There are three critical periods for children’s growth, namely: before the age of three, before the age of nine and after the age of 13. These three growth stages of children are critical periods for parents to educate their children.
As far as the child is before the age of three, the child is in the toddler stage before the age of three. This stage is the first critical period of a child's growth. Many young parents leave their children in the care of their grandparents after their children are born. Little do they know that the lack of parental education during the child's first critical period of growth will affect the child's life. Grandparents are our previous generation, and their ideas and education methods have lagged far behind the needs of modern society. Improper education of children will affect their future growth.
When I was working in a kindergarten, I found an obvious pattern among the many children in the kindergarten. The children raised by grandparents were not as good as the children raised by their parents in terms of living habits and behavioral habits. After investigation, we found that the parents work outside the home for a long time and spend too little time with their children. The grandparents are too pampered and doted on the children, resulting in the children being free and unorganized and without a sense of rules. The personality of some children has also been affected. Some children are introverted, timid, not good at playing with children, and not good at participating in group activities.
Because I see too many children under the management of grandparents, which affects their growth. Therefore, for my own child, I will personally take him with him since childhood, observe the child's needs, and provide better education while meeting the child's needs, so as not to let him lose at the starting line and let him have freedom. Be happy and establish a good sense of rules.
When a child reaches the age of nine, it is the second critical period of life growth. Children in this period have strong imitation abilities. They often see what the children around them are doing and learn to do it themselves. At this time, parents play a key role. The children are at home, carefully observing their children's behavior, and setting an example, so that the children can follow their own example. Serve as a role model to prevent your own bad behavior from affecting your children.
For example, a colleague of mine has a child in the second grade of elementary school. Because she and her husband often quarrel in front of the child at home, the child has a sense of fear about life and has conflicts with classmates. How to deal with it, I will imitate my parents, quarrel with my classmates, and sometimes violently harm my classmates. If the child continues like this for a long time, it will be harmful to the child's growth.
After a child turns thirteen, it is the third critical period for a child’s growth. At this time, the child has entered junior high school, and most children will have a rebellious mentality. If the child cannot be guided in time, the child can easily go astray. . For example: My brother's child fell in love with online games after entering junior high school. Every time my sister-in-law said something about him, he would always confront my brother and sister-in-law. Later, my sister-in-law controlled his time on the Internet and met his short-term requirements, and he gradually corrected himself. Spend more time studying, and your grades will improve by leaps and bounds.
If you choose to pamper your child during this period, the child will develop with his or her own personality. A bad personality will inhibit the child's growth. Therefore, parents cannot ignore the children who are growing up during this period.
Every critical period of a child’s growth is inseparable from parents’ careful education. In order for children to grow up healthily and happily, parents should spend more time with their children, seize the critical period of their children, and provide timely education. guidance.