Recommended books for educating children
1. The secret of childhood
Montessori education law
Highlight: In this book, Dr. Montessori vividly describes the physical and psychological characteristics of children. As a parent, you must read this book if you want to know the secret of children's growth and enter their hearts!
Montessori is the first female doctor of medicine in Italy. The founder of the first Children's Home. The Montessori school named after her covers 1 10 countries. Her biography is included in 12 biography series "People who Help the World". British educators praised her as "one of the greatest scientists who won world recognition in the 20th century to promote science and human progress". American educators praised: "the contemporary discussion on preschool education is incomplete without discussing the Montessori system"; German educator commented: "In the history of education, it is rare to attract worldwide attention like Montessori's education law." In China, where more and more attention is paid to quality education, Montessori preschool education classes based on her thoughts are increasingly favored by parents.
2. Emily
Rousseau
Highlight: Emile is a novel educational masterpiece. 1762 was first published in Amsterdam, the Netherlands, which caused a sensation in France and western European countries and had a great influence. The educational theory it discussed caused a great revolution in the history of education and was praised as "the natural gospel of education" by Goethe.
In this book, Rousseau opposed the old education system by educating Emile, his supposed educational object, and expounded his thought of "natural education". Rousseau's so-called natural education is to obey the eternal laws of nature and respect the free development of human body and mind, and its means are life and practice. He advocates the use of physical teaching and intuitive teaching methods, so that children can obtain the knowledge they need from personal experience of life and practice through sensory feelings. Closely related to nature education, Rousseau also advocates educating children on labor and freedom, equality and love, so that they can learn the means of making a living, develop the ability to control freedom and physical strength as soon as possible, and maintain natural habits.
3. Random talk about education
John Locke
Recommended reason: This is an educational classic with simple philosophy, vivid and touching, which has far-reaching influence on later generations and shaped the thoughts of ordinary people from generation to generation. It is still a must-read book for educators and parents in Europe, America and even the world.
Among the three classic family education books recognized in the west, Random Talk on Education, Emile and The Secret of Childhood, Locke's Random Talk on Education was published the earliest and most clearly: he explicitly proposed to train children in physical, moral and intellectual aspects, and put physical training in the first place. Locke wrote at the beginning of this book: "A healthy spirit resides in a healthy body." Similar to "tempering the body", Locke suggested that parents cultivate their children's virtue by "strict discipline".
In Emile, The Secret of Childhood and Random Talk on Education, Locke's viewpoint is more rational and Rousseau's viewpoint is more romantic. Montessori inherited Rousseau's romantic but rational viewpoint and provided a "prepared environment" for children's independent activities.
4. Early education and genius
Kuiyi Kimura [Japan]
Highlight: Even the most ordinary children will become extraordinary people as long as they are properly educated! Kuichi Kimura, the author, devoted his life to the research of early childhood education and intellectual development. When the Japanese royal family awarded him a medal, he praised: Mr. Kimura has successfully improved the quality of a generation of Japanese nationals.
Kimura, as the originator of early childhood education, has many works, and his book Early Childhood Education and Genius is regarded as the "Bible" of family education by the educational circles. Although it has been published for nearly a hundred years, it is still the first choice for young parents to educate their children. This book is readable and operable, and is suitable for all parents to read.
5. Give me your hand, son
[America] Heim G Guinot
Highlight: A Godson classic, which has sold more than 5 million copies in the United States and sold well all over the world in 365,438+0 languages, has completely changed the way parents communicate with their children. It is very enlightening for parents in China. It is not enough for parents to have love and insight. Good parents need skills. How to acquire and use these skills is the main content of this book.
Author Heim G. Guinot, doctor of psychology, clinical psychologist, child psychologist and pediatrician. He devoted his short life to the research of children's psychology and the education of parents and teachers. He used his intelligence to do a lot of creative work and made great achievements. His innovative ideas on how to communicate with children in books, speeches and columns have won great repercussions not only in the United States, but also around the world.
6. Dear Gabriel
[Norway] Hafendan Fian
Highlight: This book is a touching letter from a father to his autistic son, not a novel or a documentary. From Gabriel's birth to being diagnosed with autism at the age of three, and then going to primary school, his son learned to read, ride a bicycle, solo, go to sea with his father and son, hold pirate dances in costume and family gatherings ... The author recorded his son's story of growing up, heartbreaking feelings, endless love and understanding, and the truth of his family's endless melancholy with full pen and ink. From the special perspective of autism, let us know how to grow up and what is true tolerance and love. I believe that every parent can find his own emotion in this book and shed the tears he owes.
7. Mrs Steiner's nature education
Steiner [America]
Highlight: Winifred Steiner is a professor of linguistics at the University of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, USA. Under the influence of the famous philosopher Dr. James, she began to study in Carl Witt, and was deeply influenced, and gradually formed her own educational thought, that is, the theory of "natural education".
Under the guidance of this theory, her daughter Winnie Fried was able to write poems and essays at the age of 3. 4 years old, can read and write scripts in esperanto; At the age of 5, he can use 8 languages freely; At the age of 9, he entered the university and became a gifted child in people's eyes. However, Mrs Steiner is not satisfied with raising only her daughter. She is also eager to let the world know the importance of early education to children's growth, so when her daughter 12 years old, she wrote a book "Steiner's Nature Education", established a nature education school and trained many talented children. This book describes in detail the growth process of her daughter Winnie Brett, and tries to clarify the author's educational thoughts and methods. The author uses vivid facts to illustrate the problem, not boring theories, so parents can learn a lot from it.
8. Children's personality education
Adler
Recommended reason: Adler introduced the basic motivation of children's personality development and the reasons for the birth of problem children very accurately and clearly. The basic framework of his children's personality structure can be regarded as a key to understand children's problems. Reading this book repeatedly can help parents to establish the basic structure of understanding their children's personality. Because Adler's book really reveals the most important procedure in the process of children's development, which can explain the root causes of many unruly children. If parents are interested in Adler's individual psychology, they can also look at his other masterpiece, Inferiority and Transcendence.
9. Carl Witt's education
Karl Witt [Germany]
Recommended reason: karl witte, the author, was an ordinary rural priest in Germany in the19th century. He used his educational thoughts and ideas to educate his son who was born with a slight dementia into a wizard with amazing achievements. His book Carl Witt's Education is a wonderful work in the history of Chinese and foreign education, a true record of his educational methods and teaching experience, and the originator of modern family education books.
10. educational purpose
acne miliaris
Highlight: The greatest value of this book is that Whitehead, as a process philosopher, has keenly grasped the basic rhythm of education, namely "romance-precision-synthesis" and "freedom-discipline". Although Whitehead explained his very important thoughts as easily as possible, there is still a process to truly understand Whitehead's thoughts, but once truly understood and mastered, these thoughts will become a very useful force and become one of the cornerstones of our parents' thinking education.
Skills of educating children
One: Respect for children's "sophistry"-feedback effect
Whenever parents point out their children's mistakes, children always find many reasons to prove their innocence. At this time, parents generally call their children's behavior "sophistry" angrily. In fact, this is not sophistry, but a kind of feedback from children to their parents' education.
Education is a two-way street. Parents should not only teach, but also accept children's feedback, so that education can achieve the most perfect effect. However, many parents are not aware of this. They just "teach" themselves and don't care about their children's information feedback. Such education often fails to achieve the purpose that parents want.
Second, analyze and respect children's feedback.
When children give feedback on our education, we must first analyze this feedback. Of course, this analysis is not only aimed at children's language, but also includes children's movements and expressions.
However, it is worth parents' attention that children's feedback should be respected regardless of whether it is "sophistry". In the above-mentioned educational cases, when the children tell the reason why "the children in our class say so", the mother yells at the children without analyzing their feedback. Is this a sign of disrespect for children's feedback? Therefore, the mother doesn't know the truth of the child's feedback-she doesn't think "you are so stupid" is a dirty word.
It is conceivable that parents misunderstand and suppress their children's feedback. In the long run, children will never give positive feedback to their mothers' education. Without children's cooperation, parents can't educate their children.
Third, educate children's feedback purposefully.
When analyzing the problems of children's feedback, parents can carry out purposeful education on children's feedback. For example, if children don't know the importance of politeness when giving feedback, parents will never do it again. They can tell their children the importance of being polite through examples and reasons, and guide them to be polite children. If the child's feedback is that he doesn't want to know the responsibility caused by his recent wrong words and deeds, parents should isolate the child and let him become a person who knows his mistakes and corrects them, and dare to do something. ...
In short, no matter what feedback children have on their parents' education, respecting and analyzing children's feedback is the primary prerequisite for achieving educational goals.
Fourth, family education should not be inconsistent-Watch Theorem
Psychologists have done an experiment: give a person a watch, and when someone asks him the time, he can tell it quickly and confidently; However, when the man got two different watches, the watchmaker could not know the time quickly. Because two watches can't tell a person a more accurate time, on the contrary, it will make people who look at the watch lose confidence in the accurate time. Psychologists call this phenomenon "watch phenomenon", and draw a conclusion that there can only be one guiding principle or value orientation in doing things. Later, people called this conclusion "Watch Theorem".
The experience of educating children
First, give children more praise and encouragement. Some people say that "a good boy likes to brag". I quite agree with this view. As long as the child makes a little progress, it is necessary to praise her in time, give her a sense of accomplishment and urge her to make persistent efforts; Try not to scold her face when you step back, and don't compare your children with others' children. Every child has many bright spots. If parents often praise and encourage their children, they will certainly perform better.
Second, cultivate children's awareness and develop good habits. Educator Sun Yunxiao said: "Habit determines the fate of children." It can be seen how important good habits are to children. The primary school stage is the stage when children's consciousness and good habits are formed. Parents should let their children know what is right and what is wrong. When to do your homework and when to play. Usually, I always encourage her to go to bed early and get up early, let her get up early in the morning to watch the sun, and tell her that the most beautiful sunrise can only be seen by early children. Therefore, she gets up early every day and goes to read books after reading. Children spend most of their time at school, and the school has a strong learning atmosphere. Children know what to do, but they don't know when to go home from school.
So I always let her go home from school and finish her homework first, and don't allow her family to disturb her homework. Children love reading, first of all, they should form the habit of loving reading. Parents bring books, children will follow suit, and habits will naturally form. I bought a lot of books for my daughter and read them for half an hour before going to bed every night. I read my book, she reads her book, and she will read it with relish. However, good habits are not formed overnight, and they should be persevered and accumulated over time.
Third, cultivate children's independence. I used to be meticulous, and as a result, my child developed the psychology of dependence. Now, I don't remind her anymore, let her check her bag by herself. If I bring less, I won't ask if the teacher criticizes me. She already knows that all these things in life and study are her own business, and she is responsible for her actions, so that she will be a responsible person in the future.
Fourth, contact teachers frequently to learn about children's learning situation and performance at school. Families and schools should always keep in touch and be consistent. Parents should take the initiative to visit the teacher at school, reflect their children's learning situation and ideological attitude at home, and ask their children about their learning attitude at school, whether they are serious in class and whether they speak positively. If your child is insufficient in some aspects, you can have targeted education after returning to China to avoid detours and develop some bad habits.
Fifth, we should educate our children to study hard and aim high. People can't achieve great things without ambition. Ambition is a person's goal. Urge children to have clear goals, and ask them to have ambitions, a clear direction and study hard. At home, ask children to make "parents should not slow down when they call;" Parents, don't be lazy. At school, children are required to "respect teachers and listen to their teaching". "Listen carefully in class and finish all the homework assigned by the teacher on time; Unite classmates and learn from each other's strengths; Do as many things as possible that are beneficial to the public at school. Strictly abide by the school rules, strive to become excellent students with all-round development in morality, intelligence and physique, and serve the motherland and people in the future. Being a wise, virtuous and conscious person is our expectation and educational program for children.
Watching children change day by day, as a parent, I see it in my eyes and like it in my heart. I know that every progress she has made is inseparable from the teachers' earnest teaching, the selfless help of her classmates and the hard work of her parents. I have reason to believe that with our company and scientific guidance from teachers, children will grow up healthily and they will be our pride.