Every parent wants to train their children into excellent people, but many parents like to complain and find reasons: it is not good for children, it is not good for children, it is not easy to teach, or they have no education, poor family conditions and no time. Including myself. However, I think that in order to educate children well, we must first educate ourselves and change the way of education, so that children can develop better.
I think the most basic thing is to accept your own children. No matter whether the child's performance is good or bad, no matter whether his study is good or bad, he must accept her. Only by accepting the child's performance today can he talk to the child calmly and without emotion. I believe that many parents can't control their emotions as soon as they see their children's poor performance, and criticize or beat and scold their children, because I have done so before. As a result, their children became more and more rebellious and opposed to me. You don't like me because you contradict what I said. Later, I reflected on myself. Is it because I am too strict with my children, which leads to their psychological burden? It is not a good thing for children to be afraid of me. You must accept your children so that they can accept you. Communication and education can begin. Don't be a paternalistic parent, be a friend parent, and let your children feel equal to you. In this way, children will tell their parents everything and let us know their movements at any time.
Secondly, I think it is very important to cultivate children's interest. Try to give her as few problems as possible when doing the questions, and let her do some simple basic questions. First, there are more simple questions, and those that are slightly more difficult will naturally do it, and their learning ability and interest will also go up. Second, there are many simple questions and the correct rate is high, which also enhances her self-confidence and sense of success.
Another point that I think is also very important is to cultivate children's good study habits and let her finish her homework independently. We should check the children's homework, but we only need to check the completion of the homework. As for right and wrong, our parents should try not to interfere and help their children with their homework. It may be proved that the child's final answer is wrong, but the biggest advantage of this is that the child can take the responsibility of learning by himself, because we always help the child with his homework, which will cultivate his dependence. Once they encounter a slightly more difficult topic, they are unwilling to think, just like my daughter. So although the accuracy of the homework handed in every day is very high, many of them are completed under my supervision. Every time I tutor her, she seems to have nothing to do with herself, so it is careless for the church to forget today and tomorrow. Moreover, tutoring children is not good, because the current textbooks are different from before, parents can't guide their children correctly, and sometimes they may be misleading, which increases the burden on teachers. If parents have this habit like me, they must correct it, because it is not conducive to the growth of children.
I read a book about family education recently, and I think it is very important for our parents to learn to shut up. What do you mean shut up? That is, many parents like to talk endlessly and scold endlessly when they see their children's problems, but they can't control themselves and always give their children negative reinforcement. This is the worst habit of China's parents and the biggest "fault". Because every time parents complain and blame their children, their problems will be negatively strengthened once, so this seemingly good way of education only makes them more rebellious and makes the problems more and more obvious until they form bad habits. So we should learn to shut up. Shut up is not to stop talking, but to stop and think about how to speak correctly. The child likes to brag. We should actively strengthen the child and praise his advantages, and gradually his shortcomings will become smaller.
Finally, I want to quote the six-character formula about educating children in the book: think more, talk less and do less. "Thinking more" means thinking more, summing up more and feeling more. When a child has a problem, he should "shut up" first, stop thinking first, and tell and teach the child how to do it after thinking clearly. "Less talk" means less complaining, less verbosity, less preaching and less scolding. Be sure to encourage children and discover their advantages and progress. "Doing less" means helping children to do things less, helping children to deal with difficulties less, letting children try to solve them themselves, and cultivating their ability to face difficulties and solve problems independently.
Every child is different. As long as we work hard and form the habit of thinking, I believe everyone can educate their children well!