First, establish physical intimacy.
In daily communication, you and your partner may want to increase hugging and kissing behavior and extend intimacy. Studies have shown that intimate caress between lovers can stimulate the brain to secrete oxytocin and endorphins, which are necessary hormones for emotional attachment.
Second, establish emotional intimacy.
In intimate relationships, it is very important to establish emotional intimacy. Many times, quarreling is the accumulation of bad emotions. So how to establish emotional connection? It's very simple, that is, to express more. For example, after going home, you can share today's emotional experience with your partner, and even on your way home, you can share the little surprise of finding magnolia flowers in full bloom. Of course, in addition to happiness and joy, troubles, disappointments, anger and sadness can all be confided to each other, so that the relationship can be linked in a subtle way and maintain vitality.
Third, establish aesthetic intimacy.
Is that two people appreciate beautiful things together. This includes: listening to a piece of music and enjoying a poem together; Watch stage plays, ballets and operas together; Or visit an exhibition together, practice calligraphy together, and finish a painting together. When couples appreciate art together and exchange impressions and experiences, they can get to know each other's preferences in a pleasant atmosphere and get closer to each other's inner world.
Fourth, establish intellectual intimacy.
In life, close partners can often discuss some professional topics, such as society, economy, politics, astronomy, geography and other fields. This will help you transition from superficial communication to deeper connection and create a happy experience of mutual appreciation.
Fifth, establish social intimacy.
Partners with like-minded friends often organize activities together, which is a way to establish social intimacy. A friend of mine has done a good job in this respect. They agreed to invite friends to spend a weekend every month, such as dinner, afternoon tea, outdoor sports and so on. The advantage of this is that they can create more experiences and topics in social participation with the outside world. When a deeper spiritual connection is established, they will naturally become closer. In short, as long as two people can continue to experience the happiness of attachment, they can always maintain love. After the passionate period, love will not disappear. Those couples who broke up after passion just failed to enter deeper attachment.