Text/Han Meimei
If we give all our hearts to others, others will not cherish them and may destroy them at any time.
I believe that everyone hates himself sometimes, and often for a moment, he can't believe what he has done and said.
Have you used "flattering language" to please people intentionally or unintentionally?
It is not good to cater to other people's feelings!
In fact, many people will make such mistakes, which is human nature.
There are many women, including myself, who are afraid of being rejected, gossiped and looked down upon, so they will do whatever it takes to cater to others, make others like themselves, and even ignore their own defense.
People who blindly hope to be liked by others and pursue affirmation will find it difficult to build a self-defense wall.
I have a friend who has worked in a foreign company for two years. Seeing that all his colleagues around him were promoted, he found a training company and asked to learn management skills. After listening to her story, the trainer first arranged a special lesson: Make yourself a brave woman!
The trainer told her that it is very necessary for her to build a wall in her heart first. This wall is a line of defense. Within this wall, she is safe. She doesn't have to look at other people's faces, and she doesn't have to be afraid of offending people. Of course, this wall can also resist gossip.
After this class, she began to understand:
Being popular is a good thing, but it is not necessary to be popular everywhere all the time. Everyone likes it and everyone loves it, which is beyond anyone's reach.
Soon, the girl's "wall" changed her situation. When she first expressed her tough attitude to her colleague who offended her, she left him dumbfounded and at a loss.
Since then, she has been treated with courtesy in the workplace. She just did her own thing and stopped worrying about interpersonal relationships. It is also because of concentration, outstanding ability and rapid promotion.
That is, "separated by a wall, good neighbors."
It is difficult to get the same return from others by being sincere and pleasing others. So it is necessary for us to defend our inner space and balance the scales of "hard" and "soft".
If we give our hearts to others, others will not cherish them and may destroy them at any time.
So, please don't care too much about other people's likes and dislikes.
Good or bad, it doesn't matter. Relax. Please remember the following three principles:
You have the right to say "no".
You have the right to express your opinion.
You have the right to remain silent. This is a compulsory course for each of us. From now on, we should all start to cultivate ourselves. ("Lonely, never lonely")
About the author: Han Meimei, a well-known best-selling author born in 1980s. I have been to many places and done many things. Go your own way and believe in love. He is the author of a series of books, such as Cry when you meet some people, Never ask others for a sense of security before it's too late, and If you don't do something now, you'll never do it in your life. The latest masterpiece, Alone, Never Lonely, is now on the market.