"When people are old, it is difficult for a person to live. At this time, two people should live together, comfort each other and help each other, whether there is love or not. "
Marriage in youth is based on love, and marriage in old age is more for a better life.
So many old people will choose to find a wife to spend their old age with. Money, face value, identity, these important things when you are young, can't compare with a cup of warm water when you are sick and a hand when you fall.
Aunt Liu of the community began to arrange for her wife at the age of 65. A year and a half later, she cried and said, "I won't look for it. I won't look for it anymore. I can enjoy my old age without a wife."
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Aunt Liu is 65 years old this year. Recently, she will give her cat to her neighbor.
Her wife has been dead for many years, and her two sons have married and moved out. On weekends, my son occasionally comes back to see her, but only for one weekend, seven days a week.
A few years after his wife died, she was introduced to her. She was afraid of affecting her children and didn't consider it. Later, I got used to it and stopped thinking about it.
After retiring, she began to have a lot of free time, which was very uncomfortable. Aunt Liu began to find something to do in the community elderly activity center and teach the elderly calligraphy.
Although Aunt Liu is in her early 60 s, she looked good when she was young. She usually has a light diet and is not fat at all. She looks only in her fifties.
Many single elderly people in the elderly center want to befriend Aunt Liu. After aunt Liu knew each other's thoughts, she smiled and refused: "People of the same age, why bother?"
Once Aunt Liu caught a bad cold, and she called her son. My son took time out of his busy schedule to take her to the doctor. After seeing Aunt Liu home, she has to go back to work. She said, "I can do it myself. I'll call you if I have something to do. " .
Aunt Liu was also afraid of infecting her grandson, so she didn't live in her son's house.
At night, the cold got worse, and it was not until the next morning that she fumbled to get up and look for her mobile phone. She lost her footing and fell to the ground, never recovering for a long time.
Just then, the doorbell rang. Aunt Liu struggled to open the door and found that Uncle Zhang from the community came to see her with fruit. It is said that I haven't seen her for several days. I came to see her when I knew she was ill. Fruit is everyone's heart.
After that, Uncle Zhang took Aunt Liu to the hospital, and when his son arrived, he was already hanging on the water. Seeing that his mother was fine, his son left money and went back soon. Uncle Zhang has been accompanying her to hang water and send her home.
People are particularly eager for company when they are sick. Aunt Liu, who had originally rejected remarriage, began to waver in her heart. If there is, it would be great to have someone around her.
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Aunt Liu's son is very supportive of his mother's remarriage. He felt that his mother had fulfilled her responsibility of raising and should have her own life in her later years. It doesn't matter what kind of person you find, as long as your mother is happy, you can still earn more living expenses every month.
Uncle Zhang has a son and a daughter. The daughter is married and lives with her son. Uncle Liu proposed to live in his house after marriage, and Aunt Liu agreed.
At first, Aunt Liu thought Uncle Zhang's house was clean and comfortable, but before long, she found something was wrong.
Uncle Zhang's son doesn't work at home all day, and he has to serve every meal well. Aunt Liu has a light diet. One day, she cooked four dishes, steamed bass. Uncle Zhang's son took a bite, put down his chopsticks and said, "It's just like boiled water." Then he entered the room.
Aunt Liu was embarrassed, and Uncle Zhang said not to dispute with her son. Then I cooked my own food and sent it to my son's room. I also stuffed some cash, and my son took it for granted.
Aunt Liu advised Uncle Zhang that young people should go out to work, and Uncle Zhang's son just came out and heard it. Suddenly, I began to curse: "What do you know as an outsider? You live in my house for free, and now you want to kick me out and occupy this house. You are an old man, so don't be ashamed. "
Aunt Liu was very angry and quarreled with Uncle Zhang's son. Uncle Zhang was pushed by his son in the middle and his arm was broken.
Aunt Liu was very angry and didn't want to live in Uncle Zhang's house again, but she couldn't ignore the injured Uncle Zhang, who said she could live in her daughter's house.
So Aunt Liu moved to Uncle Zhang's daughter's house. The daughter looked Aunt Liu up and down and said that she was beautiful and had temperament, and her family could stay as long as they wanted.
I just didn't expect that Aunt Liu hasn't had a good meal since she arrived at Uncle Zhang's daughter's house. Every time I eat, my daughter's children climb on Uncle Zhang to feed him. But uncle Zhang's hand was hurt, so Aunt Liu had to take it with her. Their home tastes very comfortable. Aunt Liu didn't eat a few bites at a meal. After the children finished eating, the leftovers were left on the table.
Uncle Zhang's daughter often praises "Aunt is really good, Aunt is very powerful", and gives her children to Aunt Liu to take and go out to play by herself.
What she can't stand is taking care of the children during the day and drinking water in the toilet at night. After a few months, her health was too much, and Uncle Zhang was very wronged, thinking that Aunt Liu saw him sick and disliked him.
The old man remarried and wanted to take care of each other when he was sick. Aunt Liu's initial greed was the warm companionship of Uncle Zhang when he was ill. How could she not want to take care of each other? However, she really can't stand the biting and squeezing behavior of other children.
The remarriage of the elderly seems to be a matter for two old people, but it is actually a matter for two families. The attitude of children, the disposal of pre-marital property and the problem of support are all very important, which determine whether sex can be successful.
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Finally, Aunt Liu chose to divorce after Uncle Zhang recovered. Uncle Zhang looked at Aunt Liu, hesitated, and finally agreed.
Ironically, Uncle Zhang's daughter is very reluctant to part with this "stepmother" and has been persuading her not to leave, and tears have flowed out. Uncle Zhang's son is very happy, watching her pack things, for fear that she will take away valuable things at home.
Aunt Liu is dizzy. She originally wanted to find someone to take care of each other, but now she takes care of her family in turn. One regards her as a thief and the other as a free nanny.
In today's society, many old people live alone when they are old, and their children are either far away or busy with work, so they can't always accompany them. Simple old-age care and nutrition can't fill the empty spirit of the elderly. Therefore, it is normal to find a wife. However, many remarried elderly people died because of family chores and property distribution problems. Therefore, the elderly must consider the following issues when they remarry:
1, children's attitude
Many old people remarry and divorce because their children don't agree with their parents to remarry. In their minds, perhaps they think that it is enough to give their parents enough money to eat and wear warm clothes, and the attitude towards outsiders is always right.
But supporting parents is not keeping pets. Just give enough food. They also need companionship and care. When children grow up, they all have their own families. At most, I go home on holiday, but there are 365 days in a year and several holidays. The companionship between husband and wife is irreplaceable by other materials and emotions.
First, get the support of children. Even if not, don't participate in your parents' life.
2. Property distribution
Many children don't agree with their parents to remarry because of the distribution of property. Just like Uncle Zhang in the article, the son was afraid that the stranger Aunt Liu would take away the property that originally belonged to him, and finally his parents remarried and broke up.
If the elderly can handle this problem well before marriage, discuss how to divide the property in advance and let their children know what they are doing, it will certainly save a lot of trouble.
3. A positive and responsible attitude
Young people go to marriage because of the passion of love, while old people may be more like a flowing stream, looking forward to a healthy body. But it is undeniable that two old people will definitely leave one first and then one.
The one who stays behind must assume the responsibility of marriage and take care of the other when he is ill.
This is also an important reason why many elderly people remarry. Marriage is a duty and obligation. Otherwise, there is no need for the old man to remarry.
Write at the end:
Loneliness is an eternal topic everyone has to face. Whether you are single or looking for a wife, I hope everyone can keep a good attitude, learn to love themselves and have the ability to live a good life alone.
Do you support older women to find wives?