There are some different theories about the emergence of Confucius in history. Most of them are conjectures and cannot be confirmed. What is certain is that the intuitive impression Confucius gives people is that of a handsome Shandong man, a very powerful man.
What kind of woman is she who can start a family and have children with a saint? What is the demeanor of a saint’s wife? Everyone is probably eager and curious. But unfortunately, this Mrs. Kong has been lost in history. It is a record of Confucius' words and deeds by his disciples and subsequent disciples, but there is not a word in the book about his wife. There have been many scholars who studied Confucius throughout the ages, but I have never seen anyone who specialized in studying his wife. But Confucius must have a wife. Because, the Analects of Confucius records Confucius’s godson and married daughter. Confucius had a rough life. He lost his father soon after his birth and his mother when he was seventeen. Although Confucius had nine sisters and one brother, they were all half-brothers. Confucius's younger brother Meng Pi was disabled and lame. Confucius could get married without the help of brothers and sisters. That a "poor and humble" orphan could marry a wife and have children by his own ability not only illustrates Confucius' outstanding character, words and deeds, but also proves that the girl who had a crush on him was indeed thoughtful and discerning.
This girl is Guan Qi’s family. Like Confucius, she is a descendant of the Song Dynasty. The two people have the same origin in national culture, so naturally they have a little more in common with each other. In 533 BC, the 19-year-old Confucius married his wife. A year later, Guan Qi's wife gave birth to a son. Lu sent a carp to congratulate him. Confucius felt very honored and named his son Carp and Yu Bo. Later, Guan Qi also gave birth to a daughter. They have children and life is supposed to be a "good" one. However, according to some ancient books, Confucius divorced his wife after giving birth to a son for Confucius. He was the first Chinese celebrity to be involved in divorce. However, it was not called "divorce" at that time, it was called "divorcing your wife" or "divorcing your wife", and it was once called "divorce".
We naturally wonder why Confucius got divorced, but there is no record in the history books. We can see specific data that proves that their relationship between husband and wife was not good, which is the record of the Analects:
Mother Fish was still crying when she died. When the teacher heard this, he said: "Who is crying?" The man said: "Carp." The owner: "Hey! Even so!" "The fish smelled it and then got rid of it.
Confucius' When his mother passed away a year ago, his son Kong Li cried because he missed his mother, and was reprimanded by Confucius for going too far. From Confucius' rebuke to Kong Li, we can feel that their relationship was too cold. According to Tan Gong, "Confucius was married in three generations." Confucius, Kong Li, and Confucius' grandson Kong_ were all divorced.
There were many debates in history about whether Confucius was "married" and why. The explanation of this article in Tan Gongnian of Kong Zailiji is: Although Kong Li's mother was abdicated by Confucius at that time, Kong Li, as her son, could still mourn for her within one year after her death, and she should not mourn her after the anniversary. Crying. Confucius thought this was against etiquette and blamed Kong Li. Today, due to our age and limited information, it is difficult to determine the reason for Confucius' divorce. The relationship between his wife and his wife was indeed not good. In the tenth year of Duke Ai of Lu, his wife died as an official. Confucius died seven years ago when he was defending his family and the country, hoping to realize his political ideals, so they had not seen each other for more than ten years. There is no connection with each other. Confucius's disciples should be familiar with and understand the teacher's family situation, so the Book of Rites and Zhengyi do not record it.
Due to the lack of historical records, the joys, sorrows and joys of the Guan Qi family have remained unknown in history. Until the Song Dynasty, Confucianism became more prosperous. In the first year of Dazhong Xiangfu, Guan Qi's family was named "Mrs. Yun Guo" by Song Zhenzong Zhao Heng. , Confucius changed her name to "The Holy Master", and she was also called the "Wife of the Holy Master". After Confucius died, Guan Qi's family died together with Confucius. Since the Tang Dynasty, there have been special sleeping halls. There are statues.
Whether it is sacrifice or "taking a wife" or "divorcing", her fate is the fate of countless women in history. , flowers bloom and fall. They quietly dedicated their lives to their families and children, but disappeared into history in droves.