stable and has a lower salary, but can make him happy, will the wives agree? Only 25% of the wives surveyed said that they would not let their husbands change careers. ) I used to work for a man named Charles Reynolds, who was the financial assistant of a big oil company in Dulsa, Oklahoma. He is a lively, capable and likable young man. It seems that he will certainly be able to climb up smoothly. He has a wife, three children and a bright future.
In his spare time, Charles Reynolds likes painting. Many of his landscape paintings are hung on the wall of the company office. Sometimes he also sells paintings to people outside the company.
Although Mr Reynolds likes his job. But he is more eager to have more time to paint. He has always liked Taoos, New Mexico, which is an artist's paradise. He wants to give up his job and move there permanently. When he talked to his wife Ruth about it, she said, "Great! We can sell everything here and open an art shop in Taoos. We can also sell picture frames. I'll look at the shop and you can draw pictures. I believe we can succeed. "
Thanks to his wife's enthusiastic encouragement, Charles Reynolds made up his mind to quit his job and concentrate on painting. The whole family has the spirit of entrepreneurship, and little Charles will also help look after the store after school. He painted very well and eventually became one of the most successful painters in southwest China. His works have been exhibited all over America; He has also held solo exhibitions in many galleries. Now, he is the chairman of the Aston Artists Association; He also built his own gallery and studio in the famous Zit Carson Street in Taoos, New Mexico. This is all because he and his wife have the courage to try an opportunity. The success of this adventure is not surprising-there is a good chance of winning. As General Van Gogh often said to his troops before the war, "God favors those who are brave and strong."
God does favor a brave and strong heart. If we want our husbands to succeed in what they think is the most successful job, we should encourage them to try every opportunity-and have enough courage to overcome the crisis.
Yes, the real meaning of success lies in finding what you love and working hard-you must disregard your own safety and happiness on the way to struggle, and sometimes this is the only way to get what we really want.
Robert louis stevenson said, "God, please give me a young man who must be brave enough to do stupid things in others' minds."
Shakespeare put it this way: "Doubt is the rebel in our hearts. Because we are afraid to pursue, we will lose what we can usually win. "
-Quoted from The Complete Works of the Advantages of Human Nature by Yanbian People's Publishing House.