The growth from dependence period to independence period is the awakening of personal consciousness. Three habits need to be cultivated: 1) initiative; 2) from beginning to end; 3) Put things first. When you have these three kinds of thinking, you can succeed in your personal field.
Growing from independence to interdependence is the awakening of cooperative consciousness. We should cultivate three habits: win-win thinking, knowing and solving ourselves, and comprehensive effects. When you have these three kinds of thinking, you can succeed in the public sphere.
And if you can constantly update, constantly improve yourself, and constantly iterate yourself, you will make great progress, stay successful and last forever.
Below I recommend a good book with high quality for each habit, and you will know how to act after reading it.
Two: from dependence to independence
The first habit: be proactive.
Many friends cherish their own strength, and their attitude towards things is not to do it if they can't do it. Even if they have to do it, they should put it off until the last minute. The first step to become a highly effective person is to turn passivity into initiative, turn passivity into initiative, overcome procrastination and take the decision in your own hands.
The advice given in 7 Habits is that whenever you want to say "If …", change your mind immediately and change it to "I can do it …".
The change of this sentence pattern is not a simple change of words, but a change of mentality. It changes your mentality, from looking for the reasons of objective environment to actively looking for potential opportunities in the environment. Let you go from escape to execution.
For the book about attitude change and mental growth, I recommend Li Xiaolai's "Take Time as a Friend".
The content of this book, in fact, doesn't have many highlights, but Li Xiaolai's reading notes when reading famous and efficient foreign books. This book is just a miscellaneous book written by combining the theories in other people's books with my past experience. Many contents in the book are copied from other books.
However, miscellaneous also has advantages: he helps you sort out the essence of several books or even a dozen books. Although the depth is far less than it was at the beginning, it can broaden your horizons, stimulate your interest and open the door to high efficiency in the shortest time.
In addition to spiritual motivation, there is one of the biggest stumbling blocks to becoming a proactive person: procrastination.
Everyone thinks that he is a late procrastinator and is too lazy to do anything. It is really difficult to put his ideas into practice. Just as you saw me give you a letter of recommendation, you also have 10 thousand reasons to refuse to read, even though you have long been interested in reading.