If I am very sad, I will probably choose a quiet environment to stay by myself, find a good novel or a heart-warming movie, and give myself a psychological massage by reading or watching movies to adjust. My own mood, pull myself out of the sadness.
When I am particularly angry, I will not choose to stay alone. I will choose to exercise. Running or climbing are both good choices. I can sweat profusely while running, or walk to the mountain while climbing. Lin Shenshan was high up, and then he shouted a few times at the top of his lungs to vent the anger that was pent up in his heart.
This is not what I did before. When I was young, when I had bad emotions, I would first go to my friends to talk to them. I would cry and curse while talking, with a lot of snot and tears, and spittle flying all over the sky. After venting, I felt much relieved. Later I discovered that this method is not good. You cannot always treat your friends as trash cans and pass on your bad emotions to your friends at will. It is unkind and unkind.
As I get older, my ability to manage my emotions becomes more and more mature. Now, I mostly use the above methods to regulate my emotions, and the effect is pretty good.
I hope my method can help you.
Although you always don’t want to do anything when you are in a bad mood, you should try to overcome this mentality and try to think about the reasons for your bad mood, so that you can solve the problem from the source.
1. Learn to forgive yourself.
Life is never smooth and smooth. There will always be things like this or that that make you upset. Try to forgive yourself. What’s the big deal? A happy day is a day, and an unhappy day is also a day. Except for being angry, everything is a trivial matter.
2. Distraction.
When you are in a bad mood, you can stay away from your environment, go to a new place, and do other things to distract your attention. This can help you quickly forget your unhappiness.
3. Chat with friends.
People are social animals and need friends. When you are in a bad mood, you can chat with friends and have a heart-to-heart talk, which will definitely make you feel much better.
4. Go shopping with friends.
This article is for girls. There is nothing that cannot be solved by going shopping with friends. If there is, then it is twice. During the shopping process, you will not think so much. After shopping, Street may be in a bad mood.
5. Do what you like.
Everyone has one or two hobbies. If you don’t have one, take the opportunity to develop one. Doing what you like will make you forget your worries, believe me.
1. When watching movies, tune out the high-rated movies on Douban, and watch one after another, whether suspenseful, healing, dramatic, or World War II-themed. After watching it, you will feel that your heart is clear. a lot of. Compared to the lives in many movies, who do you think you are? "Once Upon a Time in America", "A Nation of Love", "Our Fathers", "Scent of a Woman", "American Beauty", "New World", "Wolf Boy", "The Pianist" and "The Best Goodbye in the World". . . I watched a lot of the movies when I was in a really bad mood, and after watching them I felt like it really wasn't that big of a deal.
2 Food, whatever you like to eat, go and eat it. I feel better after eating. Or learn to do it. You will find it very fulfilling to make it.
3. Study. Try to make yourself more progress.
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I am relatively a rational person.
Occasionally there will be some mood swings, but fortunately they come and go quickly.
He is very public when he is in a good mood.
When he is in a bad mood, he chooses to face it alone so as not to affect others.
When I feel particularly happy, I like to invite a few friends to have a big meal;
During this period, I chat about everything, feel satisfied, and feel quite calm after returning home. .
When I feel particularly sad, I will go to a big supermarket alone to buy snacks;
After an hour, I will go home and check out all the snacks, and then spend another half an hour eating. In the West, I basically don’t know what sadness is.
When I feel particularly angry, I immediately go to Taobao and buy most of the items in my shopping cart. No matter how angry I am, the anger will disappear.
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Of course, everyone has their own way of dealing with emotions: whatever suits you is the best.
There is a saying that goes well: No matter what you do, as long as it doesn’t affect others, feel free to be as perverted as you like!
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Let me answer
How do you feel when you are in a particularly excited mood, such as sadness or anger?
Because anger and fear are emotions, emotions have energy, because fear prompts you to avoid danger, and if it is excessive, it will become abnormal, such as fear of speech. Similarly, anger is such an emotion, so if you use one emotion to suppress another emotion, you may gain new experiences in this way, and then understand that your behavior will be normal, but in more cases , suppressed emotions are suppressed and not allowed to be expressed, but will become stronger, like a spring. The more you press, the greater the rebound force, such as patience. The more you endure, the more powerful and destructive it may be when it breaks out, such as impulsive killing. , hurtful.
However, when you accept your emotions, whether good or bad, if you accept them, it means that you allow them to have the right to exist. You will not destroy them or suppress them, because you know that no matter what, you allow them to have the right to exist. Whether you like it or not, he has the right to exist, so if you don't resist it, he won't hurt you in turn.
When faced with anger caused by threats or provocations, we often use negative coping methods or physical activities to vent our anger, which prevents the problem from being completely solved, causes anxiety, and even leads to Depression and feelings of hopelessness.
Ways to deal with anger
1. Tell the reason for your anger. Maybe talk to a close friend, or to yourself, about your anger. Of course, in the end, don’t forget to give yourself some confidence: I will not be controlled by anger.
2. Meditation. Burn the essential oil, calm down the angry heart, forget all unpleasantness, put down the horn of fighting with others, now you only need to pay attention to your breathing, relax the tight string a little, and relax a little more. After a few minutes, you will be calm and objective enough to analyze the root of the problem.
3. You can hit a pillow hard, or you can find another punching bag. For example, you can smash the trash you wanted to throw away. This will be very enjoyable. However, a more frugal and active approach should be to exercise and keep fit. Run on the treadmill for half an hour and let the anger drain from your body with every step.
When you are in a particularly emotional mood, such as sadness or anger, how do you deal with it?
We leave all our emotions to the outside world
Some people are full of negative energy all day long. They cry here and there when they see their friends. It is relatively difficult to control their emotions. They are lower than normal people. They will get angry and angry at any time, and attribute all these things to the outside world. They have no responsibility at all, but they will not change. Over time, the negative energy will explode one day, and the ones around them will be hurt. people.
There are also some people who are overly sensitive to guilt and self-blame, often pushing themselves step by step into the abyss. To give an extreme example, this is like being stepped on by someone else. Obviously there is nothing wrong with it, but you still feel that your foot is hindering others from walking. This is all caused by excessive guilt. This so-called "self-blame syndrome" has a sensitive heart.
Treat people and things rationally
When I am particularly excited, you have to think about it. Scientists conducted an experiment and randomly selected 20 adults, each of whom was alone in a room and ask them to think about something they are particularly angry about. As the day went by, some people had extremely extreme ideas, including those who wanted to kill someone and some who wanted to commit suicide. This experiment tells us that if 90% of what a person does when he is particularly emotionally unstable or excited is wrong, it would be foolish to think back on what he did in the past.
So we can start with the following opposites:
Get rid of your all-or-nothing thinking. When you are emotionally unstable, you tend to have stubborn ideas and like to go to extremes. To get out of this kind of pain, we need to refute what we want to do in the future, for example: "Is there really anyone in this world who will be happy all their life?" "If not, if others can get out of pain, then so can I."
The Three Don’ts Rule
“Don’t punish others for your own mistakes” “Don’t punish yourself for other people’s mistakes” “Don’t punish yourself for your own mistakes”
I have a bad temper. Usually it comes and goes quickly. I usually stay alone when I am excited, sad, or angry. When I am alone, I cry and shed tears
Or if you are in a daze at home and don't notice anything, you are just in a daze. Next, eating and eating snacks are all signs that I am in a bad mood.
If you have friends or family around you, you will chat with your family and friends, not because of what will happen, but because you want to find someone to talk to.
I really want to be a person who can control my emotions, I really want to be a wise person, I really want to be a very open-minded person, I really want to be a very confident person, I really want to be a person without emotions. people. But in fact, in terms of joy, anger, sorrow, joy, emotions, and desires, I am just an ordinary person who cannot be ordinary.
I am @小马fan and I am very happy to answer your questions! ! !
I am a person who has a particularly bad temper, and sometimes I speak uncontrollably and cannot control my temper. But as time went by and as I went through some things, I slowly learned to control my temper. I learned not to show my vulnerable side in front of others. Even if I have an argument with others, I try to control it as much as possible. If I can't control it, I'll end the argument with a few words. Then I find a quiet place to calm down and think about why I got angry and why I can't control my temper.
Having a bad temper and not being able to quarrel is also a big problem of mine. Now, before you lose control of your temper, you should filter it in your mind to see if it is right and whether you can control your temper. If you can bear it, calm yourself down and don't get angry or lose control.
Emotional management is very important. We must learn to control our temper. Think before you act, be careful with your words and actions, learn to be calm when encountering problems, and think more about right and wrong, and it may be easier to stabilize your emotions. I am still managing my emotions and hope that I can be the person who satisfies me.
Hello, I am Brother Iron Fist, and I am very happy to answer your questions!
I have forgotten the last time I was excited, sad, or angry. In addition to the new coronavirus epidemic, Academician Zhong Nanshan also said that except life and death, everything else in life is trivial. So why are we excited?
Of course, the epidemic will pass sooner or later, and life will continue. Life cannot be separated from joy, anger, sorrow, separation and separation!
There are still many sad things in life, such as the departure of lovers, betrayal of friends, loss of relatives, etc., which will make us sad. Many people even have "stories sadder than sad."
When we feel sad, no matter whether there is someone to accompany or comfort us, we have to be optimistic and bearish. Often many things can comfort others, but they cannot comfort ourselves, so we must calm down and have a good mood, because life will continue; we can choose things we like to do and things we are interested in to vent our negative energy emotions, or we can calm down. Stay alone for a while, take a deep breath and relax. After all, you have to think for the best in everything!
When we are angry, our IQ is close to zero. The decisions and things we make at this time are often wrong, impulsive, and may even cause serious consequences. So don’t make any decisions when you are angry or angry. When you are angry, you can recite silently in your heart for 30 seconds, take a deep breath, and look up at the sky! At this time, the anger will be completely reduced, or even non-existent!
If something in life makes us angry, it means that we are not strong enough and our hearts are not calm enough. We need to practice and hone ourselves in life to make ourselves stronger!
Everyone will encounter times that make them excited, no matter good or bad, and people tend to expect good things but not bad things, so when they encounter bad things, they will feel that they are not able to cope with it. Otherwise, the mood will be even worse.
I prefer this sentence "Don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself". When I encounter some achievements, I will be wary of danger in times of peace and get carried away. When you encounter something bad, just calm down your mood, or find a good friend to talk to over a drink, and your mood will obviously improve a lot. Sometimes you can also calm down to practice calligraphy and listen to your favorite music, and your mood will gradually improve. Calm down and then deal with these problems more rationally than emotionally.
When dealing with some things that make me particularly angry, of course I am very excited, and sometimes I am inevitably impulsive. At this time, I tell myself in my heart that I must control my emotions and not act excessively. Deal with the problem without losing control.
In normal times, we must cultivate our own character, not complain, put ourselves in others' shoes, and deal with emotions rationally. This is the best version of ourselves.