Successful people spend a lot of money to pursue Harvard's "happiness training class"
Peace of mind. In the relationship between husband and wife, don't guess and confirm. For example, husbands always think that wives should know what they don't like and their own personality. Don't take everything for granted. The correct thing is that you should tell each other what you like. "Four kinds of hamburgers, four kinds of life" Taylor talked about four life patterns in class, which is said to be summarized from hamburgers. The first kind of hamburger, which tastes attractive, is a standard "junk food". Eating it is equivalent to enjoying the happiness of the present, but also burying the pain of the future. Using it to compare life is to eat, drink and sell a happy life in the future, that is, "hedonism"; The second kind of hamburger tastes bad. It is full of vegetables and organic food. Eating it can make people healthier, but it will be very painful. Sacrificing immediate happiness in pursuit of future goals, he called it "busy running"; The third kind of hamburger is the worst. It is neither delicious nor healthy in the future. People like this have lost their hope and pursuit of life, neither enjoying the present nor looking forward to the future, which is "nihilism"; Will there be another delicious and healthy hamburger? This is the fourth "happy" hamburger. A happy person can not only enjoy what he is doing now, but also get a better future. Taylor said, "Unfortunately, most people in real life are very busy." People habitually pay attention to the next goal, but often ignore the immediate things. Why are there so many busy people today? Taylor explained: Because people are often deceived by "the illusion of happiness". "The social environment and cultural background in which we live is this: if children get straight A's, parents will reward them; If employees do well, the boss will give bonuses. People habitually pay attention to the next goal, but often ignore the immediate things, and finally, lead to blind pursuit for life. " Speaking of which, all the students present nodded their heads. Ms Hu Haiyan, the representative office of the European Financial Group Bank, said, "Now every time I drive to the airport, I always pay attention to the roadside. There is a tree here and a flower there; I used to be in a hurry until I got to the airport. Where can I care about the scenery? " After the training, Su Xi wants to switch to a psychology lecturer. China version of "Happy Classroom" began to grab tickets ■ Theme: Positive Psychology (No one can tell you what happiness is, because everyone has a different understanding. However, the ability to perceive happiness can be trained. Positive psychology is a course that makes you put your mind right and feel more happy. ) ■ Address: Fashion Building, No.9 Guanghua Road/small conference hall on the 7th floor of Kloc-0 ■ Lecture time:10,31,19 -2 1, and the time for grabbing tickets that night ■ As of1October 30th 9. We will randomly select 10 lucky readers from all the short message lists to inform the lecture by phone (the charge for each short message in this activity is 1 yuan, excluding communication fee). ◎ Text/Reporter Xu Ying ◎ Photo courtesy/Asian Institute of Positive Psychology
Peace of mind. In the relationship between husband and wife, don't guess and confirm. For example, husbands always think that wives should know what they don't like and their own personality. Don't take everything for granted. The correct thing is that you should tell each other what you like. "Four kinds of hamburgers, four kinds of life" Taylor talked about four life patterns in class, which is said to be summarized from hamburgers. The first kind of hamburger, which tastes attractive, is a standard "junk food". Eating it is equivalent to enjoying the happiness of the present, but also burying the pain of the future. Using it to compare life is to eat, drink and sell a happy life in the future, that is, "hedonism"; The second kind of hamburger tastes bad. It is full of vegetables and organic food. Eating it can make people healthier, but it will be very painful. Sacrificing immediate happiness in pursuit of future goals, he called it "busy running"; The third kind of hamburger is the worst. It is neither delicious nor healthy in the future. People like this have lost their hope and pursuit of life, neither enjoying the present nor looking forward to the future, which is "nihilism"; Will there be another delicious and healthy hamburger? This is the fourth "happy" hamburger. A happy person can not only enjoy what he is doing now, but also get a better future. Taylor said, "Unfortunately, most people in real life are very busy." People habitually pay attention to the next goal, but often ignore the immediate things. Why are there so many busy people today? Taylor explained: Because people are often deceived by "the illusion of happiness". "The social environment and cultural background in which we live is this: if children get straight A's, parents will reward them; If employees do well, the boss will give bonuses. People habitually pay attention to the next goal, but often ignore the immediate things, and finally, lead to blind pursuit for life. " Speaking of which, all the students present nodded their heads. Ms Hu Haiyan, the representative office of the European Financial Group Bank, said, "Now every time I drive to the airport, I always pay attention to the roadside. There is a tree here and a flower there; I used to be in a hurry until I got to the airport. Where can I care about the scenery? " After the training, Su Xi wants to switch to a psychology lecturer. China version of "Happy Classroom" began to grab tickets ■ Theme: Positive Psychology (No one can tell you what happiness is, because everyone has a different understanding. However, the ability to perceive happiness can be trained. Positive psychology is a course that makes you put your mind right and feel more happy. ) ■ Address: Fashion Building, No.9 Guanghua Road/small conference hall on the 7th floor of Kloc-0 ■ Lecture time:10,31,19 -2 1, and the time for grabbing tickets that night ■ As of1October 30th 9. We will randomly select 10 lucky readers from all the short message lists to inform the lecture by phone (the charge for each short message in this activity is 1 yuan, excluding communication fee). Successful people spend a lot of money to pursue Harvard's "happiness training class". Reporter Xu Ying ◎ Photo courtesy of Asian Institute of Positive Psychology "Positive Psychology", the first course in Harvard University, landed in China. The Asian Institute of Positive Psychology introduced this course and invited its lecturer, Taylor Ben-shachar, a lecturer at Harvard University. The training fee of $3,000 and the three-day closed course are to help people find ways to get happiness. Can the method of finding happiness be trained? 165438+ 10 In October, Taylor Ben-shachar, a 36-year-old unknown lecturer at Harvard University, will come to China again with a "happiness class". In April and July this year, he has trained 30 people "the ability to perceive happiness". Our reporter will solve this mystery for you. Happiness is the first elective course in Harvard University. At Harvard University, there is such a course, which is also the most popular elective course for undergraduates in 2006. Ni Zijun, chairman of the Asian Institute of Positive Psychology, said that this course is called "Positive Psychology", and the students who chose this course have surpassed the introduction to economics and reached the first place. In fact, it took people at Harvard years to accept positive psychology. Taylor Benshak put it this way in his book The Road to Happiness: In 2002, I first taught positive psychology at Harvard. At that time, eight students signed up and two dropped out. In the second year, nearly 400 students participated in this course. In the third year, the number of students reached 850. In 2006, more than 65,438+0,000 students participated in this course, surpassing Man Kun's introduction to economics. All the participants in the training are successful people. In July this year, Taylor started the second training course in Beijing County Palace. Bing Wang, chief researcher of the Asian Institute of Positive Psychology, who introduced the course, said that Taylor had received two trainings in China in April and July this year. Only 10 students registered in the first phase, and the number of participants in the second phase increased to 20. Most of the students are entrepreneurs, including CEOs of listed companies and representatives of multinational companies in China. "We are getting richer, but why are we still unhappy?" This is the reason why these successful people come to participate in the training. Sun Limin, a manager in a multinational company, seems to be very successful to outsiders, but when he thinks about what happiness is, he often gets no answer. Calligrapher Xi Shu is also one of the second batch of trainees. He told reporters, "In 2000, the company suffered a fatal blow, which is irresistible. In 2003, we met SARS again. Until last year, the downward trend could not be changed. This means that 12' s career will be abandoned. It is very helpless to make such a decision. After all, there are more than 600 national chain stores in China ... The glory of the past, the expectations of employees and the industry have gone away ... I am in an anxious state. " Most of the trainees told the reporter of Youth Weekend that these three days have benefited a lot. Happy teacher is shy, blue shirt, yellow honeycomb tie, black hair and rimless glasses. This is Taylor Ben Shachar, a little-known lecturer at Harvard University. He often lowers his eyes when giving speeches. The students who have taken Taylor's "Happy Course" have the same impression that "Taylor is very shy". Hu Haiyan, representative of the European Financial Group Bank Representative Office, described the first time he met Taylor. "Taylor is very much like an oriental. He is very shy. Taylor walked into the conference room, and her face was still a little red. He was embarrassed to say hello to us, lowered his head and went straight to his seat. " "He took a few deep breaths. He's a little nervous. He needs to adjust his state. Bing Wang, Taylor's teaching assistant and chief researcher of the Asian Institute of Positive Psychology, observed these subtle changes. "I also tried to be like those successful teachers, but I found I couldn't. I am who I am. This is my teaching style. " Taylor also clearly expressed his personality to the students. Taylor's voice is soft, her tone is consistent, and she even speaks a little slowly. His opening remarks were frank: "You won't learn anything new from me. You know everything I say ... all I have to do is remind you of these truths that you all know but have been ignored for a long time and start to really change your lives. " The students below didn't respond, and there was even some ice. "At that time, many people held a wait-and-see attitude. What can Taylor see? " Xi Shu said, "Foreign teachers are generally not like this, especially American teachers. Say hello as soon as you enter the door, and the atmosphere will be lifted at once. " Taylor Ben-Shahar stood up and turned to the whiteboard behind him. He drew a parabola on it, and a horizontal line passed through the two ends of the parabola one-sixth above it. "Let's draw an iceberg and see what characteristics we have as leaders?" The 20 students present, as leaders of various companies, are talking about "Do you want us to talk about our potential?" "Suppose leadership is an iceberg, and the above 5% to 10% are the qualities we can see as leaders, such as fame and honor. Please tell us what else can represent the characteristics of leaders? " It turns out that Taylor is not talking about the potential of leaders. "Followers" and "influence", the students spoke one by one. "Is there anything else?" "Passion, charm." "So Harvard University's number one course" Positive Psychology "landed in China, and the Asian Institute of Positive Psychology introduced this course and invited its lecturer, Harvard lecturer Taylor Ben-shachar.
The training fee of $3,000 and the three-day closed course are to help people find ways to get happiness. Can the method of finding happiness be trained?
Peace of mind. In the relationship between husband and wife, don't guess and confirm. For example, husbands always think that wives should know what they don't like and their own personality. Don't take everything for granted. The correct thing is that you should tell each other what you like. "Four kinds of hamburgers, four kinds of life" Taylor talked about four life patterns in class, which is said to be summarized from hamburgers. The first kind of hamburger, which tastes attractive, is a standard "junk food". Eating it is equivalent to enjoying the happiness of the present, but also burying the pain of the future. Using it to compare life is to eat, drink and sell a happy life in the future, that is, "hedonism"; The second kind of hamburger tastes bad. It is full of vegetables and organic food. Eating it can make people healthier, but it will be very painful. Sacrificing immediate happiness in pursuit of future goals, he called it "busy running"; The third kind of hamburger is the worst. It is neither delicious nor healthy in the future. People like this have lost their hope and pursuit of life, neither enjoying the present nor looking forward to the future, which is "nihilism"; Will there be another delicious and healthy hamburger? This is the fourth "happy" hamburger. A happy person can not only enjoy what he is doing now, but also get a better future. Taylor said, "Unfortunately, most people in real life are very busy." People habitually pay attention to the next goal, but often ignore the immediate things. Why are there so many busy people today? Taylor explained: Because people are often deceived by "the illusion of happiness". "The social environment and cultural background in which we live is this: if children get straight A's, parents will reward them; If employees do well, the boss will give bonuses. People habitually pay attention to the next goal, but often ignore the immediate things, and finally, lead to blind pursuit for life. " Speaking of which, all the students present nodded their heads. Ms Hu Haiyan, the representative office of the European Financial Group Bank, said, "Now every time I drive to the airport, I always pay attention to the roadside. There is a tree here and a flower there; I used to be in a hurry until I got to the airport. Where can I care about the scenery? " After the training, Su Xi wants to switch to a psychology lecturer. China version of "Happy Classroom" began to grab tickets ■ Theme: Positive Psychology (No one can tell you what happiness is, because everyone has a different understanding. However, the ability to perceive happiness can be trained. Positive psychology is a course that makes you put your mind right and feel more happy. ) ■ Address: Fashion Building, No.9 Guanghua Road/small conference hall on the 7th floor of Kloc-0 ■ Lecture time:10,31,19 -2 1, and the time for grabbing tickets that night ■ As of1October 30th 9. We will randomly select 10 lucky readers from all the short message lists to inform the lecture by phone (the charge for each short message in this activity is 1 yuan, excluding communication fee). What about under the iceberg? "Loneliness," said the first student, referring to his own feelings. There was silence for a while, then "fear", "stress", "fatigue" and "jealousy" ... The students began to complain, and the chatterboxes opened. Recovering self-confidence from the three most successful things after the iceberg test, the atmosphere of the students is different, and everyone is screaming. "Please close your eyes and recall your three most successful things." The simultaneous interpreter translated Taylor Ben-Shahar's words to the 20 students present. Taylor's voice was soft and calm. This is his first lesson-self-acceptance, complete human. The students present closed their eyes and entered a state of meditation. Like a movie, the past more than 20 years ago clearly came to Xi Shu's mind. I also unconsciously had a smile on my face. "At the age of 22, when I was a young man, I ran to Beijing from Zhengzhou with some friends. I have no background and no money. Several people plan to hold the "First Hard Pen Calligraphy Exhibition in China". From winning sponsorship to inviting famous artists to write inscriptions, finding relevant national leaders and negotiating exhibition business with the Central Art Museum ... ""You know, when I recall these successful past, I feel great. " Xi Shu said, "The second thing is that I went to the sea for the second time at 1992 and found myself very capable of planning and designing." In the process of recalling these three successful things, Xi Shu said that he realized his strengths. "I feel that I have planning and design ability, planning ability and keen marketing ability." In the experience of China people, they are always not used to copying their own success, thinking that the past success will be over if the hero does not mention the courage of the year. After sharing the pain and making a student cry, Taylor divided two people into groups, recalled their most painful experiences and shared them with each other. "China people said that the past was terrible because we had too much regret. Now we must not only remember, but also share. " After sharing his painful past with his classmates as an experience and memory, Xi Shu found that he could accept past failures. "After accepting failure, the pain becomes different. At this time, failure becomes the most precious experience in your life, and you begin to accept it as a part of your life. " The process of sharing in the middle is particularly enlightening, especially when talking between two people. "Xi Shu admitted that on the first day of this course, he was still very nervous, and the next day, he completely let go. On the first night of training, a student who had not cried for many years cried in the temporary residence of training. Taylor asked us to reflect on our success and failure, which is actually the first part of the happy class-accepting ourselves unconditionally and truly being ourselves. "Use constant questions to test what you really want to do. In class, Taylor said, "We can constantly ask' why' to reflect on what we are pursuing: it can be a big house, a promotion or any other goal. How many' why' do you have to ask to get into the pursuit of' happiness'? Ask yourself, what I do, does it mean anything to me? Did they bring me happiness? Does my heart encourage me to try different things? Are you reminding me that I need to change my life completely? "Taylor asked the audience to ask themselves the following three key questions first: First, what brings me meaning? Second, what brings me happiness? Third, what are my strengths? Pay attention to the order. Then look at the answers and find the intersection. That job is the one that can make you feel happiest. " Life is too short to decide what you can do before choosing the road. Among them, do what you want. Then refine it and find out what you really want to do. Finally, for those things that you really want to do, put them into action. Xi Shu recalled: "Some people will oppose material things and happiness, thinking that abstinence is happiness, while Taylor thinks that money and happiness are necessities for survival, and they are not mutually exclusive. "Taylor believes that, generally speaking, the more interested a person is, the more he can exert his talents and the longer he can do it. Once people have enthusiasm, they will not only have firm motivation, but also improve work efficiency. Many studies show that a happy person will succeed in all aspects of life, including marriage, friendship, income, work performance and health. There is a strong interaction between happiness and success, whether it is work or emotional success, it can bring happiness; And happiness itself can bring more success. Reflect on your personal network Dentelle hangs a picture and asks students to fill in their personal network in the box. After Xi Shu filled it out, he found that the column of tutor was empty. In Taylor's theoretical system, interpersonal relationship is a very important supporting system for our career and happiness. " If not, you can think about who can develop into your mentor. And buddies, confidants. Actually, one or two is enough for you. If you don't have these people in your life, then you can think about who can develop, which will let you know what you should do and what you should pay attention to. ""This module mainly focuses on the relationship between husband and wife and parent-child. Taylor asked each of us to write down our ideal partner. Suppose we marry the girl of our dreams. Ten years later, if you don't run the business, even if you get the ideal partner, you will still have a new desire for younger people who make you feel fresh. Just because they are the best will not satisfy 1 1. /kloc-in October, Taylor Ben-shachar, a 36-year-old unknown lecturer at Harvard University, will come to China again with a "happiness class". In April and July this year, he has trained 30 people "the ability to perceive happiness". Our reporter will solve this mystery for you.