How to reject others humorously
Harmony was written by Guo in Ming Dynasty. The book says that a friend asked Su Dongpo, an official in North Korea, to find him a job. Su Dongpo told a story to this friend who came to consult him: "Once upon a time, a grave robber found a naked man while digging the first grave. This is the king, because he advocates naked burial; When digging the second tomb, it was actually Emperor Wen of Han Dynasty. He is an emperor who is not allowed to be buried with gold, silver and jade. The third tomb dug up Boyi who starved to death in shouyangshan; The grave robber wanted to continue digging the fourth tomb, and Boyi said,' Don't bother, my brother Shu Qi can't help it!' "People who want something from Su Dongpo listened to this story and walked away. In this way, Su Dongpo refused him humorously without offending his friends. It can be seen that humorous rejection is also an art. No matter whether you listen to or object to other people's demands, as long as you speak humorously, the other party will accept it more easily. American President Roosevelt was a humorous man. Let's see how he rejects others with humor. When Roosevelt was in the navy, a friend asked him about the navy's plan to build a submarine base on an island in the Caribbean. This question is difficult to answer. If you refuse directly, it will make your friends embarrassed and lose face. But this is a very confidential question and can't be revealed, even to friends. So Roosevelt looked around and whispered, "Can you keep a secret? The friend replied, "Of course." "Roosevelt said with a smile," I can do it, too. "Humorous words can not only make friends have a step down, but also keep their principles well. Once, an ambitious officer asked Disraeli to make him a baron. Disraeli knows that this man is very talented and capable, and he also wants to get on well with him. But this officer is really unqualified, and Disraelida can't meet his requirements. So he invited the officer to the office alone and said to him, "dear friend, I'm sorry I can't give you the title of baron, but I can give you something better." Disraeli said in a low voice, "I will tell everyone that I have asked you to accept the title of Baron many times, but you refused. "The officer is a wise man. After listening to disraeli's words, he no longer asks for knighthood. Sure enough, after the news came out, everyone praised the officer for his modesty and selflessness, indifference to fame and fortune, courtesy and respect far exceeding that of any baron. The officer was very grateful to disraeli for all this, and later became his most loyal partner and military backing. Obviously, humor is a good way to refuse others. You can avoid those confidential questions without hurting your friends. Moreover, when you refuse something beyond your power with a humorous attitude, it will naturally create a relaxed and happy atmosphere. In a bar, a friend advised another friend to drink, but the conversation was humorously rejected as follows: Tom: "whiskey with some water, ok?" Peter: "Thank you! Can I have something else to drink? Tom: "Of course." Don't you like whisky? "Peter:" I don't seem to have tasted the beauty of whisky. Maybe I haven't grown up yet! ""Tom: "So, what would you like to drink?" Peter: "I like pineapple mixed juice." Talking in a relaxed atmosphere can naturally create a pleasant atmosphere. Although it is the same meaning, if you say "I don't like this" or "I don't like that", it will feel very different. In the face of some unreasonable demands, it will be embarrassing if you explicitly refuse. If you refuse in humorous and euphemistic language, you can not only express your refusal intention, but also make the other party willing to accept it.