In fact, every time I talk about this topic, I feel sad and sad unconsciously, as if I had lost many good friends inadvertently. People can't help thinking about the following two questions.
1. Why are so many friendships drifting away?
1, time and energy are limited.
Everyone's time and energy are limited. In the process of constantly getting to know new people, losing the old man is a normal state that must be accepted. Any family ties need to be maintained, as do love and friendship.
When we grow up, we have to face work, life, family and so on, which requires a lot of time and energy, so it is not surprising that some friendships are drifting away at this time!
2. Geographical restrictions
After graduating from high school, everyone took different paths. Some people find jobs after graduation, while others choose to go to college, but they are all in different cities.
Geographical restrictions make it less and less possible for former friends to meet. With the difference of circle of friends, rhythm and lifestyle, the contact between high school students gradually decreases. Some even slowly have only one praise in the circle of friends.
3. Differences in ideas
I believe many people have experienced this situation, that is, when you are still at school, some high school students have already had a second child, and the differences in ideas make you gradually have no topic to talk about. Imagine that when you are still worried about the final exam, the other party is talking about various mother-in-law problems and marital conflicts. The difference in ideas is the biggest and deadliest reason why they are not connected.
Although drifting away is the normal state of life, I still feel sad and sorry every time I think about it, and even can't help blaming myself. Why didn't you insist on calling once a week as agreed? Why do friends who used to talk about everything now feel a little deliberate in commenting on their friends? Let's talk about how to keep friendship as much as possible.
Second, how can we keep friendship?
1, keep quantitative contact.
Any relationship needs to be managed and maintained. It stands to reason that contact will be better, and no contact will be weaker. What kind of affection will be consistent even if you don't contact for a long time. This is nonsense, even the best feelings will be aphasia for a long time. So no matter how busy you are, please keep in touch.
2. Try to meet several times a year.
Meeting is also important. Long time no see, just netizens. I'm going to meet old feelings at first sight.
3. Insist on giving gifts to each other
I used to think it was troublesome and cliche for my friends to send birthday presents every year. But then I gradually found that giving gifts is actually a good way to maintain feelings, and gifts will also make you and your other half feel taken care of all the time.
In fact, life is constantly in gains and losses, and no one can avoid it, and no one can fully possess it. So we should try our best to accept this rule without being too sad!