General remarks
1. Disciples' rules teach saints to be filial brothers (the same as' Xun'). I sincerely believe that
explaining disciples' rules is the teachings of saints. The first is to honor parents and love brothers and sisters, and the second is to be cautious and keep promises.
2. Love the masses and learn if you have spare capacity.
Explain loving the masses and being close to people with benevolence. If family conditions permit, you should learn more and ask more questions as long as you have time and energy.
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3. Parents should not delay their parents' orders.
Explain that if parents call themselves, they should answer them in time, and don't deliberately delay; If parents tell them to do something, they should start at once, and don't deliberately delay or refuse to be lazy.
4. Parents should respect and obey their parents' responsibilities
Explain that when parents teach themselves, they should be respectful and listen to their parents carefully; When parents criticize and blame themselves, no matter whether they think their parents' criticism is right or wrong, they should be deferential to their parents' criticism and not contradict them face to face.
5. It's warm in winter, warm in summer, and calm in the morning.
Explain that it's cold in winter, parents should warm their beds in advance before going to bed, and it's hot in summer, so parents should be helped to cool their beds in advance. After getting up in the morning, you should visit your parents first and say hello to them. At night, you should wait for your parents to go to bed before going to sleep. (The allusion of Huang Xiang in the ancient "Twenty-four Filial Pieties" is quoted here.)
6. If you go out, you will have to report it, but you will have a regular career.
Before you go out, you should tell your parents where you are, so that parents will not find themselves and worry about it. When you get home, you should first meet your parents face to face and report your peace; Although parents will be happy when their children are promising, the greatest expectation of parents for their children is not how promising you are, but that you are safe and sound, and there will be no disasters in your life. Therefore, the place where you live should be fixed as far as possible, and you should not move frequently, and your job of making a living should not be changed frequently;
7. Don't be presumptuous when things are small.
Explain that although things are small, don't be presumptuous and act. Doing things without authorization makes mistakes and worries parents, which is not the duty of being a child;
8. Don't hide small things, but it hurts your heart.
Explain that you have something, even if it is small, don't hide it behind your parents' backs. There is no windtight wall in the world. If you hide something, even if you are very cautious, it will inevitably be discovered by your parents one day, and then your parents will be sad;
9. Do what your parents like and do what your parents hate.
Explain what your parents like and try your best to do it. Parents should be careful not to do things they hate (including their own bad habits);
1. Being hurt makes parents worry. Being hurt makes parents feel ashamed.
Explaining that your body is hurt will inevitably cause parents' worries. Therefore, you should cherish your body as much as possible and don't let yourself be hurt unnecessarily. If one's reputation and virtue are damaged, it will inevitably bring shame to parents. Therefore, you should be careful what you say and do, don't let your reputation and virtue be damaged for no reason, and don't do things that are immoral, self-polluted and self-degraded.
11. Dear me, filial piety, why don't you hate my filial piety?
When explaining that parents are kind to us, it is not difficult to honor parents and obey them. Parents have a bad attitude towards us, criticize us, blame us, or hate us, hate us, beat and scold us, and even kill us with knives and guns. It is commendable to be filial to our parents. Of course, when parents beat themselves, or even want to shoot themselves with a knife, they should stay away and run away, so as not to give their parents a bad reputation for not killing women. )
12. I have been admonished by my parents to make my voice softer.
Explain that if I think my parents are at fault, I should try my best to persuade my parents to mend their ways, so as not to make bigger mistakes and put them in an unjust position; However, we should pay attention to the method. When persuading, we should be pleasant and sincere, and we should speak softly.
13. If you don't listen to the advice, you can cry and complain.
Explain that if your parents don't listen when you try to persuade them, don't urge them. You should wait until your parents are happy to persuade them. Don't be true to your parents, which will only make them angry and will not achieve the effect of persuasion. If parents don't listen to advice and cry and make trouble, they will obey their parents temporarily; If you persuade your parents to be angry and beat yourself, don't be resentful, let alone complain to your face.
14. If you have a disease, try the medicine first, and stay in bed day and night.
Explain that when your parents are sick, you should taste the cold, heat and safety of the medicine for your parents first; You should try your best to serve day and night and not leave your parents' bed for a while;
15. After three years of mourning, I often grieve to live in a place where wine and meat are gone.
Explain that after my parents died, I kept filial piety for three years and often remembered and felt grateful for my parents' parenting; Living, abstaining from alcohol and meat;
16. Do your best to do things honestly. The deceased is like a life.
Explain that it is polite to handle the funeral of parents, and it is not extravagant. Paying homage to parents should be sincere; Treat your dead parents with the same respect as before.
When you are out of school, you should be considerate.
17. Brothers should be respectful and respectful, and brothers should be respectful and filial.
Explain that brothers should be friendly to their younger siblings, and younger siblings should respect their brothers. When brothers and sisters can live in harmony, parents are naturally happy, and filial piety is among them;
18. Why do you hate money lightly? [fèn] Self-denial [mǐn]
If you explain that money is light and justice is heavy, resentment cannot arise; Verbally tolerant, anger naturally disappears;
19. After eating or taking the elderly first and the young
explain eating and drinking, sit up and walk; Older people are preferred, and younger people are behind;
2. Calling someone for a long time means calling someone away.
Explain that elders call others and should immediately summon and tell them for them; If that person is not here, or can't find that person, you should inform your elders in time;
21. Don't call your elders by their first names. Don't see your elders.
Explain that you should call your elders by their first names. In front of the venerable elders, you should be modest and courteous, and you can help when you see the venerable elders, but you should not deliberately show off your talents and deliberately show that you are better than the venerable elders;
22. Lu Yu's illness is getting worse, and he has no words to retreat.
Explain that when you meet an elder on the road, you should respectfully say hello and salute; If the elders don't speak, they should stand back respectfully and wait for the elders to leave;
23. It takes more than a hundred steps to get off the horse.
Explain that if you meet your elders, you should get off the horse or get off the bus to greet them. Wait for the elderly to leave a hundred paces before continuing;
24. Don't sit while the elders are standing. Sitting is the fate of the elders.
Explain that when the elders are standing, the younger generation should not sit. Specifically, before the elders sit down, the younger generation should not sit first; When everyone is sitting, when the elders stand up, the younger generation should also stand up; When everyone is sitting, another elder comes in, and the younger generation should stand up immediately to show their respect. After the elders sit down, the younger generation should wait for the elders to signal themselves to sit down before they can sit down;
25. It's not appropriate to keep your voice low before your elders.
Explain that when you talk to your elders, or when you talk to others in front of your elders, you should keep your voice low and not shout. But the voice is too low, whispering and whispering, and it is not appropriate for the elders to hear clearly;
26. If you advance, you will retreat. If you ask about it, don't move.
If you explain to your elders, you should move forward quickly. When returning, it is only polite to be a little slower; When the elders ask questions, they should stand up and answer them, and they should watch and listen, and should not look around;
27. Treat fathers like fathers and brothers like brothers
Explain that parents and grandparents, such as adoptive father, uncle, uncle, father-in-law, grandfather, grandfather, great-grandfather, great-grandfather, etc., should be treated as filial and respectful as their own fathers; Treat brothers, such as cousins, cousins, brothers and other brothers, with the same love and respect as your own brothers.
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28. It is easy to get up early and go to bed late and get old. At this time
Explain that you should get up early in the morning and not go to bed too early at night; Because life is easy to get old, we should cherish time;
29. Wash your hands in the morning and rinse your mouth.
Explain that when you get up in the morning, you must wash your face, dress up, brush your teeth and rinse your mouth. Wash your hands when you come back from urinating;
3, the crown must be straight, the socks must be tied tightly with the shoes
Explain that you should dress neatly and button your clothes; Socks should be worn flat and shoelaces should be fastened;
31. The crown clothing should be positioned so as not to make it dirty
Explain that when placing clothes, the position should be fixed; Don't throw clothes around, so as not to make the house messy;
32, clothes are expensive and clean, and it is called home
Explain that clothes are neat, not gorgeous; On the one hand, we should consider our own status, on the other hand, we should do what we can according to our family strength;
33. Don't be choosy about food, but don't overdo it.
Explain how to treat food, and don't be choosy about it. Just eat well and eat well, don't pursue food excessively, and don't pursue luxury excessively;
34. Don't drink alcohol when you are young. Getting drunk is the ugliest.
Explain that teenagers can't drink alcohol until they are mature. Drunk state, the ugliest;
35. Walk calmly and stand upright, bow deeply and respectfully.
Explain that walking is calm and steady, and standing upright; When visiting others at home, bow and be sincere and respectful;
36, don't practice the threshold, don't limp, don't squat, don't shake the moustache
Explain that don't step on the threshold, don't stand askew; Don't stretch out your legs when sitting, and don't shake your legs;
37. Don't open the curtain slowly. Don't touch the edge when turning wide.
Explain that when opening the curtain and opening and closing the door in and out of the room, you should move slowly and don't make any noise on purpose. When turning a corner, you should make a big circle, and don't stick to the corner or turn at a right angle, so that you won't hit the edges and corners of the goods and get hurt, and you won't bump into each other because someone suddenly appears at the corner;
38. If someone
explains that when holding an empty appliance, it should be as upright as holding an appliance full of things, and don't throw it around, otherwise it will appear frivolous; Entering an empty room should be like entering someone's room, and you can't just;
39. Don't be too busy to make mistakes, don't be afraid of difficulties, and don't be too careless
When explaining things, don't panic, even if it is urgent, because mistakes are easy to make when you are busy; Don't be afraid of difficulties and don't act rashly.
4. Never go near an evil place in a fight. Never ask
Explain bad places such as fighting, gambling and pornography. Never go near it. Don't be curious about strange things;
41. Ask who will save the introduction, and the class will be heard.
Before explaining the introduction, ask, "Is anyone there?" Before entering the living room, you should raise your voice to let the people in the room know that someone is coming;
42. People ask who is not clear about me by name
Explain that the people in the room ask, "Who is it?" , should answer the name; If the answer is "it's me", people can't tell who it is;
43. The user should clearly ask that if he doesn't ask, he will steal
Explain that he wants to use other people's things, and he should clearly ask for permission; If you don't ask the owner's wishes, or ask without the owner's consent, and take it without authorization, it is theft;
44. It is not difficult for the borrower to borrow urgently after returning it in time
Explain that the borrower's articles should be returned in time; If there is an urgent need in the future, it is not difficult to borrow it again;
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45. If you speak out of trust, you will cheat first and laugh wildly.
Explain that when you speak, honesty comes first. Deception and nonsense should not be used;
46. It is better to talk more than to talk less, but it is better not to be clever.
It is better to explain more than to talk less; Tell the truth, don't talk nonsense;
47, foul words and dirty words
Explain that you should not speak treacherous words and dirty words; The snobbery of the market must be stopped;
48. Don't talk lightly about what you don't know.
Don't express your opinions easily until you know the truth. Rumors that don't know the truth should not be credulous and spread again;
49. Don't make a mistake if you have to make a mistake.
Explain that you shouldn't make promises easily for unreasonable demands and things you can't do. If you agree easily, you will put yourself in a dilemma;
5. When explaining words, don't be hasty and vague.
Speak clearly and speak slowly. Don't speak too fast and mumble;
51. It's none of his business to talk long and short.
Explain that don't talk about other people's strengths to their face and their weaknesses behind their backs; It's none of your own business, don't make much ado about nothing;
52. Seeing people's kindness means that Si Qi is going far and wide.
Explain the kindness of others, and learn to keep up with it immediately; Even if the ability is far apart, we should work hard and catch up gradually;
53. If you see someone who is evil, you should reflect on yourself.
Explain that when you see someone else's shortcomings or bad behavior, you should reflect on yourself. If there is, change it, and if there is no, be vigilant;
54. It's not as good as being honed by others if you only study virtue and talent.
Explain that only moral knowledge can make your skills inferior to others, and you should be self-motivated, honed and improved.
55. Don't be unhappy if your clothes and diet are not as good as others.
Explain that if you are not as good as others, don't compare with others.
56. I have heard of anger, reputation and happiness, but I have
explained that if I get angry when I hear criticism from others, I will be glad when I hear praise from others, bad friends will come to you, and good friends will leave you;
57. If you hear a reputation, you will be afraid of being overjoyed, and you will be afraid of being overpraised.
Explain that when you hear others praise you, you will be afraid of being overpraised. When you hear others criticize you, accept it gladly, and your mentor will gradually get close to you;
58. An unintentional mistake is called a mistake, and a intentional mistake is called an evil.
An explanation that an intentional mistake is not intentional is called a mistake; If you knowingly commit a crime, it is a sin.
59. If the fault is corrected, the fault will disappear. If you cover up your mistakes, you will add to them;
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6. All people must love the sky in the same way
Explain that all human beings must love each other; Because we share the same sky and live on the earth;
61. The name of the person who is high is high, and the person who is high is not high in appearance.
Explain that the person who is noble in virtue has a noble reputation; What people really respect in their hearts is virtue, not those who appear to have high power and status;
62. A man of great talent looks forward to being served by a great man, but he doesn't say much.
Explain that a man of great virtue and great talent naturally has a high prestige; People's inner ability and moral integrity are truly convincing, not those big officials, big people and big financial businessmen who talk about it;
63. Don't be selfish if you have the ability.
Explain that you have the ability, don't be selfish, and help others. Others have the ability, don't be jealous, and should appreciate learning;
64, don't flatter the rich, don't be arrogant, don't be tired, don't be happy
Explain that don't flatter the rich, and don't be arrogant in front of the poor; Don't like the new and hate the old;
65. Don't disturb others when people are not idle. Don't talk
Explain that others are busy, and don't call.