You see, after Juxianzhuang was destroyed by Xiao Feng, Youtan lived a life full of hatred and displacement. There is no time to think about what a normal young man should think. Even if there are beautiful women among the refugees, it is not easy to see them. When you found Xiao Feng and tried to assassinate him, he saw such a beautiful, lively and intelligent woman. Just looks, isn't it enough love? Face value is omnipotent.
As you said, he is a masochist, but loving masochism is his business. A Zi didn't force him to be abused, did he? I know what you mean. You think he is so kind to A Zi, and A Zi is so cruel, inhuman and unfair.
There is a misunderstanding in psychology called the anti-golden principle. In other words, how do you treat others, others have to treat you. Especially in love, many people are troubled by this. Not exactly.
Instead, you should follow the golden rule: treat others as you want them to treat you.
In this friendship, one is willing to fight and the other is willing to suffer. Who is to blame?