When I was very young, my parents were on a business trip to work. I always leaned against the window and looked at the distance, thinking that distant parents could suddenly appear in my field of vision. Or when I have nothing to do, I always find a comfortable place to lie down in the Woods near my door, watching the white clouds floating in the sky, brewing poems and imagining the future and the distance.
I have always known that there is a place called home in the distance-that is the place we yearn for and the habitat of our hearts. But I don't know where it comes from and why it affects us so strongly. Until one day I was with a 4-year-old (M: You didn't tidy up your toys just now, and my mother got angry. Mom, if you are angry with me again, I will go back to my own home. Where is your home? S: Right there! I was shocked by the child's words. It turns out that children have another home in their nature. Not only children, but each of us-suddenly found home there-in everyone's mind, it is not acquired, but a complex deeply rooted in the collective subconscious, or our self-nature calls us through the complex.
There is always a place for us to go back. Apart from birth, illness and death, besides money, desire and rights, besides the basic needs of survival and security, we also have spiritual needs and self-realization needs. And the power that leads us to explore the depths of the spirit is our need for self-belonging.
We are always on the road. We are always unable to settle down, always breaking and rebuilding. We said: don't live in front of us, we still have poetry and distance. If the distance is the garden of our soul, what is poetry? She is a fragment of our mind, wandering in the ocean of consciousness and unconsciousness, connecting consciousness and unconsciousness. Let those who are burdened by the mask of consciousness find their true selves in the instant silence. It also makes those who indulge in the unconscious ocean look up and see the sunshine of reality. And those fragments that wander in our hearts and affect our mood and life are our complex. It is an independent existence and autonomy, which affects our conscious life in its unique way. In reality, many people are entangled in material and poetry and distance, losing balance between reality and dreams, or completely agreeing with their personality masks and being swallowed up by a complex; Or appear completely detached and world-weary, and live a so-called hermit life, which is also the expression of another kind of complex-completely occupied by poetry and distant complex, unable to connect with reality, but unaware that consciousness and unconsciousness need a balance, and birth and entry into the WTO also need a balance, and this balance is the root leading to our self-nature and the source of practice.
Jung said, "The complex is a prototype and has great power. It can control the conscious self and become the master of the home of self. If the plot of self-identity is completely owned by complex, there will be all kinds of self-loss. But through conscious efforts, the complex can be suppressed to a certain extent. " But the complex will not be completely eliminated, it is a part of our hearts. The root of our spiritual growth is to cultivate good self-cognitive ability-that is, to see the complexity clearly, then know why, know what it is, and be able to live in the middle, be impartial and stick to both ends of it.
Many overseas Chinese who have drifted overseas in their early years will have a deep homesickness when they are older. What kind of complex is yearning for hometown and attachment to soil? "Complexity always includes memories of fears, needs and insights that have never really been grasped and controlled, and constantly disturbs the life of consciousness in a harmful way." Many overseas Chinese who drifted overseas in their early years left their homes and left in a hurry without saying goodbye. This complex is deposited in the mind and will emerge when the consciousness is relaxed. Let us have an inexplicable emotion that affects our existing life. "Complexity comes from emotional trauma and influence and moral conflict." Those unfinished things that were not handled well in the early years have become a part of our complex. The keynote content of emotion is based on complex, which is the core of emotion and the gathering center of energy. It will be presented when it is needed, and it will erupt when it is unbearable. " When those overseas Chinese are overwhelmed by the plot energy, they will go back to their hometown in Wan Li to find their roots, or do something for the people in their hometown in their own way. These are all caused by complex, which is an expression when their complex breaks out.
If poetry and distance are complex in the prototype sense, then the homesickness wandering complex is complex in the realistic sense. And these complexes constitute an inseparable part of our personality, allowing us to grow into a unique self in different ways. I tried to go back to that ancient time and imagine those ancestors snuggling up in caves to keep warm, hungry and cold. What kind of wisdom they have gained through their own efforts in the communication with the four seasons of heaven and earth! In the long history, not only so many precious material wealth, but also those priceless spiritual wealth have been left to future generations. These spiritual wealth are inherited by us in the form of prototypes and appear in our lives. When we ignore it, it will remind us in its unique way-the language or artistic expression of dreams, positive imagination and so on. In this way, we can face up to their existence and follow their guidance to return to our journey of pursuing self. As the carrier of these archetypes, the complex needs to be seen-we can't change the complex, but welcome it, accept it and become a part of enriching our overall personality characteristics. Let it become a light on our own journey and lead us on the right path.
I worked and studied abroad for several years. When I was abroad, I was very homesick. I overheard a song from my hometown and met an old Chinese-speaking friend on the road, which made me cry. Young people's emotions are easily tempted, but at that time I was completely possessed by the complex and couldn't stand the yearning for my hometown, so I came back. But when I come back, I am always attracted by the distance, always want to leave, always want to leave. So I thought, where is that distance? Is it really a specific place? Now I know, no, it is the place in our hearts that makes us feel at ease forever, called home.
It is precisely because of the existence of complex that I know that missing is a beautiful thing and that my home is waiting for me not far away as long as I want to. Complexity exists in many ways, both positive and negative. As Zhang Ailing said, "Life is a gorgeous robe covered with lice." Those lice are our complex, which is there and exists with our bodies in a * * * * way. "Complex hinders the further development of individuals to a certain extent, and the creativity of life can only be presented when the complex is expressed. And integrate it into a part of the mind. " We should be aware of it, accept it, integrate it and transform it.
When we face the complex, if we don't want to be owned, we should keep a habit of self-cognition, and we should be able to perceive it, appease it and get along with it before it comes. Generally speaking, the ego has four attitudes towards complexity. The first is completely unconscious, and there is no awareness complex at all. This kind of person is completely covered by a personality mask and has lost himself. For example, too many people have lost themselves in the oppression of life. The second is partial or total self-identity. Such people vaguely know themselves and know how to explore themselves, but they can't find the way forward, and they are captured by desire and reality from time to time. He is a swing, and he knows what it is but he doesn't know why. The third is the complex of projecting self. When a person can't recognize the complex of self, he will project what he has but can't get or the weakness in his personality to others around him or others without knowing it. Such as the projection of visitors to psychological counselors or groupies, the projection of religious masters, etc. Fourth, when we have good awareness and control, when the complex appears and attacks in an emotional way, we can distinguish it well, know where it comes from and where it is going, and also know how to guide the complex in our own unique way, so that it can help us grow, lead us and be more self-sufficient. Jung said, "having a complex is not necessarily a shortcoming, but an unabsorbed situation or a new possibility." Therefore, we should make good use of complexity and turn it into a new possibility.
In the dream, we walk in the garden where self and self grow harmoniously, on a poetic board. In reality, we wear different masks and wander in the high concrete wall with intertwined desires. When we are exhausted in reality, we should also take a nap in our spiritual garden, and poetry is the best expression of our unconsciousness. Whether we return or leave, we should always know and be firm in our new direction. If we just follow the complex at the moment it appears, we will always be occupied by it, whether in a foreign country or at home. There is no need to make ourselves aware and aware of this complex, and we will be negatively affected and influenced by it. If the complex comes, we look at it, pat it on the shoulder like old friends and tell it: you are here, let's sit together. Then laugh together-once the accepted complex is seen, it will have less and less influence on us. We will walk more and more easily and more comfortably.
Easier said than done, each of us is bound by complexity in the process of growing up, so that we can't be ourselves in the true sense. And the distance is not only home, but also the freedom we long for. The sky of the soul is vast, so we should open our eyes with wisdom to light up our life. Let us have the courage to discover and face it, to become an alchemist of the soul in life, to save the essence from the bad, and to wash our hearts and remove dust. Let the distance become our real post agent, and heal others with the experience of being injured in our life journey. Become an injured healer.