I often hear people say: When people live, they must restrain their greed and desires. So we are always used to ignoring our true feelings and forgetting our true inner needs, but we care so much about the opinions of others. It seems that only through the affirmation of others can we find the value of our own existence.
Pleasing yourself is not selfish, it is just remembering your original intention, knowing where you are going, and being able to remember the way home. To please yourself is not to resist others or fight against the world, but to satisfy your own real needs and make yourself beautiful while also making the people and things around you happy and beautiful.
There was a poet who wrote a lot of poems and gained a certain reputation because of the sales of his poems. However, he was not satisfied and was not satisfied with himself. The reason for his dissatisfaction was that some of his poems were not published. When he came out, no one appreciated him, and he was very upset because he didn't get recognition from others.
The poet had a friend who was a Zen master. After hearing the poet’s troubles, the Zen master smiled, pointed to a lush plant outside the window and said, "What flower did you see?" This flower is called tuberose, and This flower only blooms at night, so we all call it tuberose, but why does it only bloom at night? Because it blooms at night, no one notices it. It blooms just to please yourself, and pleasing yourself is also a feeling
Flowers that bloom during the day are to get praise and attention from others, and this tuberose Even when no one appreciates us, we can still open ourselves up and be ourselves. This mentality of learning to make ourselves happy is really worth learning. Sometimes I think about it, we as a person may sometimes be worse than a plant.
The poet fell into deep thought. The Zen master looked at the poet and continued: "Many people always give the key to their happiness to others. Everything they do is done for others to see." , let others appreciate it, as if this is the only way to be happy.
In fact, many times, we do things for ourselves. “Our work and our study are all for ourselves. Growth is an accumulation of knowledge and experience. If we need to be recognized and praised by others before we do something, aren't our purpose and feelings for doing so too shallow? Is it against our original intention?
The poet bowed to the Zen master and said goodbye. In fact, we humans do not live for others to see, but for ourselves to see. Only in this way can we become a human being in the true sense. Don't belittle yourself because of others' disapproval. That's a lack of confidence in yourself. And only by pleasing oneself can a person not give up on himself, and only by pleasing himself can he improve himself, and only by pleasing himself can he influence and lead others...
Although we cannot look at Tuberose during the day Open and smell its floral fragrance, but many of us fall asleep with its fragrance at night. We live not to please the world, but to please ourselves in our own way and live in harmony with ourselves. Therefore, when pleasing yourself, let go of your emotions, let go of your emotions, and face life and yourself with a peaceful mind. This is a way to reconcile with yourself and get along with yourself peacefully!
Pleasing yourself is not selfish, but private, because you must first let yourself bloom alone in loneliness and smile in loneliness. Only by learning to live in one's own world can we face others with ease and be kind to ourselves.
We should not underestimate ourselves. Each of us is a little flower blooming alone in this world. Because of its beauty and blooming, this world has its splendor. Mo Yan once said that because he was ugly, he was ridiculed by many people in the village when he was a child. It was also because of this discrimination that he lacked confidence in himself and often cried alone. His mother was a great mother who inspired him: "Son, You have neither a nose nor an eye, your limbs are sound, and you are not ugly. As long as you have a kind heart and do more good deeds, you will be the most beautiful.”
Appearance is just one of our appearances, if for this reason. We have low self-esteem because of our shell. We might as well accept ourselves and fully accept everything about ourselves. In this way, you will become more and more temperamental and radiant as you grow older.
Because the reason why we are human is that we are individuals different from others, and only by accepting ourselves, accepting ourselves, affirming our self-worth, and accepting our shortcomings and even incomplete parts, By being tolerant of failures and setbacks, we can become better and better, and then change ourselves on the basis of accepting ourselves. In this way, we can be infinitely close to the perfect self and achieve the best version of ourselves.
“The one who pleases others is the king, and the one who pleases himself is king. In fact, as we grow older, we really don’t need to deliberately please anyone. We can be with whomever we feel comfortable with, and we can spend more time with anyone who suits us.” , talk more, stay away if it’s inappropriate. It’s far better to please others than to be happy with yourself. This should be the case with strangers and friends.
It’s better to be alone than to have regrets. Just. This kind of life and character are worthy of praise. I live according to my own heart, live naturally and sincerely for myself!
When you start to please yourself, your life will change. Your body and mind will become better. In this impetuous era, your beauty is full of pleasing value to others.
Because your beauty is invisible and attracts the attention of others. If you are gorgeous enough, what does it matter whether others appreciate it or not?
And when you give too much to others, you will become weaker, and your use value is over, and it is over. Therefore, we must learn to love ourselves while not being selfish, and leave more precipitation and time to ourselves. Time will not always be waiting for you to grow up. You must learn to bloom alone in the long river of time.
In other words, we don’t want to please others. The law of things is often that only by pleasing yourself will others come to please you, and your value will make others better. All attempts to please are less practical than pleasing yourself. You look very cool like this, and it is your duty to become a better self. You must know that pleasing yourself and getting praise are two different things.
Everyone must learn to please themselves, which I call optimism. We should not be swayed by the emotions of others. We should maintain our own mood. We should not lose our sense of proportion because of the little things and setbacks in life. We should learn to feel the happiness of the moment. And this kind of happiness is nothing more than doing small things that simply please yourself.
Do something you want to do and please yourself from time to time, and you will feel that life is wonderful. There are many interesting things in the world, but not many that can please you. To please others is something only fools do, but to please yourself is what you should do in life. When a person begins to try to please himself without upsetting others, what he has is freedom. This kind of freedom is a kind of happiness that no amount of money can buy.
I used to be so chaotic. I was always used to seeing myself in the eyes of others, as if my own value could only be affirmed through others. In fact, other people's evaluations are also limited. An unintentional remark made me feel resentful. Now that I think about it, I am making a joke.
If you have a broader realm of life and a bigger mind, you will naturally be able to see more scenery! Pleasing yourself is the real purpose of life. I write to myself and to you who are reading this article!