There is really no winning struggle in the world. Both sides of the quarrel are sure to lose, but it's just to see who loses worse. We always subconsciously prevent others from belittling and denying ourselves. Everyone wants the outside world to recognize themselves. This is also the driving force for our active efforts. When we quarrel, we must attack each other morally and morally in order to defeat each other quickly.
Therefore, this red line of "self-protection" will definitely be surpassed. It is no longer "who is right and who is wrong", but directly upgraded to "personality attack war" and "personality defense war". . Therefore, when the quarrel reaches a certain level, we no longer fight for right or wrong, but fight for liberation. In other words, we are guided by emotions, so the argument becomes a process of opposing emotions.
Once a person is influenced by emotions, the devil will seize the opportunity and trigger many impulsive behaviors in this way. Impulse leads to lifelong regret everywhere. So, when you feel upset, please don't fight back immediately. You'd better count from 1 to 10 in your mind before communicating. This is a good method. The next paragraph is a "quarrel tutorial" I saw on the internet: if this person is short, attack his height; If this person is short, attack his height.
If this person is fat, attack his figure; If this person is ugly, you attack his appearance; If this woman has money, you can say that she sold it. If this person has money, you can say that he is eating soft rice. If this person is poor, you can say that he will never make money in his life. If you follow this rhythm, then the other party has only one way out, and that is to die with you.
The only way for us to prevent quarrels is to learn to be tolerant and think from the perspective of others. When you meet a stubborn person who insults others at any time, please don't concentrate. Just smile, wave, wish them luck, and then go their separate ways. Believe me, you will do better.