Seeing this title, it is estimated that many parents have an illusion: "Look! Pushing children's studies to parents, we pay so much money to the school, and finally we have to worry about it. We are so busy and have time! "
These complaints are normal, very normal, and we absolutely understand the difficulties of parents, because we are also parents; But children are our children, and the road of children's growth can only be taken once for us. Only once, for the sake of children, for the sake of children's learning and growth, we implore parents to take this responsibility.
Everyone, from the first day of birth, is unique and has different talents, which is why the world we live in now is rich and colorful. But God is unfair, because all children need to go through the balance of "learning and teaching" after birth. Obviously, in this respect, children's talents are different. After all, those so-called smart and talented "learning geniuses" only account for a very small number. Most children belong to normal people and need continuous efforts the day after tomorrow. At present, the school education our children receive basically belongs to mass education, and in fact, it is only responsible for the smarter students and only suitable for the better students [1]. Of course, every parent wants teachers to care more about their children, but every teacher's energy is limited, and the quality of different teachers varies widely. The education level of the school our children go to basically reflects the teachers' teaching level and sense of responsibility. We can complain or even get angry about it, but we are powerless to change it [2].
Therefore, the training object of school education is mainly "students who can keep up". For children with poor foundation and poor acceptance, parents need to play a role. Your cooperation is not to blame you, but that your child really needs your extra help. If left unchecked, it will lead to repeated setbacks and even loss of confidence. Although the school has a responsibility, as a parent, you have an unshirkable responsibility.
Therefore, it is very important for parents to cooperate with their children's education, which is a performance of being responsible for their children and a quality that a qualified parent should have. Every parent should know the level of their children. If your child is excellent now, you can work hard and he will be even better. If your child is ordinary now, you can work hard and he will definitely enter the excellent ranks; If your child studies hard and can't keep up, you can work hard, and he will certainly keep up and stay behind.
Cultivate children's good study habits
For primary school students, the so-called good study habits, first of all, is the ability to consciously learn unsupervised and complete homework. We have done research, and every teacher has different habits. The homework assigned to students may be more or less, but there will be no big difference. The average teacher will assign homework to students with medium learning level according to the amount of 1.5 to 2 hours. Therefore, parents can also learn about their children's learning and habits from their homework time. In fact, most children can finish their homework on time quickly. It is inevitable that some students will take a long time to finish. Obviously, most of these students have bad study habits: they don't stare at their homework, don't write, push one step, take one step, you don't push, he doesn't leave, they turn around a little, and he starts to play. Isn't it their responsibility to these children? Of course, this so-called "study habit" is only the most basic requirement for children. Our children can't even meet the most basic requirements. As parents, shouldn't you help? As teachers, we believe that more parents agree with us. When their children do their homework late into the night, they don't call the teacher as Mr. Degang Guo said. Because they know that what Mr. Degang Guo said is just a crosstalk burden.
What should our parents do to cultivate children's good study habits? I think every parent should be very clear in his heart. If not, please cooperate with some entrustment of our school teachers. Most responsible teachers communicate with their parents according to the characteristics of almost every child. Remember, parents can't ignore it. Specifically, our parents should always check their children's homework. For typical mistakes, parents should give one-on-one explanation and counseling to consolidate the school's learning achievements. For those with poor handwriting, practice your child's calligraphy at a fixed time every week. It's simple. You only need your children to copy books, and you can sit quietly next to them with a book. Slowly, you will unconsciously find that your children not only practice calligraphy well, but also make great progress in other studies. Especially on weekends, we must make full use of it. Some parents want their children to finish their homework at home or in nursing classes on Friday, which is understandable, but if this is for the sake of carefree weekends, it is all wet. On weekends, children must take time out to study and consolidate their knowledge in class. This habit must be formed. Genius is constant effort. What reason do we have to be lazy?
"Good habits are half the battle", don't have too many habits. It is the embodiment of a person's quality. Good study habits and living habits have created a person's temperament and style throughout his life. In the early days of these habits, parents must properly regulate and restrain their children [3]. In China, at present, no child likes studying. Don't listen to the so-called "nonsense" and "herding sheep" education that let children develop freely. Only suitable for a few individuals at the top, for ordinary children, it is tantamount to abandonment. Without that person's success, you can get it without hard work. Please trust us, restrain and standardize your children and cultivate their good habits from an early age.
Parents are the best teachers for children.
When it comes to influence, obviously, parents have the greatest influence on their children. From innate genes to acquired learning and life, we are always telling children what to do. Therefore, it is the most tiring for parents to cultivate an excellent child, especially ordinary families or parents' families, because we lack that atmosphere. In ancient times, there were "three movements in Meng Mu" [4], which trained a generation of great Confucianism-Monk; "Ceng Zi killed the thief" tells us how to educate children to keep their promises and be honest with others. We certainly can't be like Meng Mu and Zeng Shen, but they do set an example for us.
As teachers, we sincerely hope that parents will pay attention to their words and deeds, take their children out and pay attention to their moral quality in front of them. Sometimes, in front of children, we need to deliberately create an image, which may not be our real self at all, but for the sake of children and the next generation, we sometimes really need to "pretend". Perhaps our generation has some problems and is unable to change the status quo because of the limitations of conditions, environment and education level. However, we still hope that our bad side will not be passed on to the next generation, so that our next generation will certainly make progress than us and our society will certainly make progress. This should be our parents' responsibility to their children and society.
Concluding remarks
Some children have a late-comer advantage in their studies. With the growth of age, their abstract thinking will be gradually developed and utilized, and their learning will become more and more prominent. Some children have talents beyond learning. When they reach a certain age and a certain level of knowledge, this talent will be clearly displayed in front of us. But all these advantages and talents are based on the fact that children can at least keep up with their current studies. This is the minimum requirement and the minimum responsibility of our parents for their children. If we can't satisfy our children, then we deprive them of the opportunity to give full play to their advantages and talents. Can such parents become competent parents? When we blame others and society, shouldn't we review ourselves first?