The sun can rest, but it can; the moon can rest, and women can rest.
This Yunnan ethnic minority tune, which has become famous because of teacher Yang Liping's "Image of Yunnan", vividly expresses the hard work and tenacity of women in the simplest way. But why can't we rest? When it comes to women's rights, who has the power to make you get it or not?
Another "March 8" International Women's Day, but the girls around us talk more about "Goddess' Day". I am not researching the party, and I am not researching when and where this festival came from, and what its significance is. I just want to think about the doting and pampering behind this statutory Women's Day, as well as non-statutory Women's Day, Valentine's Day, Chinese Valentine's Day, and even Christmas, Double 11 and other special "festivals". What impact does it have on gender equality? What impact does the direction have.
Who defines female greatness?
Women are great. But just to obtain basic equal rights, and after struggling for thousands of years in the process of human civilization, in the last hundred years, we have gradually obtained the "half of the sky" that should be exclusive to us. Greatness or mediocrity are not things that are passed on for granted over the years. Instead, they have to be achieved through hard work. This is a certain injustice in itself. I am a retired military officer. I have been away from home for 15 years in the army. Therefore, I have always respected my lover and the military wives around me. I feel that it is not easy to be a soldier, and it is even more difficult for a military wife to take care of the children alone. When I participated in the submission of a short book special topic and wrote "Handsome Soldier Brother, Think It Over and Marry Again", my performance dropped because I had no fans and support group. However, I met a military wife in the chat in the comment area. Her story of "joining the army" is remarkable, and it is completely different from the sacrifice and dedication that everyone is used to hearing. "Who invented the term military wife? They are both independent individuals and ordinary families. Why do they need to be taken care of and sympathized with?" This is her characteristic. These words are truly the most enlightening education I have received since I was 38 years old. Yes, we shape and change ourselves, strive to prove ourselves, manage our lives more perfectly, and live differently every day. Isn’t this great? Who should be dependent on whom? Why rely on a certain identity to achieve greatness? No one has the right to define the greatness of women. Men, women, and both sexes are independent, free and happy. This is greatness.
Where does the real goddess live?
Behind every festival that becomes popular due to the positioning of women, there is a huge profit drive hidden. Businessmen are happy to promote "women should be nicer to themselves", "every woman is an angel and goddess", "men are visual animals"... Concepts such as these are rampant and deeply rooted in the hearts of the people. In such an atmosphere, girls are criticized for their assumed position, and a gap is drawn between men and women. When looking at oneself: Sometimes women want to be independent, and sometimes men long for freedom; when looking at each other: If a woman is not a lady, she is a bitch, if a man is disrespectful, he is a scumbag. What should be natural care, consideration, and tolerance has gradually evolved into Request, suspicion, confrontation. Girls are eager for exclusive festivals, does it mean there is a lack of expectations in ordinary days? Does it mean that our non-festival days are too ordinary when we are eager to buy and eat and have fun during festivals? Of course, life should be endowed with a sense of ritual. When these days full of ritual are connected in series, they become a magnificent bead chain in future memories. But once you are deceived by phrases such as "men are all visual animals", it is no different from the women in the feudal era who produced the saying "women should look good to please themselves". We are good to ourselves because we love ourselves. If you love yourself, others will love you. You might as well enjoy the holidays, but you might also as well replace them with living more of your daily life. Love yourself every day, and you will always be lovable. You will be a goddess whether there is Goddess Day or not, and asking for it at the top of your lungs will not help you gain or retain anything. I like this paragraph summarized by a friend: "Wear high heels and running shoes, drink tea and drink, have money and freedom. Be deeply affectionate about everything in the past, but not stubborn and conservative. Be stubborn about the future you yearn for, but be calm in the present. Take one step at a time. , and never looked back.”
Hold on tightly or treat each other with respect?
"If we rise up to resist because we are enslaved, then we are proud and glorious." But if you feel anxious and disappointed because you want more and more, I believe you will no longer be proud and glorious. In "The First Half of My Life", there is no good or bad Luo Zijun. There is only Luo Zijun who relies on dependence and cannot give up, or who is forced into a desperate situation and needs to strengthen herself. In every state, she is the real Luo Zijun. What should you men do to us? If you men find my mother, I am extremely lucky! Who gave you the confidence to question your partner who will spend the rest of your life like this? Who gave you the brains to show off your pretentiousness in your circle of friends like this? People who are preparing to live a life together must calculate the comparable strength before getting married, just like planning a war; and after getting married, they must cultivate the seeds of mutual trust with warmth like maintaining peace. I have heard so many chicken soup stories about love, and seen so many happy gatherings and sad separations, but "respecting each other as guests" is the only one that touches my heart. In a long life, he will become more and more paunchy, and you will slowly weaken. Who can maintain passion and vitality forever? How many lovers have gone from being inseparable like shadows to becoming incompatible and like enemies. Don't say love won't change. From the moment you start to be afraid, from the moment you start wanting to prove that love is still there, love has already started to change. We meet in the world, and love goes far away.
Never forget that when we first met, you and I left room for each other, did not ask for anything, felt sorry for each other, and treated each other with respect.