1. What to prepare for the burial of ashes
I checked some information, but there is no record of burial procedures (customs). I have an American ritual here to see if it is useful to you. I think it's good, and we can learn from it: The United States has agencies responsible for issuing death certificates and arranging funeral ceremonies, and cemeteries also have personnel who are dedicated to arranging funerals.
Cemeteries often have church-like buildings, but there are no statues of gods inside. Both religious and non-religious funerals can be held here. The funeral program of a religious ceremony usually includes prayers, singing of hymns and eulogies from the priest.
After the funeral, people bid farewell to the body and then take the deceased to the cemetery for burial in a hearse. The hearse is black: the windows are covered with black gauze.
The hearse is at the front of the funeral procession, followed closely by relatives of the deceased. Mourners all wear black or blue clothes, and men wear black ties.
The funeral procession is very solemn and pedestrians are not allowed to disrupt the funeral procession. Arriving at the cemetery, there was a short burial ceremony.
Cemeteries generally place several rows of seats around the grave for the family members of the deceased to pay their respects. The funeral relatives cover the tomb one by one in order of their relationship with the deceased. This is only symbolic.
Then workers drove bulldozers to quickly fill the grave, compacted the soil with electric tampers, and then laid green turf. The characteristic of American funerals is that people just quietly meditate and pray beside the coffin, without beating their chests or crying bitterly; and they maintain a solemn atmosphere from beginning to end, without hosting a banquet.
2. Are there any particularities when burying ashes?
1. Is there any ceremony required when taking out the urn from the funeral home? After the ashes are taken out from the funeral home, they cannot see the light until they are buried and covered with a stone slab on the tomb. A large piece of cloth must be used above the urn to block the sun, and at least two people need to hold the cloth.
It would be best to use a tent. 2. Are the grain jars placed inside the tomb? What texture is not easily weathered or degraded? I generally don't use this at home. Things that are easily corroded are best placed outside the tomb. If you are afraid of being stolen, it is best to use glue to secure them firmly.
The management office in Dongshan sells those square plastic sealed storage boxes used to store urns. One of the urns was soaked in water and was infested by insects. But I think it’s best not to put the grain cans you mentioned in there.
3. How to place the Seven Spoon Star? Is it on top of the "gold paving" and underneath the plastic box? I'm not sure about this, you should ask others. 4. There is no need for a large number of people to be buried, right? I think 5 or 6 people are enough? When it comes to burial, it is mainly the juniors of the deceased who go there. Spouses generally avoid being too sad and sad. If there are only a small number of juniors and their spouses, you can ask friends who have a good relationship with the juniors to help. Generally, as long as there are enough people and you are busy, Just come here. You need to do some calculations. The eldest son must hold the urn, and at least two people must hold tents to block the sun. About five people are more suitable. It is best to have a backbone person among them to direct the process in an orderly manner.
5. What kind of texture should I buy for the incense burner? Because porcelain is usually purchased outside the tomb, it is cheap and practical. There are many people in the cemetery who recycle those things and sell them back.
Therefore, it is best to use porcelain and use white cement to firmly fix it on the cement ground in front of the tomb, so as not to damage the surface of the tomb.
In this case, even if the incense burner is destroyed, the loss will not be big. If you use a metal incense burner, which is more expensive, it will be easier for those people to steal it.
6. My father died of illness, so it is not considered a funeral. What should I pay attention to in the procedure? Just don’t make it too grand, don’t set off firecrackers or anything like that, just keep a low profile.
7. Ask elders or professionals to list the specific burial procedures.
I am neither an elder nor a professional. Although I am not very old, because there are not many relatives in my family, I personally participated in the events of my grandfather, grandmother, grandpa, and mother from the death to the funeral. The whole process of burial. But since my family may not be very particular about these things, and the process is relatively simple, I would like to trouble you to ask someone with more experience for more details.
3. What are the specialties for burying ashes?
It depends on where you are buried. If it is buried in the graveyard of your home, you can place the funerary objects as you like.
If you are buried in a cemetery, you must follow the relevant regulations of the cemetery. Some cemeteries do not allow customers to place funerary objects in the grave. If there is no requirement, it is recommended that you place some plastic ingots or the like. Yes, it is popular in the northern region to put 4 ingots and 7 copper coins into the tomb. The ingots are divided into two gold and two silver, and are placed at the four corners of the tomb, which means that the four corners bring wealth. The 7 copper coins and the Big Dipper coins are placed at the bottom of the urn. ! Or put some few stone lions or jade products, these items will not deteriorate! It is recommended not to store metal products. Firstly, such items contain radiation, which is not good for the souls and bones of loved ones. Secondly, such items are easily oxidized when exposed to moisture, leading to rust and blackening! It is not advisable to put too many things in the tomb, and only two or three representative things can be selected.
4. How to bury ashes
After the initial mourning, mourning, mourning, funeral and other ceremonies, the last step is burial.
This is the last moment of the deceased's stay in the world, and it is usually very solemn. Due to the different living environments of various ethnic groups, many different burial customs and rituals have been formed. This burial ceremony reflects people's worship of the soul. The Han people mainly practice burial. The cemetery is the final resting place of the deceased, so the choice of the cemetery is the top priority for burying the deceased. The cemetery should be chosen in a place with broad terrain and beautiful mountains and rivers, and find auspicious points where the vitality condenses, so that the deceased can rest in peace underground and protect the descendants.
This kind of burial ceremony is very particular and cumbersome. The people who carry the coffin are called "Eight Immortals", and the holes dug for the coffin are called "drilling holes". Before the acupoints are drilled, sacrifices must be made to open the mountain. The filial son must burn incense and light candles to perform the opening ceremony. In some places, it is necessary to invite earth immortals and draw Tai Sui. When digging mountains, avoid the direction of Tai Sui, otherwise it will be "Tai Sui's head" and the family will be bereaved. suffered disaster. When digging the mountain, you need to drive wooden stakes before and after the tomb,
and then ask the dutiful son to dig three times with a hoe within the area of ??the wooden pile. Then the Eight Immortals came over to make acupoints, and after they were done
they burned the portrait of Tai Sui. In this kind of tomb, the coffin is pushed in. At the bottom of the tomb are two pieces of bamboo or small smooth and moist fir trees that have been peeled off. When placing it, put the upper part of the coffin on it, and then use a crowbar to push it in. After pushing it in, pull out the bottom, and finally shovel some turf to seal the hole tightly.
There are many interesting customs after the coffin is parked on the mountain. In some places, a filial daughter-in-law has to bow before the soul
and then hold a handful of loess wrapped in her arms, run home and scatter the loess in the pig pen, chicken coop and under the bed.
It is said that you can get the blessing of the dead in this way. If you have many wives, you have to strive for the first one to be lucky. Some people even take off their shoes and take a shortcut home by water. After scattering the loess, the daughter-in-law has to rush to the kitchen to eat a few mouthfuls of food. This is called "bringing in treasure" and is for good luck.
In the old days, people valued sacrificial tombs. During the sacrifice, a rooster was killed and its blood was used as a sacrifice. The rooster will not die immediately, but will flutter repeatedly in the tomb. According to the old saying, wherever the rooster dies in the tomb, the descendants of that part will prosper. The feathers fluttered by the rooster are called "phoenix feathers" and must be picked out. Before burial, the dead son will store grains made of whole grains in the tomb. The mouth of the store is covered with a small pancake. There is also a ceramic jar placed in the tomb, and a soybean oil lamp is placed on top of the jar, which is called an everlasting lamp. In some places, a bronze mirror is embedded in the tomb to symbolize the sun.
In ancient times, wealthy people had to stay away from the tomb, shoot three arrows, and then immediately retreat. I dare not get close to the coffin because I am worried that I will not be able to suppress the ghosts and will suffer disaster. Cannons must be fired when the coffin is placed in the tomb, which is said to be a farewell ceremony for the deceased to go to the underworld.
According to the old rules, the time of burial must also be particular. The coffin must fall to the earth after the sun sets.
When the earth falls, the "Eight Immortals" pull the brown rope and slowly lower it. After everything is stable, the relatives must grab the earth and throw it onto the coffin. This is called "adding earth". After the coffin is lowered, it should first be covered with a thin layer of soil, and then the soil swept out of the tomb should be sprinkled on top. After that, a bowl should be placed, called a "clothing and rice bowl." This is done so that when moving the grave in the future, you can move more gently to avoid disturbing the souls of the dead and causing misfortune.
Folk customs believe that the soul of a person after death may escape from the grave at any time and follow the living person home.
Therefore, the buried person must circle the tomb three times, and it is strictly forbidden to look back on the way home. Otherwise, seeing traces of the deceased's
soul in the underworld will be detrimental to both parties. In fact, this is also a measure of condolences. Otherwise
it would be difficult to persuade the relatives of the deceased who would keep looking back and be reluctant to leave.
After burial, people must wash their hands, and some even use wine to wash them. This means that no one will die again in the future, and is used to drive away bad luck. Then the bereaved family thanks the drummer and the guests. Afterwards, a funeral ceremony will be held to pay homage to the spirit of the deceased
. In some places, after the deceased's death, as long as they are relatives, they have to eat together. This is called "grabbing the last meal".
In Jiangsu and Zhejiang, there is a custom of drinking "longevity soup" and eating "longevity beans". That is to say, after an elderly person over seventy years old dies
, on the day of the funeral, the bereaved family will prepare a large bucket of meat and bone soup, which is "longevity soup", and boil it in a large pot.
Splendid yellow soybeans are "longevity beans". When mourners come back, they have to drink a small bowl of longevity soup and eat some longevity beans at will, which means "adding blessings and longevity". In some places, the fragrant and glutinous longevity beans are distributed to the children in the neighborhood. The saying is that eating longevity beans will make you live longer in the future.
5. What is the difference between the burial of ashes and the burial of remains?
The burial of ashes and the burial of remains. The burial of ashes: the power is small, but the effect of burial of remains is not strong. You can see below for details. article.
There is a saying in the Book of Burial "Book of Burial": "Those who are buried take advantage of the vitality. The energy of yin and yang rises and becomes wind, rises and becomes clouds, and falls and becomes rain.
It travels to the earth to generate vitality, and arises from all things. People receive Qi from their parents, and their bodies receive shade.
The Qi condenses and forms bones. , died and left alone, so when buried, the negative energy enters and is generated by the shadow. This is: choose a place with vitality for burial, which is the so-called geomantic treasure land. Only with vitality can all things exist.
People are the product of Qi, and the human body is formed by the condensation of Qi. When a person dies, the Qi dissipates, leaving only a lifeless skeleton.
If the bones are buried in a place where there is life, The dead bones will be reborn, and the soul will be sublimated. Everyone is born of their parents, just like a big tree. The parents are the "roots" of the tree, and the descendants are the "branches" of the parents in the world.
When the bones of parents are revived in the ground, the "origin" will be full of vitality, and the "branches" connected to the "origin" will also benefit greatly. The branches will be luxuriant and the blessings will be long.