My roommate said he went to the bathroom but washed in it. I feel particularly wronged. Should I express myself?

I don't understand your words and grievances, but because we are arranged in the same dormitory, we should adapt to everyone and integrate into the small group of dormitory. After all, no one likes being alone, and we don't want to be isolated by everyone because of special circumstances. When a classmate asked her if she could go to the toilet first, your answer was yes. People are inevitably in a hurry. In your opinion, if the other person wants to go to the bathroom, she can go to the bathroom first if she is not in a hurry. The other person went to the toilet, and another classmate said that he also wanted to go to the toilet. Since the first classmate took a bath in it, my understanding here is that the bathroom in your dormitory is divided into dry and wet areas, that is, one of them goes to the toilet.

Realize the real reason behind your emotions.

Your classmate told you to go to the bathroom, and ended up taking a shower. Although this process only took three minutes, what you mind is that they obviously told themselves to go to the bathroom instead of taking a shower. This kind of behavior seems to be a kind of deception to themselves, and their trust heart is destroyed by their behavior in an instant. You haven't been in this dormitory for long, so you are still adapting to the environment and classmates here. As a result, when you trust them, their behavior makes you feel wronged and angry.

Then why does such a thing make you have so many emotions? This has something to do with our expectations. When we expect a person, we will feel what the other person says, so what should he/she do? When the other party can't reach it, we will have emotions, which may be injustice, anger, sadness and so on. This is not only for your classmates, but also for you to get along with others.

Express one's feelings directly

The emotions that arise in your heart make you uncomfortable, and you are also consuming yourself internally. Try to learn to express your emotions directly. Only when you express it in real time can others realize whether your actions hurt you. The mode of getting along with others comes from running-in, so only by expressing ourselves can others know our principles and bottom line.

In fact, it is not difficult to express yourself. Let's express it according to our fleeting doubts. For example, the other person clearly said that he wanted to go to the bathroom, but in the end he turned into a shower. You can tell each other, didn't you say you just went to the bathroom? If you want to do something else, please tell me first. After all, I have already let you go to the bathroom first. Our tone doesn't need to express our anger, just let the other person know where we care.

Change yourself

I don't know if you usually let yourself not express your emotions right away because of some things. If you do this for a long time, it will not be good for you, and it will easily lead to self-denial and doubt. We don't need to be perfect and excellent to be loved by others. Only when we truly face ourselves can people live happily.

In terms of emotional recovery, you can try the following tips:

1. Listening to music: Because in the dormitory, the environment is limited, listening to music is a good way. When we are in different moods, we have different choices. When we are in a good mood, we may like a fast pace. When we are depressed, you can listen to something relaxing.

2. Exercise: You can go to the playground and let yourself run, even if it is a lap. When exercising, you can also let yourself feel the different feelings brought by speed, whether it is running fast or jogging.

3. Divert your attention: Put on headphones, choose some happy videos and variety comedies for yourself, or let yourself draw or practice calligraphy, and shift your attention to other things, which will also help you recover your mood faster.