Zhuangzi said, "If you are alone, you will be alone. Unique people are the most expensive. "
Just like that sentence, excitement is someone else's carnival, and loneliness is your own freedom.
The highest state of life is to be alone and enjoy one's happiness, even if it is quiet, it is the true nature of everything.
In this life, people keep their true colors. Not many friends, sincere. The circle is not big, but it is suitable. The most important practice in life is to know how to clean up your circle of friends and learn to be alone.
In an interview with Yang Lan, Chen said:
I go to the wine table for entertainment, which is a kind of torment, especially when a person is drunk, saying a word to you four or five times and handing you a business card eight times, you will feel very annoyed, angry and particularly annoyed.
Chen is a very narcissistic person in many people's minds. In fact, he doesn't mean to keep a certain distance from the circle, but his personality is like this. His friends all know him, because he feels that going to the wine table is a torment, because he has nothing to say and doesn't like drinking, so for such a man, entertainment on the wine table is a torment.
He once said that the virtue of solitude is often neglected and forgotten because of competition.
In fact, in Chen's daily life, he can face the piano by the window alone, and play a ditty when he is happy and unhappy, which is equivalent to an emotional outlet.
He postponed some banquets, because he didn't think it necessary to attend, so he wouldn't waste time. He might as well set aside time to sit in a chair and read quietly for a while, which should be a good enjoyment.
In the process of being alone, whether reading, practicing calligraphy or playing the piano, he can educate himself and really think quietly.
"Night talk around the stove" said: "It is better to study hard than to make friends indiscriminately."
Reading can precipitate a person's temperament. Chen is an actor, but his academic temperament has attracted many people.
Zhou said: "People often regard communication as a kind of ability, but ignore that solitude is also a kind of ability. And in a sense, it is a more important ability than communication. "
A person who is good at being alone must also be good at learning and thinking.
Chen, when he is alone, he doesn't simply keep himself still, but thinks about his life through solitude. He thinks such solitude is a virtue.
I think, the more excellent a person is, the more he can stick to his heart and keep his heart in solitude, and the more he can find himself and get a happy place in solitude.
Most people in the world are shallow-minded, seeing only skins and not bones. Chen, on the other hand, is only skin and bones. A person's cultivation is in his bones, in daily chores and in dealing with others.
For Mr. Chen, it really started with his face value, trapped in talent and loyal to his character. He is a clean stream in today's prosperity: meditation and nourishing the heart. ...
And the person who likes to be alone, not because he doesn't fit in, but because he wants to get spiritual independence.
Like Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu, they always stick to their original intention, stay awake, listen to their inner choices and enjoy their wonderful lives.
Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu seldom go out to socialize. Both of them do what they like at home, reading, reading, translating and writing.
Both of them have lived their lives according to their own wishes, and never care what others say. Just as Mr. Jiang Yang said, "We once looked forward to the recognition of the outside world, and finally realized that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others."
Living in a humble room, with things as companions and enjoying leisure alone, the best scenery is inner peace and calmness.
Solitude is a realm, quiet and far-reaching.
In Walden Lake, Thoreau lived alone by Walden Lake for most of two years. He defined his life by his actions. "Most luxury goods, most so-called comforts of life, are not only unnecessary, but also greatly hinder human progress. Therefore, regarding luxury and comfort, the life of the smartest person is even simpler than that of the poor. "
What Thoreau tells us is that people can let go of their obsession by being alone. When we blindly indulge in the pursuit of material things, our bodies will be very tired and people will feel anxious. We should learn to be alone properly, and by letting go and reducing material desires, we can transform it into improving the spiritual realm.
So he hopes that the more different people in the world, the better. I hope everyone can seriously find out and stick to their own suitable way, instead of adopting the father's way, the mother's way or the neighbor's way.
In the process of being alone, you can make your life simple and enrich yourself by giving up some unnecessary things and letting go of your desires.
Now, I often walk alone on the country road. No one bothered me, put aside my troubles, no fetters, no entanglements, no pretensions. I am really relaxed, laughing or crying, or telling my unknown worries to the trees and grass on the roadside.
In the past, I always liked to go out, play with friends and go to busy places.
But since I learned calligraphy, I always feel that I like the feeling of calligraphy too much!
Therefore, I always soak in the ocean of writing, and finish it again and again, one after another. Anyway, I just don't want to stop without dinner.
This kind of solitude has taught me a lot, especially when I am quiet, I will listen to some news, read newspapers, listen to music and read books, which is very intoxicating.
Being alone can make people calm, awake, stay away from turbidity and troubles, slow down appropriately, and let the soul stop running blindly for a minute.
Solitude is an ability to stick to cohesion in silence. Inspire, spread wisdom, learn to think and understand the true meaning. Not cold, not awake, not quiet, not far away.
Holding a clear hand, my heart is indifferent and the years are fragrant.