Intelligence perceives things with intuitive thinking and develops by leaps and bounds in the imaginary world.
Human beings are great because of it, and the wings of imagination push human cognition of the world to a climax. Intuitive thinking is an innate way of thinking of human beings and a continuation of the development of civilization for thousands of years. Although it came from the ancient flood era, it still plays a decisive role in human thinking today. Not only that, but also the happiness index of human life is an indispensable and important cornerstone.
There is a passage in Jung's autobiography that describes an incident when Jung was seven or eight years old: "There is a slope in front of this wall, and a prominent stone is buried in the slope. This is my stone. When I am alone, I often sit on it and think,' I am sitting on a stone now, and the stone is under me.' But the stone can also say' I' and think' I am lying on this slope and he is sitting on me. So the question came:' am I sitting on a stone or am I sitting on his stone?' This question always leaves me at a loss. I always stand up and don't know who is who. The answer to this question has never been clear, and a strange and interesting sense of darkness accompanied my doubts. But there is no doubt that this stone has some mysterious relationship with me. I can sit for hours and be attracted by its mysterious questions. "
A stone can daydream a thousand times, and smart people specialize in this.
Intelligent characteristics
1, imagination VS want to do more and do less.
I am very imaginative since I was a child, and I like to let my thoughts fly quietly. When playing, it is easy to enter the animistic state. Every stone and tree become playmates, and it is easy to enter the fantasy world and swing at will. Jumping thinking often makes their words irrelevant and difficult to be understood by others. The water stains on the wall, the ripples on the lake and the mottled bright spots in the sun are all their most wonderful imagination materials.
It is their strength to make up for the lack of life with fantasy: if they don't get the car they want to buy, they will use imagination to own it, and they will still use two fingers instead of playing car wars; If someone has beautiful clothes and he doesn't, he will tell them that his father bought them for me and imagine himself as a princess in beautiful clothes.
It is easy to sit in a daze in the classroom after school, and it is their normal state that people don't move. Of course, if the teacher speaks humorously and interestingly, he will be firmly attracted and devoted to learning. I like to have my own unique ideas when doing problems, because they always cut in from the angle that others have not taken into account. If you like writing, articles will fly, and their wording and clever ideas of articles sometimes surprise teachers. They themselves will feel incredible, as if the magician pulled out these beautiful words from somewhere in his mind. But digression is also their strength, and they always feel that those awkward requirements are specious and difficult to grasp accurately.
The intelligent type in adulthood continues to play a role in the imaginary world, writing, performing, painting, various cultural and artistic work, creating inventions and so on. These jobs make the fantasy of love stronger; But if the opportunity is not right, they will be depressed if they fall into a situation where they can't spread their wings. Even if the outside world looks good and has a lot of income, it is still difficult for them to laugh from the heart. Their minds are full of fantastic ideas, just like daydreams. When I woke up, I threw off my sleeves, left those beautiful dreams that had been entrenched in their minds since I was a child, and faced the reality helplessly.
It is reported that a middle-aged male worker often told his wife that he would open a fried chicken shop, describing every detail and every step in detail, but after three years, he didn't move a step. Later, he said that he wanted to raise chickens and let his wife and family cook fried chicken, so that a business chain could be formed and more profits could be made. After talking for several years, I still stand still. This is a typical intelligent personality trait. If you don't understand, people around you will find such people unreasonable.
If working hours can't let their imagination fly, they can only make up for it in their spare time. Calligraphy, music, fishing, playing chess … all these can give their rich imagination a break.
If you don't have these, you will be addicted to computer games, smoking and drinking. When addicted, the brain enters the alpha wave state like being hypnotized, which is relaxed and comfortable. At this point, if we use the theory of personality four types to interpret it, we will enter a state of intelligence; If we use Freud's theory of personality structure to interpret it, we will enter the id world. Fantasy, daydreaming, physical and mental pleasure will eliminate the fatigue of work and the helplessness of life.
2. Strong innovation ability VS easy to make something out of nothing
Smart children often don't talk much, even later than the average person. Einstein is over three years old and can't speak yet. When he was seven or eight years old, his language was not very fluent. When they think about problems, they often have many pictures or rich feelings in their minds. At this time, the language center located in the left brain will weaken the stimulation to the brain and slow down the speech speed. If you speak slowly, you can't keep up with the rhythm in interpersonal communication. In the long run, they will talk less. The output is not large, but the internal output is extremely rich. They exist in the brain and have not been verified by objective facts. Finally, I can't figure out which of the "small movies" that are automatically played in my mind are true and which are false. Therefore, children's lies are mostly just imagination.
Growing up, smart thinking is still jumping. When I listen to others, I tend to absorb selectively. I only listen to what I think is the point, and it is difficult to understand what others think is the point.
In the process of socialization, intelligent thinking that jumps too much is often not understood or even denied by others. The enhancement of their own rationality will often suppress their intelligent characteristics and deny jumping thinking. The practice of "blocking" can only make smart people jump more, but it is better than childhood to choose occasions, when to relax and let go of their hearts, when to take care of smart jump thinking and concentrate on understanding other people's demands.
If we don't understand it from the personality theory, we will think that such people love to talk empty words and lies, and the water in their words is unreliable.
In old age, due to the weakening of self-care ability, fewer and fewer people speak. Many people with this personality trait, like children, confuse falsehood with truth. Thought it really happened, but it was just an illusion.
When this trait is used well, it is innovation, and unconventional ideas can only appear when thinking jumps. If a person's mind always pays close attention to the focus of others, but lacks his own focus, innovation will be difficult to happen. The popular cross-border thinking in the Internet age is the concrete embodiment of intelligent jump thinking.
3. High concentration VS narcissism
The focus here is not the focus in the general sense, but the state of immersion and ecstasy, which is a feature of intelligent thinking.
When entering this highly concentrated state, it is easy to be frightened by the sudden noise from the outside, just like when people are in a semi-sleep state, a noise will shock people for a long time before they can recover. Because I am too deep, I can't help blending what I am doing with my inner spirit.
Children are naturally full of intelligence, and other types develop slowly with age, so they are more likely to immerse themselves in their favorite things and show a state of fright.
The task of intelligence is to deal with the deepest things in your heart, so you have to go deep to get in, just like the deep courtyard of a big house. The reality is a state of keeping guard at the door and always being vigilant. As soon as something happens, you can make yourself react immediately, so you won't be scared by the general sound.
No matter what smart children do, they are easy to immerse themselves in their own feelings. After reading this book, I can't help being one of them, playing the story in the book; As simple as washing their faces and brushing their teeth, they can also enjoy it, staring blankly in the mirror, wandering in the mirror world, or looking for interesting crystal palaces in the water with only a few washbasins; After reading, they will also devote themselves to solving difficult problems, but the premise must be the knowledge they like to study ... as if they often walk slowly and can't do things simply and neatly. In fact, they are very focused, but they have long forgotten the outside world and are immersed in the warm and changeable daydream village composed of their own hearts. Although this feature is more prominent in childhood, children with smart personality are more likely to be immersed than ordinary children, so that they can't hear it, just like forgetting to redeem it at the butcher shop.
If you go deep for a long time and often go in, you will be prone to narcissism. In fact, narcissism is an intelligent self-evaluation, which is purely based on self-feeling. Traditionally, it refers to an objective overestimation of self.
Inferiority, self-confidence and narcissism are the self-evaluation results of different nodes on the same line.
Inferiority is a lack of self-confidence and feeling useless, which is lower than objective evaluation. Narcissism, overconfidence, feeling omnipotent, it is higher than objective evaluation. Self-confidence is the balance between self-evaluation and external evaluation, which is close to objectivity. The outside world says I'm fine, and I know it myself. Eight points of criticism from outside are not good, and three points are missing if you know it in your heart. It is an important indicator of mental health.
But as a child, his narcissism is a cornerstone of daring to contact the world. Everyone's growth follows the process from narcissism to self-confidence, because narcissism is innate. Cry when you are hungry. If you cry, someone will feed you and the world will revolve around him. The highest state of narcissism is like this, thinking that you can control the world.
It is difficult for a clever and powerful child to convince him with reason. You can use interesting forms such as "fooling", "children's words are unreasonable", "drawing" and "playing" (see the chapter on communication methods). Otherwise, in the face of accusations, complaints and criticisms, it is easy for children to take back their narcissistic but gentle, timid and fragile hearts, laying a hidden danger for future separation from society.
To become a member of society, an intelligent adult must have a certain degree of self-control, that is, the proportion of realistic personality must be sufficient. How much is enough is a very personal question, just like how much salt to put in cooking, it can be decided according to personal taste and dish characteristics. Otherwise, you may run away when you encounter difficulties, and stay at home and dare not enter the society.
This phenomenon was rare in the era of material scarcity, but now it can be seen everywhere when material is abundant. Being a family is not unreasonable.
Adults with strong intelligence like to immerse themselves in a person's gentle village as long as they have the opportunity. There is no danger, no pain, no pressure. They are relaxed, comfortable and refreshing. Immersion is not only to escape from the outside world, but also to have some fun for yourself sometimes. Dig a kind of knowledge, explore an idea, study a kind of personality ... sometimes, even playing games and reading books can make you happy and immersed in it. Especially in the dead of night, this feeling is even stronger, and you can achieve a state of forgetting yourself.
People with this personality are night owls and like to work at night. When all is silent, inspiration keeps coming, like an elf waking up and full of energy. During the day, noise is everywhere, and the secular world interferes with Eden. Inspiration is as dark as sunset glow, and immersion is easily disturbed.
They are either lazy and unwilling to move, or they are particularly immersed in the present and have no complaints.
Smart narcissism generally turns inward in adulthood to avoid being denied by others. On weekdays, he doesn't agree with other people's views, and generally doesn't refute them face to face, because he has a high degree of narcissism in his heart and always feels that his inner truth is right and disdains to argue with others. This is quite different from the realistic and argumentative expression.
4. Living in the present VS lacks the concept of time.
Living in the present is to let go of past and future grievances and troubles, which is the pursuit of modern people, so as to have more happiness. In fact, this attitude towards life is the inherent demand of everyone's intelligent personality.
Avoidance is a magic weapon to deal with troubles intelligently. If you are unhappy, unhappy, you can avoid it, you won't face it. You can throw them aside and never look at them carefully. So I see how happy they are to live in the present.
I was scolded by my parents just now, and my tears still hung on my face. Suddenly I saw butterflies flying in the golden sunshine, and my thoughts were immediately taken to that beautiful and free fairyland.
The ticking time is strange to them, and they can't remember all the appointments of the old man. "One day in the sky, one year on the ground", in the intelligent world, time is lengthened or even stagnated. It's like a person who is extremely tired and asleep, wakes up and shouts: Oh, why is it dusk to close your eyes and open your eyes the next day? When you concentrate on one thing, time is like a blink of an eye.
Parents have a headache for such children. You are anxious, but he is not. If you are angry, he still feels strange. Of course, it is very useful for them to have a good drink at this time. From imagining the world being beaten, the time for the earth has come. But they still don't understand why they want to drink me. The world is peaceful and gentle. How did it suddenly become so insidious? Fear and fear often take the opportunity to attach themselves to them.
I came into contact with a junior high school girl. She has been an athlete since she was a child, and she is tall and manly. But she said that many times she would be very scared and always felt that there was a pair of eyes staring at her on the street corner.
Looking back at the growth of a girl and her mother, the problem is that when I was a child, I used too many methods of beating and cursing, and the cleverness in my child's personality was scared. It is difficult to cooperate with other personalities to participate in the growth of life, and the energy of life is cut off.
For smart children, don't expect them to learn to manage time easily. When planning, they vowed that they didn't want to finish it, but they were always immersed in deep self-obsession, only to find that the clock had already passed his plan.
As long as everyone reaches the intelligent state, the speed of speech will slow down because of the need to mobilize inner feelings. At this point, time loses its meaning.
A mother who is eager for speed will be really angry if she meets a baby who has no concept of time and speaks slowly. So I speak for the children, either simply giving them instructions or guessing the meaning directly, so as to reduce the trouble caused by waiting.
The vast majority of smart children, language is not their strong point, why is there no one to replace them? The problem is that children's language ability is not well developed for a long time and will be much weaker than ordinary children. When children are young, they don't speak much when they make friends, especially when they express their inner feelings. But in adolescence, children need to leave their parents to develop relationships with their peers, which is particularly prominent.
Children with strong intelligence, if the real mother meets a smart baby, it will really make people anxious to get angry sometimes.
Compared with other personalities, the intelligence of adults still lacks the concept of time, and whenever possible, they like idle activities and aimless imagination. A wife complained that she asked her clever husband who was resting at home to wash the dishes. The other party promised well, but when the wife came home from work, the food was spread out on the table, while the husband was still sitting in front of the computer. The husband, on the other hand, thinks that his wife is very annoying, which interferes with the pleasant and comfortable immersion that he can only get on his rest day.
Of course, if a person wants to take responsibility, get social recognition and pursue his own goals and ideals, he needs to get out of the immersion state at all times and pay attention to the harsh demands of the elderly on life in time.
Faced with these, they can only keep the smart type in their hearts and are not allowed to come out. If the degree of inner harmony is high, you will take care of your inner intelligence needs with humor and moderate relaxation, and let "live in the present" make your heart happy. On the contrary, people's boredom will entangle their thoughts, bind their feet, make it difficult for them to move forward, and always yearn for an ethereal and refined paradise without time limit.
5, study in-depth VS internal persistence.
Intelligent people explore the world with internal intuition and interpret external information with their own set of internal theories (without objective world verification), so it will be different from the conventional thinking of society, and sometimes it will be very different. They advocate going their own way, I am the master of my world, and my heart is flying ... For a problem, they will think deeply from an angle that ordinary people don't have, and often have whimsy. It is difficult for smart children to understand the rules and requirements expressed by adults in logical language. Even if their minds understand them, they can't be related to the intuitive thinking of inner self-exploration. So parents always don't understand why they know everything they say and do differently. In fact, children don't understand why they did what you asked, and you are still not satisfied. Two worlds, two modes of thinking, two ways of communication, one is about eastern management, the other is about western law, thinking that they are taking the same road. For such children, the best way to make them quickly link with the rational thinking of adults is to change the language, hook up their inner intelligence "rationality" with fairy tales, symbolic words and create virtual scenes, and then link them up. For example, if you want them to walk faster, you can say, "We are on a jet plane now, woo … it flies faster!" " If you want them to brush their teeth quickly, you can say, "Oh, I see the elf in your teeth. They are saying, brush, brush, one, two, three, four … brush. Seemingly naive, it just fits the principle of the intelligent world, the eternal children's world, the eternal inner innocence, the eternal happiness and freedom.
As adults, they are still very persistent inside. Because they often look at problems from different angles, what they often say is difficult to understand, and over time they get used to talking less and listening more. But if you don't listen, you will fly overhead. Ignoring parents' nagging is a smart specialty, but internally stubborn and externally unwilling to argue with others, so we can only balance the two by ignoring them all the time. In the family, men show this trait more than women, and women are forced out of reality after becoming mothers. That kind of internal excessive persistence is often repaired by children. When men are not pregnant, have no children and are not raised, that kind of inner attachment can still continue in the family. Many wives feel that talking to their husbands is like throwing them on cotton, with no response or good promise, but the reality is still the same. This will drive the wife crazy, while the husband's intelligent nature is unaware of it. He always thought he had a good attitude and didn't contradict his wife's words. Why does the other person talk so much? As everyone knows, they just use their own methods to keep their inner obsession and deal with their wives.
6, talking eyes often don't look at people VS not easy to be disturbed by the outside world.
Most smart children don't like to stare at people with their eyes, which is just the opposite of emotional eyes. Their hearing is generally very sensitive, so their eyes can travel by themselves and let their ears complete the task of listening and recording alone.
Teachers often report that these children are not attentive in class and rarely look around at the teacher, but it seems ok to ask them to answer questions, and there is not much problem in taking exams. They are easily mistaken for children with sensory integration disorder or ADHD by teachers and parents. In fact, they are more likely to have problems such as dyskinesia and nervous system when growing up than ordinary children. I once played eye-to-eye games with several primary school students. Some clever children looked at me for a while, and their eyes became empty, as if they had passed through my eyes and moved their eyes to the back of my head. Some people turn their heads after watching it for a few seconds and can't stand it. Maybe when they look into other people's eyes, they will feel vague and afraid. Eyes are the windows of the soul. People's eyes will bring out many complicated emotions, which will make the pursuit of pure intelligence uncomfortable when they get along with others.
Adult smart people often look into other people's eyes to show politeness when communicating with others, but if you look closely, you will find that their eyes will look unnatural and tired, and they feel hard themselves. Their eyes are dodgy, and their eyes are relatively small, because smart intuitive thinking needs relatively empty eyes, and they should squint at people or things. At that time, their hearts were peaceful and quiet. On the other hand, if Yuan keeps his eyes open, it will be difficult for him to relax and the door of the intelligent world will automatically close.
7, don't like to argue with others vs avoid contradictions
Others have different opinions, and most of the time they will listen quietly without refuting, and their eyes will also enter a state of meditation. Their intuitive thinking will adjust their brains to alpha brain waves, which will make people very quiet. This state often confuses the other party and mistakenly thinks that he is listening carefully and has accepted the other party's opinions. In fact, they just send these different discourses into the theoretical system deep in their brains and compare them one by one to see if they can find a better connection. Because maintaining the integrity of their inner thinking system is an important cornerstone of their sense of security, it is difficult for them to separate their spirits to refute each other. If you say what you want, I miss mine. Listen to what tastes right. If not, shield yourself and let yourself fly in the imaginary world.
In the face of such children, parents are often helpless, and sometimes they seem to be expressionless and don't know how to communicate with them. Intuitive thinking is mostly graphic thinking, unlike logical thinking, which is mostly brain language. When a picture becomes a language, there is one more translation program, and the time and difficulty of communication naturally increase. Moreover, pictures are holographic information, so it is not only difficult but also fragmented to turn colorful information into linear logic language. Therefore, they often prefer not to talk, but also to maintain the integrity of intuition. Because understanding things in this way often makes you feel sacred and beautiful, and the result often has a unique breadth and depth.
In order to protect themselves, the smart type after growing up learned to deal with interpersonal relationships with avoidance defense mechanism. The uncomfortable feeling can make it disappear in my mind. There's nothing uncomfortable about feeling yourself. In fact, it is to press the heart and add a lock. They are representatives of peace. Listen to this view and see if it makes sense. It makes sense. They are unwilling to oppose any rival factions. This sincere way of getting along with others will be mistaken for a sly old man who has no clear view of himself. This is wrong for them. Although they don't express their opinions, they actually have their own opinions. They just pick out what they need from other people's opinions according to their own feelings, and ignore the parts that are different from their own opinions.
Because in the intelligent world, everything has a reason, and everything can be everywhere, just like the tolerance of nature. Of course, they will also feel uncomfortable with negative comments directed at them, but the countermeasures they choose are often avoidance rather than face-to-face argument. If you don't understand, leave. You'll be fine if you leave.
8, good at being alone VS lofty
A person's world is sometimes more interesting to them. They follow themselves quietly and feel undisturbed by outsiders. In this chaotic world, they are never willing to follow, for their inner peace. Smart people will play quietly alone, and they can play for a long time without playmates. Many of them like to read books and travel alone in the ocean of knowledge. Of course, that must be what they are interested in. Sometimes faced with a flower, a bug and a stone, they can stay alone for a long time; Even facing the sky, they can stay for half a day. Because there are many people, we can't go deep into our hearts, and we can't realize the sense of security and pleasure that only the deepest part of our hearts can't find in secular society.
When they grow up, smart people still enjoy being alone. Although the arrival of friends can also bring joy, solitude can sublimate the inner feelings and make the body and mind enter a more pleasant state. In-depth, in-depth, in-depth, a question, a thinking, smart people like to do their best. The moment when external feelings and internal thoughts are integrated is the moment when wisdom gushes out. Unique thoughts are splashed, thoughts fly like catkins, and finally converge like spring rain, silk threads merge into one, and the fruits of art and thought are sublimated.
So, if you want to make a difference in art, academia and other fields. Being smart and willing to be alone often plays a decisive role.
The smart type of childhood shows that he likes to be alone, so he will be considered unsociable and withdrawn by others. As an adult, it is often considered lofty. The content of deep thinking when you are alone is often not the talk of general work and life, but rather abstract and belongs to the spiritual category. No * * * songs can be hidden, which will make people around you feel distant and form the impression of "lofty".
9, simple and lovely VS naive
Dealing with people always seems too naive. When you feel safe enough, you think that the world is at peace, and those robberies and murders seem to have drifted into ancient legends, and everyone in front of you is an angel; When you feel insecure, you will feel that the world is dark, the world is ferocious, and everyone is a monster. Therefore, smart children sometimes act fearless, but sometimes they are very timid. Their view of right and wrong is very simple, black and white, good and bad. Even with the growth of age, their feelings are still maintained in the fairy tale world like Snow White, and of course there will be monsters.
When they grow up, getting along with others has become the most difficult task in their lives. Those ways of getting along with people are too complicated. It is better not to learn, but to float in the ocean of interpersonal relationships like this. "Quality is clean and clear", keeping the inner purity throughout life, not the integration of "dirty". In reality, many people with this personality began to seek liberation at the age of forty, pursuing practice and Buddhist teachings. This is an intelligence seeking a way out of life, and it is also a simple and lovely intelligence, which never gives up in the process of finding dream of paradise.
The worldly wisdom annoys them most, so they don't want to learn, and they can't learn well. It's too simple to see the problem, and it's easy to be deceived in interpersonal communication. Just like a child, naive, lovely and childish, all in one.