A is my hometown in this city. He is a few years older than me, dreaming of "stars" and wandering in a foreign land. To tell you the truth, I don't think his looks are outstanding. Maybe his acting is ok. Because the family entrusted to take care of each other, we took time to have a meal together. It wasn't lively at first. Like many tramps, he is introverted and profound. Only when he is drunk will he open his mouth and tell stories about the achievements of Wang, Zhao, Dapeng and Ada. His heart is full of expectation and a little sadness. I advised him that he was not young, so why insist aimlessly? He might as well take another road. At that moment, he was suddenly sober and firm, and said two words that have impressed me so far. One sentence is "some people's dreams have come true, others have not, but can you say that they are not dreams?" Another sentence is "some people succeed after a period of persistence;" Long-term persistence is a late bloomer. "
After careful reflection, I always feel that these words are correct and impeccable, but there seems to be something wrong. Indeed, only by sticking to the end will the dream come true. But the question is, will your dream come true if you persist? Are those who ask themselves to stick to it and make their dreams come true really out of love or out of persistence?
Just like a soldier who dreams of becoming a general, not everyone can become a general, but he can become a good soldier through hard work. Suppose a soldier's dream is to become a general, then the dream is an illusion.
I don't know if there are people around you who are determined to succeed, but they are lost in the trap of fantasy and can't get out.
B comes from the countryside, and his family is not very rich, but he grew up under the expectation and care of his parents, with excellent academic performance and excellent talent performance, and won many honors. He is the pride of his family, the teacher's favorite pupil and an example to his neighbors. After graduating from college, I successfully joined a big company. As parents and neighbors wish, the future is limitless. However, in just a few years, he resigned several times, his career was erratic and his life was impermanent. At first, I really thought he just wanted to find more platforms to exercise, and changing jobs could increase his income. It wasn't until I heard that he couldn't stay in this city for a moment that I realized that because I felt that I was the best since I was a child, I couldn't adapt to the high-pressure atmosphere in the workplace and couldn't accept criticism from others, so I frequently jumped ship and even developed a bad habit of high consumption. I tried to maintain my success in front of my family and friends until I was ruthlessly eliminated by the cruel reality.
If Mr. A grew up outside reality, he asked for an unreal dream. Our husband B is just the opposite. He immersed himself in the past life, wrapped himself up as if he could only succeed forever, and could not stand the real sunshine shining on any fortress he desperately built in his heart.
Good-natured criticism from leaders, sincere reminders from colleagues and unintentional jokes from friends will all be used by him as weapons to break the fortress. So he tried to satisfy vanity, set off self-esteem with vanity, and covered up fragility with self-esteem. In the end, all efforts are fragile and wasteful.
A leopard cannot change his spots since ancient times. Why are there so many short-lived celebrities and great achievements in this world? Isn't it because they tried their best to climb a high mountain that they never dared to take a step forward and were afraid of falling off the cliff?
I wonder if anyone around you is trying to open up the road ahead, but lost in the aura of the past and unable to wake up.
C has always been my envious friend, with thriving career, harmonious family and chic life. In the unit, he became a middle-level leader at a young age, with outstanding performance and good reputation; In the family, husband and wife respect each other as guests, rarely quarrel, and are happy; In life, we always walk in the forefront of the trend. When we see him with a new hairstyle and new clothes, we will follow suit and talk about the current fashion trends. In a word, his life is our ideal life. But when chatting with other friends not long ago, I learned that he had been investigated by the Commission for Discipline Inspection for some time. I can't stop asking questions. It turned out that he was dissatisfied with his superior's promotion of another colleague who was nearly ten years older than him and complained anonymously, and then the incident was investigated. Dramatically, he not only made anonymous false accusations, but also embezzled public funds and seduced other people's wives. In the eyes of many friends, from happy ever after to a debacle, all you need is a pot of tea. It's so proud to have a friend like him. Now it seems that it is really difficult to know each other.
Here, in fact, I really don't want to turn around and put a hat on Mr. C, who I once admired. But writing articles is different from talking and chatting. You can stop and change the subject. Therefore, I still have to say that he is a hypocrite.
How many such people will we meet in our life? They wear gold-rimmed glasses and are gentle in appearance, but they are conceiving the game of thieves and prostitutes in their hearts; They are well-dressed and elegant, but what they want is how to collect all the ill-gotten gains; They are caring and attentive everywhere, giving charity in order to leave a good impression on others.
Mr. Lu Xun said that playing tricks is effective, but it is also limited, so there are no people who have achieved great things with it since ancient times. But they don't listen to advice, instead, they enjoy it, think they are clever, and paint skins for people all day to satisfy their greedy hearts.
I don't know if there are such people around you who try their best to be beautiful, but get lost in the forest of desire and turn around.
D is a female classmate of mine. I haven't seen her for many years after graduation. Once a classmate invited her to catch up with the past and met her during the dinner. After a hasty greeting and a few polite words, her attention turned to her two-year-old son. The child is naughty and difficult to manage. After a while, she felt that she couldn't reach the food and wanted to sit in the middle of the turntable, so she really put him on it. I'm going to look under the table for a while, and then she follows me in ... so repeatedly, we ignore her. It was not until the banquet was about to break up that she finally put the child to sleep and had to take a few bites. Seeing that everyone just laughed without eating, I was a little embarrassed to talk about my recent situation: "After giving birth, because hiring a nanny will increase the financial burden, I am not at ease, so I concentrate on being a housewife. I have hardly been out of the house for more than two years, and I have never seen my friends. I am very busy every day and have no free time at all. " He said, "Never mind. I didn't coax the children just now. I will serve the table for a while and get off the table for a while. I really can't eat this meal today. " Everyone couldn't help laughing, but suddenly reminded each other that they stopped laughing for fear of waking the children.
I am very grateful and praise my mother's greatness and love. Greatness comes from daring to give, and love comes from asking for nothing in return. However, I feel particularly sorry for this stay-at-home mother. She seems to have lost all her life except greatness and love.
You can't have it both ways. Nothing is perfect. However, have we ever reflected that raising a child is to watch him or her grow up? Is love just for getting married and having children? Is work just to make money? Is life just to spend a lifetime?
In the face of many seemingly meaningful things, we are always eager to get them, brave and fearless, and willing to give everything for them. However, to be a kind person, an upright man, a virtuous mother, a virtuous woman and so on. You have to pay the price of losing fun? Not to bear the burden of losing happiness? Do we have to throw away the colorful soul completely?
I don't know if there are any people around you who have devoted themselves to life or career, lost in the triviality of reality and unable to extricate themselves.
The babies who came into this world naked, from ignorance, one after another, generation after generation, all grew into us today.
Because of fate, the devil does something and has no direction. With the traction of fate, we are walking on this road at the foot of today, exploring, searching and forging ahead.
Our way forward and destination is the death of naked people.
If the four friends mentioned above can't leave, can't wake up, and can't extricate themselves ... Of course, behind these seemingly extreme examples, you may feel that you haven't reached this level, or you may think of other problems because of the endless list, or it may be ABCD. We might as well think about it all. Are we really not lost? Really happy?
Maybe, you will ask me, how can I not get lost and how can I be happy?
Unfortunately, philosophers in the world have not explored the true meaning of life. So, I can't find out which way is right. However, no matter which way you take, I'm sure that if you kill yourself and can't even find happiness, you must be lost.
So, no matter where you are on the road of life, I hope you can stop and think about what happiness is!
Happiness is the joy of running. Don't cling to where to start, don't fantasize about where to end, just enjoy the fun of struggle and the scenery along the way.
Happiness is a quiet time. As long as we live in the world, the past days are gone forever. Why not quietly feel the warmth of a cup of coffee and the richness of a simple meal?
Happiness is your own shadow. Everywhere, you just need to stop, recite a poem and listen to a song, and you will be inseparable.
Happiness is a real dream, just like waking up in a nightmare. You can pinch your thighs, turn over and go back to sleep. When you encounter bumps and tribulations, just smile and ignore them. But I also want to remind you, don't take your dream as a reality, because that reality must be a disaster!
According to the original intention of my composition, let me talk about how not to get lost and how to find happiness. I listed four headings: first, we should put aside our delusions and find and stick to the right direction. The second is to bid farewell to persistence and reconcile with the imperfect self. The third is to know how to cherish and enjoy the poetic beauty in life. The fourth is to grasp the present and walk through every bumpy place with a smile.
In fact, I worked hard to write all the words. However, I combed it again and deleted it all. Because there is no uniform standard and correct answer for not getting lost and looking for happiness.
Just stop and think about what real happiness is, and you will find your own answer.