How to distinguish between innate character and acquired character?

After the study of family system, there is another research method on the theory of congenital personality formation, that is, people study the personality of twins, especially monozygotic twins, which can best explain the influence of heredity on the formation of children's personality. After a careful study of these twins' personalities, the academic circles found that identical twin brothers and sisters have great similarities in "lively spirit", "basic personality", "ability to feel the outside world" and "personality tendency". "Lively spirit" refers to whether the spirit belongs to the impatient and lively type or the dull type. Mr. Cha Mowu Jun, a Japanese gender psychologist, pointed out that heredity plays a decisive role in mental liveliness by studying the performance of some twins in collective life. In daily life, we will find that many twins are not only strikingly similar in appearance, but also strikingly similar in personality. They are either lively and outgoing or quiet, which makes it more difficult to distinguish. I'm afraid no one can easily determine whether it is in front of brothers and sisters except close friends. In real life, we also find that in a family, if parents are cheerful all day and always smile at people, then their children must always smile. On the contrary, if parents pull a long face all day, children rarely show a good side, which is also the role of heredity in the formation of a person's character. The research on the influence of heredity on the formation of human character also shows that some people are considerate, considerate and considerate of others, while others are full of selfish thoughts, only looking after themselves and always taking themselves as the center. This personal difference is also largely due to heredity. Since heredity plays such an important role in the formation of a person's personality, as mentioned above, a person's personality determines his fate to a great extent, which is related to his career, family, interpersonal relationship and many other aspects of life. Therefore, for the sake of their children, parents should pay attention to improving their shortcomings in personality and not let themselves become a stumbling block to their children's future progress. The formation of personality also has a great relationship with a person's surrounding environment. As parents, we should also strive to create a good growth environment for our children. The legend of Meng Mu's godson is a good example. Nowadays, the story of "Three Major Movements in Meng Mu" has long been a household name. Mencius did not let his mother's hard work go to waste, and eventually became a great homesick in the history of China, known as the "Asian sage". With few exceptions, due to the limitation of objective conditions, it is certainly impossible for modern people to move frequently because of their dissatisfaction with the surrounding environment like their mothers, but we can at least create a good family environment for our children. In life, we find that children from poor families are sensible earlier and more mature than other children of the same age. This is because "the children of poor families take charge early"; In life, we also find that some gifted children live in a family environment that helps them develop their special talents in this field. For example, Jeikiy's fluent English has touched many young people and attracted many parents. As we all know, Zhu received English training when he was a diplomat, so he learned English translation skills. In those cases where a family has produced many musicians at the same time, although the inheritance of musical talent accounts for a large proportion, we can never deny the influence from the musical environment. A child with high musical talent, if he grows up in an environment completely isolated from music, I am afraid it is difficult to make a difference in music. In life, we may also have such an experience. A person who has lived in a rich environment since childhood, because he never worries about some small daily things, is easy to form a generous and open-minded character, will not haggle over every ounce, let everything go with the flow, and has an inclusive tolerance. Mr. Qi Gong, a calligrapher in China, has such a character. Children who grow up in a scholarly family will reveal a kind of Wen Ya temperament, and the simplicity and simplicity of children from rural areas can't be concealed. Children with good family education should be polite and respect the elderly. On the contrary, spoiled children may appear arrogant and inaccessible. These are all strong evidences that the environment has an influence on people's character. There are many examples of the influence of environment on children's personality: children who often interact with others have strong interpersonal skills and appear natural and graceful in front of others. On the contrary, children who communicate less with others will form a quiet and introverted personality, and they will blush when they speak, making them feel embarrassed and at a loss. Therefore, parents should also pay attention to creating a good family environment for their children and let them learn to interact with others. Caring children usually live in loving families. Parents of caring children must be caring people. Parents of helpful children are generally not indifferent people. Theoretically speaking, a bad environment may lead to a child's bad personality. This is also the reason why juvenile delinquency is on the rise under the extremely bad social atmosphere. This is why experts have repeatedly called for children to stay away from a series of social rubbish such as drugs, violence and pornography for the sake of the earth's tomorrow. In recent years, it is often heard that teenagers commit robbery and murder, which is largely due to excessive violent robbery in movies and television. Teenagers' psychology is not yet mature, and they can't distinguish right from wrong about external things. In addition, they are good at imitating, whether it is good or bad, as long as they think it is fun and exciting enough, they will do it, but they rarely realize that they have violated the law. On the one hand, the formation of children's personality depends on congenital inheritance, on the other hand, it depends on the environment of acquired life. As parents, while paying attention to correcting their own personality shortcomings and striving to create a good environment for their children to grow up, they should also pay attention to talking with their children more, care more about their children, know what their children are thinking at any time, find some personality defects in their growth, and correct them in time. It will be very difficult to correct them after their personalities are formed. There are two theories about personality formation: innate generation theory and acquired empiricism. Both theories have some truth, and examples can be found in life. Both theories have no overwhelming advantages, so we should pay attention to them. Luo Rachel, an Australian psychologist, summed up the role of heredity and environment in personality formation as follows: ① It is a fact that some characteristics of mind and thought can be inherited among family members. (2) Among many individual personality traits, which one will be found and to what extent is determined by environmental factors. If you have a very strong personality, you can develop in any environment. From Rachel's conclusion, we can get such enlightenment: when parents create an environment for their children's growth, they should pay attention to discovering the characteristics existing in their children and create an optimal environment for their exploration and development.