What should you do if you are really introverted and even blush when you speak? How to change introversion and not love to talk?
Let's analyze the reasons first. Introversion and reticence can't be the true expression of this person. He may subconsciously want to talk and communicate, but he just doesn't know what to say and how to say it.
Introverts tend to be naturally reticent. If you want to change yourself, the first thing to do is to change your mentality. First, start with people around you and communicate with them more. Overcoming the state of blushing and being embarrassed to speak and making speaking a very natural thing is the first step that must be completed.
Many times, many introverts are afraid to communicate with others, always trying to find out what others mean and afraid to say the wrong thing. In fact, this is a sign of self-distrust. You don't have to be so cautious, just put too much pressure on yourself and express your thoughts truthfully.
The biggest reason why people with social barriers often feel inferior is that they don't like to talk. Introverts often have different degrees of inferiority. The solution is to recognize your own mentality and adjust yourself slowly.
Often the heart is bright and clear, but because of poor expression ability, it has caused some embarrassment and jokes of others, and therefore it has become more inferior and unwilling to speak. If so, you can practice communicating with people in a familiar environment, slow down your speech and express yourself neatly. If there are people who laugh at you, why care about their eyes? They are even less qualified, so don't feel inferior because of such people.
Increasing your knowledge is the source of self-confidence, and reading more books is the best way. No matter whether it is famous works at home and abroad or current affairs news, we should study more in our spare time. Otherwise, what others are saying, but you don't know anything, of course you can't get in.
Make a small summary for yourself every night, who you talked to today, how others reacted, why you didn't contact, and how to handle it perfectly. ...
If it is because our expressive ability is defective, we can properly exercise our expressive ability, which is the basis of communication with people, so proper exercise will gain something.
Poems and songs are rich, so you must spend some time reading books, absorb more knowledge, make yourself knowledgeable, and your speech will naturally have connotations, which will make you dare to show and show.
Boys must take part in more group activities, don't stay at home all day, and go out to deal with people more. Through mutual communication, their personalities will gradually become lively and cheerful.
Boys must have a few close friends, which is very important for life. Without friends, you will inevitably become withdrawn, do not like to communicate, and will become more and more reluctant to communicate with the outside world.
In the end, of course, it is to be the truest self. Not talking is not talking. Some things can be solved not by mouth, but by knowledge and wisdom, so study hard.
I don't know what else you can do. Please leave a message in the comments section.
Hello, everyone, I am the growth of Tsinghua, and I am very happy to answer this question.
I am just like you, really!
A:
First, do you want to change?
How determined are you to change?
Second, find the power source of change.
Want to develop personal connections?
Do you want to talk about friends and solve the single problem?
Do you want to expand your business relationship?
Then, set the desired goals and quantify the indicators:
1. Language expression ability, how many words can you reach normal speech speed per minute?
Practice speaking for several hours every day.
3. How many people communicate by phone every day, how many people communicate on WeChat, and how many people communicate face to face.
Finally, begin to implement and train specific methods:
1. Open your voice and start reading training, reading articles, poems, newspapers and so on.
2. Articulate clearly, contact pronunciation with standard Mandarin, and read pronunciation with the video.
3. Let go of your hand, let go of your body and hold your head high at all times, which can increase your confidence.
4. Exercise, improve cardiopulmonary function, increase vital capacity, and make the middle qi more sufficient.
5. Eye exercises, practice your eyes in the mirror, look at your eyes, and dare to look at each other's eyes.
6. Smile, contact your smile in front of the mirror, make the facial expression natural and overcome the rigidity of the expression.
7. Prepare in advance, make a good draft and write down the answers to possible questions in advance.
8. Prepare the topic, prepare the topic discussion content in advance, enrich the topic and content material of the conversation, and discuss the viewpoints of the topic.
9. Learn to speak. During the epidemic, I insisted on learning to speak on the planet for two months. Teacher Long Xiong taught me many speech methods and skills.
I have been an introvert since I was a child. I don't take the initiative to communicate with people. I'm afraid of things and troubles. Since I entered high school, I have found that there are few friends around me. Later, a classmate who volunteered to be my friend changed me. He is an optimistic man, full of longing for life. He is a romantic. He tells me interesting stories in his life every day and occasionally takes me to do things I didn't dare to do before. He changed my life and made me optimistic and positive. I think it is my honor to meet such a person in my life, and he is also an indispensable person in my life. I think introverts are actually not confident enough, but when you really come out, you will find that the world is so beautiful!
Honey, just be yourself, there is no need to change!
Maybe many introverts have this problem. They think that introverts are bad and unlovable, but you should know that "people who like you must see through you before they like you". We don't have to care about others. We don't have many friends, but we are exquisite. Those seemingly versatile people may not stand up and help when they are in trouble, and they all seem to be friends, but in fact, those who walk together and weigh the pros and cons will also weigh the pros and cons when they lend a helping hand.
But I also want to tell you, please be your best. Introversion is not a shortcoming, we have no reason not to be excellent, read more books and enrich our hearts; Exercise more to improve your figure; Learn more and improve your professional ability. Work hard silently, and then you will find that introversion can be liked by so many people.
Come On Children ...
I am also quite introverted, but I don't think there is any problem in communication. My experience is that besides treating people around me with sincerity, we should also pay attention to certain skills when chatting with others.
1, when chatting, don't "steal" each other's topic. For example, if a friend says "I ran five kilometers this morning for half an hour", but you can't say "I ran two days ago", this is the topic of "stealing" each other.
2. Use more "why" and "how". For example, in the above example, you can use "how" and ask "how do you feel" so that the topic can go on.
3, use more body language, including expression response, sometimes smiling and nodding is better than anything else.
4. Answer one more sentence. For example, a colleague asks you: You have been playing the glory of the king recently. Do you play? If you just answer no, then this topic may be over. You answer one more word, and I'll block another game. That's why it's possible to talk.
Although introversion is sometimes not as popular as extroversion, it doesn't mean that no one wants to associate with you. As long as you are willing to be close to others, keep a flexible mind and learn to listen, you will also have your own market. I hope it inspires you.
I'm glad to answer your question.
In fact, gregarious, as a personality, has social adaptability to accept others and be accepted by others. However, in life, some people are too egotistical or arrogant to communicate. Some people are too self-abased and lack the courage to actively communicate and engage in activities. They always think that others look down on themselves, so they are withdrawn and isolated, which not only hinders the establishment of harmonious interpersonal relationships, but also makes people feel insecure and belonging psychologically, forming loneliness and hindering people's physical and mental health. So how can we change loners?
1. If you expect others' care and love, you should first care for others, love others and help them overcome difficulties. This will not only win others' respect and love, but also bring you satisfaction and enhance your confidence in interacting with others. In addition to caring for others, you should learn to ask others for help when you are in trouble, because others will help you overcome difficulties, and your psychology will naturally change from tension to relaxation. And because of your sincere gratitude, others will feel happy, which communicates the emotional communication between people.
In interpersonal communication, the more correct you know about yourself, the more natural your behavior will be, the more appropriate your performance will be, and you will get more affirmation from others. This kind of evaluation is very helpful to help you overcome inferiority and arrogance, two psychological obstacles that are not conducive to gregarious. In addition, outsiders will inevitably have subjective impressions when evaluating others, and the results will often be "distorted". For example, people often infer this person's personality from some personal data of the other person (such as place of origin, occupation, etc.). ), for example, think that accountants are always haggling over every ounce and extremely stingy. This kind of wrong interpersonal cognition certainly makes it difficult for you to get along with others. Therefore, as long as you can recognize these prejudices in interpersonal perception, you won't be embarrassed.
You can blend in.
If you always fail in communication with others, the negative emotions will certainly affect your gregarious personality. If we can learn more about the art of communication, it will certainly contribute to the success of communication. For example, if you master the skills of several cultural and sports activities, such as playing ball, you will find yourself very popular with others on many occasions.
The best way to keep your personality intact is to clearly show your principles and attitudes in dealing with people and let others know who you are.
Style, rather than forcing you to do something you don't want to do, and you won't refuse to say goodbye because you often need it.
People's demands affect interpersonal relationships.
The formation of gregarious personality depends on good interpersonal relationships, and good interpersonal relationships begin with each other.
Understanding, mutual understanding between people depends on the exchange of ideas and attitudes. Therefore, usually,
Find opportunities to talk to others, chat, discuss some problems and exchange some views.
Friendship grows by giving love to each other. Mencius said it well: "He who loves will love it at last". you
If you can take the initiative to extend a kind hand, you will be immediately held by countless friendship hands.
My friend, thank you for your trust and invitation. I can see that you want to change, which is a good start, depending on internal and external factors.
The first is internal factors. If you want to change, you must change from the heart and have a strong impulse. This is also the source of motivation for your future changes, which is very important. If you don't change yourself, you will live like this for the rest of your life. When you are old and have no achievements, what can you do to educate and impress the next generation? Is there an impulse in your heart? After the internal factors are formed, the success is half done.
The second is the external cause. You should look at yourself in the mirror every day and be inspirational loudly. Keep a growth diary, record your daily changes, and gradually enhance your self-confidence; Read more books on communication.
My friend, today's efforts will make you brilliant tomorrow. You work hard, it's over. This is the first time for anyone. Why only allow others to succeed and be an audience? Believe in yourself! Come on! I hope I can help you!