In life, everyone will encounter setbacks, and moderate setbacks have certain positive significance.
It can help people drive away inertia. It urges people to forge ahead. Frustration is also a challenge and test.
British philosopher Bacon said, "Miracles beyond nature mostly appear in the conquest of adversity." The key question is how to face setbacks.
People all want to have more happiness, less pain, more benefits and less setbacks in their lives, but fate always seems to play tricks on and torture people. It always gives people more
loss, pain and frustration. I remember reading a story about a pupa on the grass, which was
found by a child and brought home. After a few days, a small crack appeared on the pupa, and the butterfly inside
struggled for a long time, and it seemed that the body was stuck and could not get out. The naive
child saw the butterfly in the pupa. He picked up scissors
and cut open the pupa shell to help the butterfly shed its pupa. However, because the butterfly didn't go through the painful struggle before breaking the pupa
, its body was bloated and its wings were shriveled, and it didn't fly
at all, and it died soon. Naturally, the joy of this butterfly disappeared forever with its death. This short story also shows that. To be happy, you must
be able to endure pain and frustration. This is a process of tempering and growth.
There are many factors that cause frustration. For example, the goal of struggle is set too high, and there is a gap between ability and expectations. In addition, it also includes psychological conflict factors. For example, a college student
wants to concentrate on studying for a doctorate, but is in love. Reading and love are like fish and bear's paw,
he wants to have both, but the best thing for him is to choose only one, which is a kind of
"two-way conflict". Another example is that a man and a woman who are in love feel that they should talk about
after several contacts, and there is nothing more to talk about. They can only look at each other and look at you, which makes them look like ten < But a person will feel more lonely. This is called "avoidance-avoidance conflict".
When people encounter setbacks, they often feel insecure, which makes it difficult for them to settle down.
Work and life will be affected. Then, when people encounter setbacks, how should they go into
debugging? Here are ten ways to try:
First, be calm, calm and calm.
Second, enhance self-confidence and courage.
Third, assess the situation and win by circuitous means, that is, the goal remains the same and the method has changed.
Fourth, make persistent efforts and persevere. Double your efforts.
Fifth, substitute flowers for trees, and be flexible. If the original goal that is too high can't be achieved for a while,
it can be replaced by a goal that is easier to achieve, which is also an adaptive way.
Sixth, find out the reasons and clear your mind. When you are frustrated, first calm down and find out the reasons that may lead to
life, and then seek a solution to the problem. Seek sublimation. You can adjust your emotions and sublimate your emotions
through your favorite ways of collecting stamps, writing,
calligraphy, art, music, dancing, physical exercise, etc.
Eighth, learn to vent and get rid of pressure. Faced with setbacks, different people have different attitudes
. Some people are disappointed, others are disappointed. At the same time, catharsis is also a kind of self-psychological rescue measure, which can dilute and alleviate bad emotions.
Ninth, turn to psychological counseling when necessary. When people are at a loss when they encounter setbacks,
they might as well turn to psychological counseling institutions. Psychologists will treat you with emotion, reason with reason, guide
what to do, and follow the lead, so that you can learn from it. Step into the realm of "another village with a bright future".
Tenth, learn humor and laugh at yourself. "Humor" and "self-mockery" are good ways to vent your depression,
balance your mind and create happiness. When you suffer setbacks, you might as well adopt the method of "A Q's spirit wins over
", for example, "losing is a blessing" Look at setbacks calmly and adjust your state of mind with humorous methods.
In life, you can't be proud of the spring breeze and everything goes well. Facing setbacks, you can be open-minded,
Even the wisest man is foolish, and maintaining a calm and peaceful state of mind is a profound understanding of the generosity of life. If you want to
maintain a healthy state of mind, you need to sublimate your spirit, cultivate morality and accumulate energy. Humorous
view. As Marx said: "A good mood can relieve physical fatigue and pain better than ten pairs of good medicine."
"2" I hope everyone's life is like a song! But who can live without setbacks and failures? I think: success is a whole, and failure is an indispensable part of the whole.
Frustration and success are hard-won, so why not take it as the driving force for progress and become a weapon to overcome difficulties and face challenges again? After all, a dark day always comes to an end, and sunshine always comes after a storm
Life is a long journey. There are smooth roads and rugged paths. There are brilliant flowers, and there are also dense steps of Jingqi. Everyone will suffer setbacks on this journey. < P > Everyone has different views on losing. And I think the so-called loss is the setbacks encountered in life. You know, this is inevitable! Only in that lost and inaction day, I wonder if you have seen the pines and cypresses standing under the haze and the stars shining on the dead night road; I wonder if you have ever thought that a firm belief can surpass failure.
Losing doesn't mean you are worse than others. Losing doesn't mean that you will never succeed; Losing doesn't mean that you have reached the end of your life. Smart people tell you that the end of failure is often the starting point of success. As long as you dare to face up to failure and fight hard, you will certainly pick the flowers of success-the wonderful flowers far away from the horizon. Life is like a rushing sea. Without islands and reefs, it is difficult to stir up beautiful waves. If you lose, take failure as the driving force! Young people should have a broad mind, and never care about the trivial trauma.
Even if life has 1 reasons to make you cry, you should take out 1 reasons to smile at life. "No matter the wind and rain, it's better to walk around." Only in this way can we maintain a balanced mentality, and we can go through all the hardships with our own fighting spirit, and we can catch turtles in five oceans with ". No matter what you gain or lose, you should accept it calmly. I think this is how we young people live. I think the road is at our feet. No matter how dim the past is, no matter how prosperous the future is, all the past is based on the present, and all the future is based on the present!
Losing is not terrible. In order to pursue our ideals, we should fly and accept the baptism of wind and rain. In order to realize our long-cherished wish in life, we should fly to meet the spring breeze and the rising sun. Although our wings are not strong, we may get hurt, but we must fly far away.
Life has many opportunities to stand up.
Respect for heaven and love for others.