For those couples who are deeply involved in sweet love, the names of notes vary from ordinary "dear" to funny "big pig's hoof" to sweet "little cute".
Whenever I make a comment, I feel funny and a little shy. The other half is listening, and there is also a feeling of pride, as if to say that I am the one who makes people naive.
It is said that in love, hormones can take away the IQ of two people, leaving only the sweet smell between you.
It's just that after a certain period of time, feelings gradually fade, and marriage makes love become a daily life. Many people forget what love was like at the beginning.
As Ibsen said, "Marriage is a big test of life". In this test, the note you give to the other half is the quality of your marriage.
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The note my best friend gave her husband can fully reflect her love situation.
From the beginning, when you showed us the screenshot of the chat, it was just a word "he", and immediately became a "husband" after marriage.
Later, whenever the chat records of the two of them were posted, as long as there was a quarrel, the other party's WeChat remarks were either "asshole" or "faceless".
There was even a time when it was clear why they quarreled, because the speech said "I am a pig to persuade him to drink", "this person only knows overtime" and "preparing for divorce" and so on.
As two people had children, girlfriends immediately changed each other's remarks to "the father of the child". After a while, the novelty passed, and they began to change their names in various ways.
We laugh at whether our best friend is always tired of doing this, but she says that only in this way can marriage be meaningful, and she still loves the other half. Because when you still have the energy to exchange notes with your partner, that's when you haven't given up on marriage.
Because of my best friend, I thought of a pair of clients. Married for more than ten years, and finally divorced for six months. The woman insists that she can't feel love in marriage.
However, the man's statement is only one sentence: "After so many years of marriage, I just have no passion. Where is love? Women just like to make trouble. "
Later, during the lunch break, the woman went out to buy rice and didn't come back. When she asked her husband to call her, he paused for a while and said, "I forgot to save her phone number, and I don't usually contact her."
Finally, as a last resort, I asked my husband to call her on WeChat voice. I saw the man rummaging through the address book for a long time before he found a person who didn't change his notes. Chat records show that the two have not used WeChat for more than a week.
Asked why he didn't change the note for his wife, he said "trouble".
It's just that in his address book, I don't think it's troublesome to add notes to others, and even add this person's birthday to some people's notes.
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Giving the other half a note name can reflect the emotional situation between you. After all, the note is private and I dare not express my love in my personal field. How can we really love?
Just like Chen Jianbin's note to his wife's angel on WeChat, it is the word "wife's adult". He said, "I have played so many emperors, and I will still listen to my wife when I go home."
It's just that some people, after all, like to protect their privacy, so the closer they get to a person, the less willing they are to exchange notes.
I have a friend with a strong sense of security. In his private micro-signal, almost everyone did not comment. There is only one reason: "What should I do if my mobile phone is lost and you use it?"
In fact, this idea is normal, but the love and security he gives his partner comes from the fact that he can find out who his lover is at the first time even without commenting. After all, he can even recite each other's micro-signals.
However, such people are a minority after all, and we still like to put our own unique labels on the people we like, thus proving that this person belongs to us.
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It's easy to meet someone when you are young, and your heart will beat faster at the mention of your name. At a certain age, even the names of husband and wife can't make you easily move.
People say that time is a butcher's knife, which changes the young face and the passionate love.
At the beginning of love, we always have a sweet longing for the future, but after getting married for a long time, we find that many things in life are different from what we imagined.
So when the passion fades, I often doubt whether love exists or not, and even have no hope for marriage. When I feel bored, I don't even change my notes to the other half.
But I hope you can understand that marriage can't be successful at the beginning, but it needs two people to explore slowly. The notes you give your partner are the quality of your marriage, the simple "wife", the sense of responsibility, the simple "father" and the warmth of home.