When reading the book "Resisting Pressure-The Law of Rebirth in Adversity", I thought of Moses and Exodus hopelessly, which surprised me. Perhaps it is the persistence of the former between the lines, or perhaps it is the deep-rooted echo of the latter. In a word, this seemingly pragmatic skill book, Resisting Pressure, seems destined to be the best footnote of Exodus in my heart.
It is said that Zen is "the flowering of China, the result of Japanese". Although I will be firmly unconvinced now and in the future, I have to admit that this small area, high population density and competitive pressure far exceed my imagination are as unyielding and persistent as an ascetic, which is really impressive. Just like this stress-resistant book divides elites into "stone type" and "glass type", it doesn't say some "soft words of Wu Nong" to comfort your past like ordinary soul books, but asks you to face up to your responsibilities and only take the straight ones, not the curved ones. There is a Japanese stubborn character here, but isn't this an admirable courage?
The author Hiroshi Hisaishi is the principal of the Japanese School of Positive Psychology. I don't know where this "positive psychology school" is, but I have to feel that our neighbors can take everything as a project so seriously. Hisaishi was born in 1972. Once worked for Procter & Gamble, the world's largest consumer goods company, and has been the head of cosmetics market, responsible for brand management and product development in Japan and overseas. It can be said that it is not easy, and this book is less suspected of "empty talk".
In fact, whether it's Japanese or China, whether it's Beishangguang or the second or third line, all of us face helplessness, embarrassment, anger, unwillingness and sadness every day ... No one can be independent of pressure forever, and pressure is like the air around us, always with us. We are like wandering Israelis under Pharaoh's rule, and everyone is thinking about how to stage their own exodus. Fortunately, this book is not general, but lists specific skills. Maybe this book will prove every step of our future.
Even though the Hebrews have the fate of God's chosen people, they are still not perfect and have many shortcomings. In particular, even if God led them through the Red Sea War, saved them from the greatest disaster, and made them March on Mount Sinai, we will see that people's natural negative emotions still appear on them. The unbelief of the Israelites made them complain when they encountered difficulties, which made God extremely sad and angered God. Their trip to Sinai was a road of complaint and they had to suffer numerous disasters.
Exodus is basically a myth, and people in modern society may disdain it, but the shortcomings of human nature mentioned in it have not changed for thousands of years. As the book "Resist Stress" says, the experience of failure will appear repeatedly in our life and will never stop. In fact, negative emotions are not the key. The key is how we treat, treat and deal with these emotions.
In this respect, the better part of this book lies in the emphasis on consciousness training, which emphasizes that when we have negative emotions, we must first train ourselves to be aware and know what kind of adverse reactions our body, mind and emotions will cause. Then introduce ways to divert our attention. This book introduces four methods: exercise, breathing, listening to music and writing. These methods are all very good, and I am doing them all. You can try.
The book says: "There is a distance between stimulation and reaction, and the key to growth and happiness lies in how to use this distance." There is a deep feeling in reading these years that methodology has gradually dominated reading, and mind mapping has gradually replaced perceptual knowledge. In fact, a lot of words will have some flavor if you taste them carefully. Just like this sentence in this book, if you think about it carefully, the so-called emotional intelligence is just a respite. The distance between stimulus and reaction is the Dojo to cultivate EQ.
Here, this book is like a psychology book. The author demonstrates that most of the wrong thinking patterns that can cause negative emotions are gradually deepened because of painful experiences. For example, when I was a child, I often heard my parents' repeated nagging at home and compared me with other children. After school, I am often compared with other students. When I enter the society, I will unfortunately encounter failure and so on. This will constantly strengthen our distorted thinking mode. There are many such situations listed in the book, and I believe everyone will nod when they read it.
The book does not stop at emotional reasons, but puts forward three methods. First, get rid of it. If you think what it says is incorrect, remove it. The second is acceptance. If you think its content is correct, accept it. The third is training, which is also the method we use the most. When what it says is not 100% correct or 100% wrong, we should ask ourselves how to tame it and live in harmony with it. These methods are followed by detailed exercises, as if giving formulas, and then the specific problem-solving process. This book is very thoughtful.
When the red sea is blocked, there is no way to heaven and no way to enter the ground. The division of the Red Sea is not a myth, but a symbol. Most people will take the voice of mindset as their own voice, because they don't notice the existence of mindset at all. In fact, those are just emotions caused by thoughts caused by ways of thinking. Only by breaking this stereotype can we split the seemingly unbearable pressure and go where we want to go.
There is a story in Exodus that the Lord will punish Pharaoh and send ten plagues in a row until the Egyptians yield, and command the Israelites to keep the Passover, and ask them to wipe the blood of the lamb on the doorpost, so that God's judgment will go beyond the house of Israel and not fall on them. People who don't have confidence in themselves won't do such a thing, because they think their piety is illusory in the face of life and death, and those who don't have the confidence to persist miss a rare opportunity to escape.
Self-confidence is an important part of stress resistance. Even if you have God's help, but you didn't cultivate self-confidence through science and daub the blood of lamb on the door of your heart, we still can't avoid the end of being destroyed by stress. This part is extremely rich in content. For example, ① make achievements in your proud field or with your own skills; ② Enhance self-efficacy through successful experience; (3) learning from role models; (4) Imitate the operation skills of superiors or successful people; ⑤ There are friends and close people around to give encouragement; 6. When you feel uneasy, consciously change your mood and so on. In this respect, it is worth mentioning that, just as Japanese Zen emphasizes "seeing the big from the small" and "seeing the world from a leaf", the author tries to choose some seemingly even "naive" practices when introducing methods. This is not that the author's eyes are not high enough, but a simple reward, which makes people kind and respectful.
In addition, this part also puts forward the concept of "self-efficacy", which refers to our trust in the success rate of implementing a certain goal and behavior. The core is to experience every little thing, to achieve every small goal, and to accumulate trust in yourself bit by bit. This accumulation also reflects the unique cultural character of "Tao is a craftsman" in Japan.
From Egypt to Canaan, you don't have to go through the Red Sea. Why does God lead his people like this? In fact, this is to hone their character and enhance their confidence and advantages. Even in contemporary society, giving full play to one's own advantages is still the core fighting force against pressure. A person who completely depends on outsiders for help and comfort will one day be under pressure. The "instrumental" features of this book are fully demonstrated in this chapter:
The book introduces the "VIS-IS" tool, which is divided into 6 virtues and 24 "personality advantages". With this self-diagnosis tool, you can measure your character strengths. This paper introduces the "Gallup Advantage Identifier" developed by Donald, a psychologist and former CEO of Lop Company in the United States. Clifton is the most widely used advantage diagnosis tool for business people all over the world. It is mainly composed of three or four topics about talents, including 177 topic. Using these advantages, we can form our own advantages. Also introduced the British positive psychologist Alex? The main feature of "Realization 2" developed by lin li is to analyze and understand self-weakness from multiple angles.
What is your greatest achievement? What do you like best about yourself? What is the happiest thing you have ever done? When will I feel "this is who I really am"? When is your best moment? These wonderful questions help us to build a thinking structure of "focusing on advantages" and "paying attention to development", and gradually realize that we are not worthless, and we are not always poor in the face of pressure, which shows that the thinking of the strong is helpful to those who help themselves.
Moses was ordered by God to lead the enslaved Hebrews to escape from ancient Egypt and go to the fertile land-Canaan. After more than 40 years of hard work, he died when he was about to reach his destination, but he still had no regrets. If only because of his personal belief in God, he may not be able to cross the Red Sea. He is a man with strong spiritual backing.
In the face of pressure, when you realize that if you collapse, many important people will be involved in your heart. In history and reality, many originally cowardly people have become warriors. As the book says, others are crucial to self-happiness, and the intimate relationship between people is the source of life satisfaction and happiness. No matter family, friends, colleagues, teachers, etc. Are your precious backing, that is, the theory of "the most important five people" and the theory of "elastic muscles" that the author has always emphasized. With spiritual backing, you can have spiritual injection when you encounter difficulties, and someone can discuss the solution to the problem together.
This book also studies the mystery of the longevity of the elderly in Okinawa. The biggest secret of longevity lies in "staying with family" and "finding like-minded people". Many psychologists have conducted such research. Long-term loneliness will send a signal to the brain and command the body to die, because the brain thinks that you "have no meaning to exist." Nowadays, some unconventional people on the Internet always play the pipa and think that living for others is a kind of cowardice and humbleness. Don't you know that true people of righteousness and courage are all in it, and they will live forever for others.
The story of Exodus is also famous for the Ten Commandments of God, which is actually a contract between God and man. Of course, because of Israel's crimes, Moses broke the original inscription and reset it. In any case, making a Covenant is ostensibly a constraint, and more is to ask people to learn to be grateful. When you get help from others and are in good shape, you will be grateful. This kind of gratitude can improve happiness, restrain stress and reduce anxiety. Gratitude is not for others, but for your own happiness.
The methods in the book continue the previous style-some are sprouting, such as three ways to enhance gratitude:
1, write a gratitude diary: ① think about today's good things before going to bed; (2) keep good things in a diary; (3) Think as much as possible about why such a good thing happened; Then close the diary with gratitude.
2. Think of three good things: ① Looking back on the day, think of three good things; 2 list the things that are "worthy of gratitude" and "make people feel lucky"; (3) think about the reasons why things go smoothly.
3. Write a thank-you letter: ① Find out those who have taken care of themselves and helped themselves, but didn't thank them; (2) write to those people to express their gratitude; (3) Recall how much warmth and kindness those people gave themselves; (4) Tell how those warmth and kindness have affected your life; (5) also think about what kind of situation you would be now without those people; ⑥ Attributes can be handed in in person, mailed or collected.
I don't laugh at these methods. I think these methods are more like a small Covenant for myself, which is very beautiful.
As an anti-stress book, I think this chapter should be one of the "stereotyped writing". You can think it's a cliche, or you can think it's chicken soup, but no one likes it. It seems that no one wants to learn wisdom from pain, because the taste of pain is really bitter. Even though adversity often hides valuable wisdom to promote self-growth and help you overcome difficulties, we would rather miss it.
This part is more about the openness of consciousness. We don't hate pain, and we don't need gratitude. What we need is to face it. What we need is objective study, as if Moses would eventually lead his people out of Egypt. Those servitude and pain made Moses find faith, let Moses know patience, and filled Moses with wisdom. In this sense, I think the word "rebirth in adversity" in the subtitle of this book really seems to be the best annotation to Exodus.
Moses is long gone, but as you can see, Moses walked out of Egypt step by step. ...
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