Time is precious. If you want to live a good life, you must associate with people who are not tired of getting along.
After all, if you are not tired of getting along, you can be tired for a long time.
With people who are not tired, there is no compromise. Only letting nature take its course is the best relationship!
There is a period of "the third season of longing for life", and the program group invited a group of young newcomers who everyone didn't know very well as guests.
Friends of the hosts He Jiong and Huang Lei are invited to be guests at ordinary times, and old friends get together, and the daily necessities are happy. At this time, a group of "strangers" suddenly came.
Huang Lei was obviously not as enthusiastic as before, and he no longer ran to the door to greet him warmly. He just silently "hides" in the kitchen to work and cook, and even participates in after-dinner games. The only time I smiled was when my good friend Lao Lang came.
At the tea party, he said to everyone, "I feel more at ease when the old wolf comes." Because I don't know you well, I wasn't so enthusiastic when you came in to say hello to me. I don't need to talk nonsense with strangers. "
Everyone was surprised. After all, Huang Lei has always been an easy-going and friendly person.
Later, he explained that he was really tired when he was old. He was not as energetic as he was when he was young, and he didn't have so much energy to be enthusiastic about everyone.
Seeing this, many people are deeply touched. The older you get, the less you want to spend too much energy on a new relationship. On the contrary, you prefer to be with old friends, which is comfortable and effortless.
In fact, the affection between people is a natural result.
A really good relationship is to make people feel comfortable, not laborious.
We don't need to smile, integrate into other people's lives, and bring people who may just "meet by chance" into our social circle.
Too deliberate, but thankless.
There is a saying in Dear San Mao: "The best among friends is like good tea, which is light but not astringent, fragrant but not tangy, and slowly floats like water." There is no better relationship between friends.
If a friendship wants to go far, it is particularly important to get along comfortably.
Wang Huizhi, a calligrapher in the Eastern Jin Dynasty, was born in Yinshan, Zhejiang.
One night, it snowed heavily. Wang Huizhi woke up in the middle of the night, pushed open the window and looked around anxiously.
While enjoying the snow and reciting poems, I suddenly remembered my good friend Dai Kui.
The sculptor Dai Kui lives in Shan County, one hundred miles away. Despite the cold weather, Wang Huizhi went upstream by boat.
The next day, I arrived at Dai's house. Instead of knocking at the door, I turned to my entourage and said, "Let's go home."
The waiter asked, "since you are here, why don't you go in?"
Wang Huizhi said, "Go on impulse and come back when you are exhausted. Why do you want to see it? "
Afterwards, Dai Kui knew about it, so he smiled and said, "What a bosom friend!"
As the old saying goes, "The value of a friend lies in freedom."
Sincere friendship is just expressing ideas, not sticking to form or details, so it is free and natural.
In life, it is not easy to meet and know each other, and it is even harder to know each other and stay together.
The best relationship is that the shade is suitable; Best friends are near and far.
Life is precious, why is it so tiring to get along with others?
Being comfortable and not tired is the best state of friendship.
The wind still reverberates when it blows into the empty valley, and the emotional effort should be rewarded.
"I'm watering the small garden. The business traveler who came back last night said through the screen window that the days with you are time, otherwise it's meaningless to leave blank ... nothing happens."
This is a passage written by Li Jian's wife Meng Xiaobei in Weibo. Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei are very happy. They can show their love in the cracks of life, even if they get along for a long time, they will not be tired.
With people who are not tired of getting along, there is sunshine everywhere, and no matter how hard life is, we can also draw warmth from each other.
Similarly, feelings need to be expressed, life needs a sense of ceremony, and two people will be comfortable to get along with each other. If there is only one feather in life and only routine communication, people who love each other will be exhausted.
Lu Yu asked Ang Lee, "What is your greatest happiness at this stage?"
Ang Lee smiled and replied, "If my wife can smile at me, I will relax a little and feel very happy."
Yes, with one more kind word, one more warm smile and one more casual romance in life, it is naturally very comfortable for two people to get along.
If you want to stay in life for a long time, you must know how to respond to each other's feelings in daily necessities. Feelings are two people's business, and one person can't afford the world of two people.
Marriage is not to make do with life, but to get along comfortably with each other. If you want to get along for a long time, don't be stingy to express your feelings. You give me happiness, and I will give you happiness.
Some people are not congenial to each other, but completely different, but appreciate each other.
Some people are together, not because of tacit understanding, but because they are not tired at all and relaxed.
Living is nothing more than trying to be comfortable. You can find someone to "celebrate a chance to have a rest with me and talk about wine", and find someone who can understand your "Phoenix" and your "high mountains and flowing water".
There is a person who is not tired of getting along. It is safe to hold him and warm to accompany him.
Such a relationship can stand the test of life and go further.