Everyone will encounter ups and downs in life, and similarly, everyone will also experience low periods in life.
But when faced with a trough, some people choose to stagnate and lose confidence, while some people will rely on their own strength to bounce back and successfully climb from the bottom to the bottom. top.
In fact, there are no obstacles in life that cannot be overcome. The more people are at the lowest point, the less they can give up on themselves.
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I have a friend who once had a particularly tortuous experience. If it had not been for bad luck, he would at least have a house, a car, and his own company now.
When the market was good a few years ago, he went into business with his friends and made a lot of money. But then he listened to his friends and invested all the money he earned in other businesses, and the result was... At the end of the year, everything was lost.
Later, when his girlfriend, whom he had been dating for several years, saw that he had become a pauper, she also broke up with him. During that time, he locked himself in a rental house and didn't go out much for a month.
When a man loses his career, his love, and his savings, no one can bear such a blow. We were all afraid that he would get depressed and that he would do something stupid.
However, a month later, he stood in front of us and said to us with a smile: It’s not a big deal. I figured it out. If the money is gone, you can make it again. If your lover leaves, that’s because there is no love between us. fate.
Since then, my friend started working as a delivery boy and worked part-time online when he went home at night to make some money. A year later, my friend used the money he saved to open a milk tea shop, and he also met a gentle and kind girl.
Now, my friend’s milk tea shop business is booming. He and the girl are also married and have their own family.
In fact, the difficulties people face when they are in the trough are only temporary. As long as you can move forward bravely, you will definitely see a turn for the better one day in the future, because no matter how difficult the road is, it will be difficult. There is always an end.
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In life, no one has ever had smooth sailing. Those who are successful with flowers in hand have walked through thorns along the way.
During that turbulent era, Frankl, the greatest psychologist of the 20th century, and his family were imprisoned in a concentration camp because they were Jewish.
Later, his parents, brother, and wife all died tragically in the gas chamber, and only he and his sister survived.
At that time, many people in the inhumane concentration camps failed to persist to the end, but Frankl survived with his strong will, and later published the great book "The Life of Life". significance".
Frankl recorded his experience in writing. Through his experience, he told the world a conclusion: What makes people live is the meaning of life.
Yes, when a person knows why he lives, he will be able to endure any hardships in life. Just like Nietzsche said: "He who knows why he lives can survive."
03
I read this sentence:
"Every time A successful person is an ascetic, and only they themselves know how much loneliness and confusion there is on the road to success."
It is true that the more people are at the bottom, the worse they feel. It's up to you.
Colleague Xiao Duan had no worries about food and clothing since he was a child. His parents never allowed him and his sister to suffer at all. But just last year, his father suddenly got seriously ill and passed away.
Later, his mother cried and said to him, you are the eldest son, and from now on, you will take on the responsibility of this family.
For the first time, his mother's words made him feel unprecedented pressure, and for the first time he realized his responsibility.
In order to make life easier for his younger sister who is studying in college, Xiao Duan took on another job after get off work every day: driving an online ride-hailing service.
Over the past year, Xiao Duan has truly carried a family on his own shoulders. He has also grown the most when facing difficult challenges.
There is a saying that goes well:
When a person is in depression and trough, he is his own life-saving straw. At this time, he can only rely on himself to face difficulties and be strong. Only if you keep going forward will you win in life.
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I think that in life, there must be many people who are also facing challenges brought to them by fate.
Maybe you have resigned and stayed at home for a long time due to some reasons, but you don’t know how to get a new satisfactory job; maybe your career is not going well at all, and you always encounter accidents and blows in life. etc.
However, life is like this. Fate will not favor anyone easily. Everyone will always have a difficult time that you need to go through by yourself.
Just like Mao Amin sang in a song:
"Life is short, you have to work hard, don't be afraid of starting from scratch again and again. It is love that warms me, and gives me the courage to walk out." Rely on yourself in adversity. ”
Dear friend, if you are also experiencing setbacks and troughs, please remember:
What cannot kill you will eventually make you stronger. , as long as you can survive it, you will be able to get out of the trough and find your clear sky again.
In fact, life will inevitably encounter more or less ups and downs. When a person is at a low point, sometimes you have no choice but to choose to persevere and hold on.
Many times, if you endure it, you will get ahead, and as you go, you will find a new way out.
Therefore, when facing difficulties, the key depends on what kind of mentality you use to face life, and what method you use to overcome the obstacles on the road of life.