..... I gasped (maybe it was too hot in summer, too cold in human nature, and I cried), but I understood each other instantly.
This kind of "shame on others" psychology is easy to happen between close friends. I hope the other person is good but not better than myself. Occasionally, I will have the idea of "meanness" and fall into self-blame and feel that I am too dark.
In fact, this is the real human nature. Simple and complicated. There is no absolute good or bad, good or evil. It can be selfless or narrow-minded, cruel or loving. In short, don't rush to condemn yourself or others in advance. Only by dealing with fickle people can you understand yourself and others.
This book list will start with an insight into human nature, show you the real human nature and improve interpersonal relationships by the way. Knowing a little about people's hearts and learning some communication skills will make life a lot easier.
Weakness of human nature
Dale. Carnegie
Zhongxin publishing group
20 12 10 month
An interesting phenomenon is that Carnegie still has a copy of the advantages of human nature, but he can't sell the weaknesses of human nature all the year round. What does this mean?
Knowing the weaknesses of human nature can be changed, but knowing the advantages of human nature is of no use. (and what is the advantage of human beings, and what does that advantage have to do with me? )
Therefore, only by understanding the weakness can we truly understand the universal law of human nature.
In this book, Carnegie introduced six ways to make others like you, 12 ways to make others recognize you, and nine ways to make others accept your point of view. It is simple and not rude, and it is worth posting anywhere visible to the naked eye, which is very practical.
Know this book in three sentences.
1. No one likes to listen to other people's criticism, but everyone likes to be praised and respected by others. This is human nature.
The expression on a person's face is much more valuable than the fur on her back.
Nobody can beat anyone.
The wisdom of life
Schopenhauer
Zhongxin publishing group
2065438+March 2009
We always give a dog-tailed mink to a decent life because of some obsession with happiness. This book can save you.
When all the chicken soup for the soul is teaching you how to live happily, Schopenhauer tells you that a happy life lies not in how much happiness you get, but in how much pain you can bear.
After reading this book, you will find that those things that make you suffer are actually nothing serious. It doesn't matter whether the leader praised you today or which colleague said something ugly. Anyway, life is like that ghost. When you don't expect much from it, life will be much easier. If you don't pursue happiness, you will be happier. Maybe it taught us to accept fate ...
In short, if a person can only read one chicken soup for the soul in his life, Schopenhauer's masterpiece must have a name, with an antidepressant index of 5 stars.
Know this book in three sentences.
1. Rational people pursue not happiness, but no pain.
2. A person is either lonely or vulgar.
The biggest mistake that human beings can make is to trade health for something other than themselves.
Selfish gene
Richard Dawkins
Zhongxin publishing group
June 20 19
Maybe it's hard for you to admit that we are born selfish, like the survival of the fittest, and the law of the jungle is just for evolution. Selfishness and greed are our nature.
When you realize all this, you will no longer be disappointed in human nature.
Know this book in three sentences.
1. We and all other animals are machines created by our own genes.
2. A prominent feature of successful genes is ruthless selfishness.
3. Obviously altruistic behavior is actually selfish behavior in disguise.
experience
Amy Herman
Zhongxin publishing group
20 18 1 month
In modern society, who doesn't want to have the ability to understand human nature? People who can see through people just want to be friends with people.
When I first read this book, I thought it was to teach you how to communicate. In fact, there is a mystery hidden in it, not to teach you how to "speak", but to teach you how to see with your eyes. The so-called "tongue disease, eyes treat you."
Those who can observe it will never be too unlucky, not to mention that the author of this book has taught the FBI many times to help them solve the case successfully. After reading this book, your detection ability will achieve a breakthrough of 0- 1.
Know this book in three sentences.
1. Pay attention to the neglected, ordinary and seemingly unimportant things.
Only when you can put yourself in others' shoes can you really understand a person. This is to trigger a * * * sound, which can promote better cooperation.
3. How to organize information quickly: Ask yourself three questions: What do I know? I don't know what? What else do I need to know if it is possible to get more information?
thought reading
Henrik fix
Zhongxin publishing group
June 2020
Mind reading, a name that sounds very powerful. Mind-reading is in my hands, all over the world.
This book is very interesting, teaching you how to judge whether others are lying from body language; How to find language defects from a person's voice; How to interpret the psychological dynamics of others from facial expressions?
It's amazing. I want to learn every skill. I have learned this system of knowing people, and I can understand, persuade and influence others quietly.
New EQ
Daniel Gorman
Zhongxin publishing group
April 20 19
The father of emotional intelligence has advanced a little and brought new emotional intelligence, which is good news for people who are anxious and confused. Compared with the old EQ, it has joined the theory of oriental wisdom and neuroscience, that is, there is something wrong with our brains, perhaps it is our brains.
After reading this book, you will have a new understanding of your body and your life will change accordingly, which is quite amazing. The so-called change of thinking, change everything.
Whenever life is confused, it always works wonders to open this book and read it repeatedly.
Know this book in three sentences.
1. Consciously pay attention to the present without making any judgment on the development of things. If you try to do this several times, what you are doing will change.
3. The amygdala is the key node of the brain pressure circuit, and meditation helps to reduce its activity.
Genius is on the left and madman is on the right.
The author is brilliant
Beijing Sanlian Bookstore
20 16 1 month
These are interview notes of mental patients, not just any one. If you look at human nature from the perspective of a marginal group, you will see the true nature of the world more easily and be more confused. In this world, whether they or we are sick. Just think about this problem, it's easy to get possessed.
Know this book in three sentences.
1. Time will not pass, but we will.
The difference between a philosopher and a madman is that one just thinks and the other really does it.
If one day you see me crazy, you are actually crazy.
Deep feeling
Takayuki Saito
Changjiang literature and art publishing house
June 2020
The catalogue of this book keeps hitting the nail on the head: "The same characteristics of boring people", "The ability to control the field through chatting people" and "People like it because they are not sociable ..." In short, every pore of their own has been vibrated. Affectionate, worthy of the name, but also awakened by the directory, recommended to see.
Replicable communication ability
Author: Fan Deng
Zhongxin publishing group
May 2020
There are indeed many things in life that cannot be copied, but when it comes to communication, there is much to be done. The essence of communication is respect and cooperation. If you understand this matter clearly and practice it with the method in the book, you can easily learn the secret of not talking to death. It is a communication skill book that is very suitable for entry.
Well said 1+2 episodes
Authors: Ma Weiwei, Huang Zhizhong, Zhou Xuanyi and Victor Gu Chian Peow.
Beijing Sanlian Bookstore
A talking mouth can get twice the result with half the effort, but no matter how clear the truth is, you will still be clumsy at critical moments.
This book lists thousands of real communication barriers, each of which is a true portrayal of young people's fear of society. It's bloody, but it provides a good solution. You can suit the remedy to the case and find the skills of communication and negotiation, without hurting each other or forcing yourself.
The method of happiness 1+2 episodes
Taylor Ben Sharjah
Zhongxin publishing group
A dry book delayed by the title of chicken soup contains many tips to get happiness, such as: recording happy things every day; Spend 5-20 minutes meditating every day; Simplify the schedule, because it is easy to feel anxious when it is full.
As long as you practice according to the steps every day, the lost good mood will come back slowly.
Because this is your life+Cai Kangyong's EQ class.
Author: Cai Kangyong
hunan literature and art publishing house
20 18 1 1 month
Many books selling emotional intelligence like to make you cater to other people's preferences and make others feel comfortable, but Kang's high emotional intelligence is not the case. On the contrary, he has a rare indifference. Don't attend other people's weddings, don't have birthday wishes, shield things that have nothing to do with yourself, and manage your inner world in an orderly way.
Real emotional intelligence, first of all, to get yourself, tidy up your emotions. In his book, you can be yourself and find a way to face others and the world calmly, the most comfortable way to cultivate your mind in the whole universe.
Know this book in three sentences.
1. All getting along with people is to make our unique and unique self live more comfortably, not more wronged.
2. It is the first step to be responsible for your own life to separate the expectations of others from your own wishes.
If a person knows why he made this choice, other people's opinions are not so important.
Uncompromising negotiation
Daniel Shapiro
Zhongxin publishing group
2065438+March 2009
Obviously none of your business, but inexplicably involved in the struggle; I clearly remind myself not to be angry, but I still can't control my emotions. This is the "tribal effect" mentioned in the book. Once people fall into this effect, they will lose themselves and lose control of their emotions, not to mention specific communication and negotiation. As long as it is a person, it is inevitable.
The book gives many plans and solutions to get out of this state. At least you can negotiate with others calmly, without crying, making trouble or hanging yourself. In short, only those who can negotiate can really communicate.
The power of stories
Author Gao Lin
Zhongxin publishing group
March 2020
It is cruel to say that a person who can only do things will never beat a person who can do things and tell stories. It is also one of human nature to like listening to stories and be easily attracted (fooled) by stories.
This book focuses on how to apply story skills in the workplace and interpersonal relationships. The author of this book has a wealth of executive speech training, which has helped many people successfully embark on the road of saying (fooling) something.
Intimate relationship
Christopher Meng
hunan literature and art publishing house
2065438+April 2005
This is a book that teaches you how to love. We understand people's hearts, and the most fundamental purpose is to love ourselves and the people around us.
Douban netizens said: Intimacy is the Dojo of spiritual practice. Only through these relatives and friends can we know ourselves better. This book can give you more than you think. After reading this book, I hope you don't have to retake the compulsory course of love.
Know this book in three sentences.
1. Everything you see is a projection of your inner world.
If you want to get to a place as soon as possible, the quickest way is that you are already there.
Nothing can't be solved by love.