A friend of mine was very depressed when chatting. You said that when people reach middle age, they are in an environment where their wives are noisy all day, their children are not good at learning and their careers are not smooth. How to live in the future? I told him that in this era, this society, everyone may encounter bad environment, bumps and adversity. It is impossible to stay in the Peach Blossom Garden like Tao Yuanming, a native of A Jin, to keep the fleeting time, to keep the competitive economy and society, to keep the bustling urban crowd, and to keep the media age where the Internet is everywhere. . . . . . Which one can make us safe and indifferent? In adversity, don't complain, don't be sad, don't be upset, but face up to it and find a lifestyle that suits you.
The second is to learn to be grateful. Dialectics shows that prosperity and adversity can be transformed. There are not a few people who rise from adversity and succeed, so we should have a grateful heart regardless of prosperity or adversity. Historian Sima Qian was jailed and devoted himself to studying historical records, which was unprecedented. Later, in his letter to Ren An, he told his friends that he could "learn from the changes of ancient and modern times when studying the relationship between man and nature, and become a family statement" because he had Zhouyi, Chunqiu, Lisao, Mandarin, Sun Tzu's Art of War and Lu Lan before him. In this sense, adversity is the wealth given by life and the only way to achieve life. Having a grateful heart will make adversity brilliant and life noble.
The third is hard work. The post is the platform for the director to start a business. How many people are taking the civil service exam now, how many are vying for positions, and how many are eager to find jobs. Everyone needs such opportunities and positions in life to show their talents. It is really wrong for some people to vent their frustration, frustration and distress on their work. At this time, we should concentrate on our own work, do our work wholeheartedly and conscientiously, and truly be independent of the environment, emotions and relationships. Doing a good job is the best choice to get out of adversity.
The fourth is to care for the family. Family is a warm harbor. When work is not going well, it will be smooth to go home and talk to relatives, because a good family is a safe haven. After a busy day, doesn't it make people feel great and happy to come home and see their beloved, happy children and harmonious laughter? When you are in adversity, no one can replace what your family has given you. When you are depressed, when you are not understood by others, when you are criticized, as long as you walk into the house and see the smiling faces and delicious meals of your loved ones, you will understand how important it is to care for your family, especially in adversity.
The fifth is to cultivate hobbies. Hobby refers to a strong interest in something, and it is also a person's psychological tendency to try to understand something or engage in certain activities. In adversity, some people will do nothing, some people will give up on themselves, some people will waste their time and even be willing to be depressed. It is wise to transfer this negative emotional behavior and cultivate a hobby, such as playing ball, calligraphy, playing chess and fishing. Pursue indifference, cultivate intelligence and cultivate sentiment. It can be said that hobbies can cultivate people's mood, calmness and will, and gain the spirit and strength to get out of adversity.
Sixth, walk happily. In the first phase of CCTV's Everybody Talk program, Chen Kun, a famous actor, was invited as a guest. The topic of his speech is "Life Road, Don't panic", which is a public welfare activity of "Power of Walking" organized by him, advocating people to gain strength in life through natural journey thinking. Not simply walking casually, but walking in summing up and reflecting on life and perfecting oneself. In the face of adversity, let's squeeze out some time to pack our bags and set out, or leave our feelings between mountains and rivers, or look at the scenery, or talk about history and humanities, or feel the great changes in China, so as to get out of adversity through happy self-adjustment.
Seventh, make good friends. A good friend is a book, and the three heroes are also friends. With the growth of age, people's intimate friends will decrease. In modern society, there are only three or five true friends. It's hard to make friends for profit, for fun and for things, and it's hard to make heart-to-heart friends. A friend who can't make friends in a short time is not a real friend. Making friends in adversity can tell whether you are a real friend or not. Relatively speaking, the wider the contact with society, the larger the circle of friends will be. It is unrealistic not to communicate and deal with each other. Then make more friends, friends who tell the truth, friends who have rumors, remind more and help more.
Eight is obsessed with reading. It is also said that Tao Yuanming, named Mr. Wu Liu, once wrote a biography for himself called "Biography of Mr. Wu Liu": "I don't know who Mr. Wu is, I don't know his surname. There are five or six trees next to the house, because I think the number is not clear. Quiet, quiet, don't be greedy. Good reading, not asking for a solution; Every time I know something, I am so happy that I forget to eat. " The ancients were addicted to reading in the courtyard, but today people can't? In adversity, if people can sit down and read quietly like Tao Lao, they can not only relieve depression, but also broaden their horizons. Why not?
Nine is to pay attention to health. It is easy to get angry in adversity, and it is easy to get hurt when you are angry. To get rid of "qi", we need to pay attention to both mental health and physical health. Mental health needs to find a psychologist, and physical health needs to find a clinician. The premise is that you need to prevent and adjust, but also need to have good psychological quality and mental state, and have a very strong inner self. At the same time, we should strengthen physical exercise, especially in the case of rich nutrition in modern times, prevent the "three highs", keep fit and accumulate the greatest life capital for getting out of adversity.
Ten is to seize the opportunity. Life is a collection of countless opportunities. It is often said that crisis is an opportunity in danger. Adversity can also be said to be a crisis, but there are opportunities in the crisis. Bad luck often happens, but not many people are unlucky. Turning decay into magic is a skill, turning crisis into opportunity is also a skill, and grasping opportunity in adversity is even more a skill. Opportunities are always reserved for those who are prepared. Smart people will seize the "flashing red light" in adversity. I hope there are more such smart people.