Especially when children are in primary school, because their living environment suddenly changes, children may have a series of growth problems. At this time, it is very necessary for parents to accompany him, comfort his mind, help him solve his confusion, correct his mistakes and so on.
Unfortunately, however, many parents don't realize that primary school is a turning point in their children's growth, and many problems will occur during primary school.
In addition, when children go to primary school, parents are usually busy with their careers, which leads to parents not doing a good job in parenting, ignoring communication with children, ignoring companionship with children, ignoring interaction with children, and so on.
In the absence of parent-child companionship, children's growth is likely to be biased, or they can't grow up actively, resulting in some negative psychology, negative personality, incorrect understanding and wrong ideas.
The lack of parent-child companionship also makes it impossible for parents to understand the growth and changes of their children, to find out the problems on their growth path in time, and to intervene in time to correct the negative changes of their children. So, in this case, what is most likely to affect children?
What is the effect of children's lack of companionship?
1) personality will be more violent and extreme.
Children's personality will become paranoid, irritable or depressed. Because children encounter problems in life without timely attention and help from their parents, these problems will bring long-term confusion to children.
Children can't adjust their psychological state effectively and correctly, and can't release their negative emotions, which may lead to changes in their personality, gradually becoming extreme, and even some extreme behaviors. Such as running away from home, committing suicide, frequent use of violence, etc.
2) It is easy to feel inferior.
When a child is not accompanied by his or her parents, he or she may feel inferior. Because children will feel that their parents are indifferent to him (her), he (she) is not cared about and so on. Children will become sensitive and afraid to face things.
And children may doubt themselves, doubt that they are not good enough, doubt that they are incompetent, doubt that they are really stupid, and so on.
3) The parent-child relationship cannot be maintained
This is a natural situation. When children and parents lack communication, the relationship between parents and children will inevitably become alienated. This is actually the same as communication between people. If there is no communication for a long time, the natural relationship will become dull.
4) The sense of family responsibility is not strong
The fragile parent-child relationship makes children unable to feel the warmth and happiness of the family, and the family consciousness is getting weaker and weaker in children's consciousness, which leads to the weakening of children's sense of family responsibility and even the lack of family concept.
This has a great influence on children, not only in childhood, but also in family harmony when they grow up and get married.
How should parents accompany their children?
Then, in primary school, how should parents accompany their children to benefit a lot?
(1) Ensure sufficient time investment.
During primary school, children encounter many growth problems and their body and mind change frequently. Therefore, parents should try their best to ensure time, give their children enough growth support, and let them have enough sense of security and focus on their own development.
② Pay attention to the true expression of emotion.
Parents accompanying their children is a kind of heart-to-heart communication, not formalism. Nowadays, many parents may be influenced by society or work, deluding themselves that they can accompany their children instead of expressing their sincerity to them, which is ineffective.
Children can feel whether their parents are sincere or not. If you don't really treat your children, you'd better not accompany them. False feelings may even backfire.
(3) Listen carefully to the child.
In the process of communicating with children, parents should realize that they are not the protagonist of the whole behavior, so in the process of communication, if children are expressing their views or describing something, parents should listen carefully even if they are bored. Because anything a child says may expose his values, right and wrong, knowledge reserve, cognition and so on. Parents must learn to listen in order to discover the hidden dangers encountered in their children's growth.
Having said that, many parents may not know how to accompany their children, so here I suggest that parents can read the book "Accompany their children through primary school for six years"
After six years of primary school, children's growth and changes are different every year. Therefore, parents should guide and educate their children in a targeted manner in order to play an obvious role.