The happiest thing in the world is to take care of children!
Every woman will basically go through the process of falling in love, getting married and having children. Only she knows the hardships and difficulties of pregnancy in October. I finally gave birth to my child, and I will go through the process of confinement or even full-time nanny.
Because they have to take care of their children, treasure moms have no free time at all. Many jobs and even other things in life have been delayed or even abandoned. In order to take care of the children wholeheartedly, the treasure mothers have paid a lot and experienced a lot.
I used to be a full-time nanny. I was pregnant until I gave birth to my son. I haven't been to work for years. I was pregnant for one year, and I didn't try to find a job outside until I was three years old. Besides, I can't go to work for too long, too far from home.
To tell you the truth, I was very anxious in those years when I took care of the baby. On the one hand, as a novice mother, I am worried that I can't take care of my children well, that I can't keep up with the pace of society for too long, and that I will be eliminated by society. I'm afraid my husband will treat me differently because of my deformed figure.
There are too many uncertainties and worries. During the time when I took care of my baby full-time, I was as anxious as many treasure mothers, and I was once suffering from depression.
Maybe many treasure moms, like me, are particularly anxious about many things, easily emotional and easily troubled by many things. They are helpless and at a loss in the face of many things. They really want to give their children to others as soon as possible, but they are not at ease. This kind of confusion and anxiety, I think many treasure mothers will have.
Later my husband and I calmed down and talked about these things. I told him about my anxiety and anxiety. With his help, I finally recovered my normal mood and mentality. Finally, on my child's fifth birthday, I returned to the workplace with confidence and found a satisfactory job. I am very grateful to my husband for this.
Many treasure moms actually want to take care of their children by themselves, but many things can't be done quickly and immediately by themselves. I believe that every mother hopes that she can bring out an independent, intelligent, sensible and well-behaved baby to accompany her children to grow up. Isn't it a very happy thing?
But the reality is also before us. For the vast majority of treasure mothers, full-time baby care means that many things have to be started again, facing many unaccustomed and even broken plans. Everything needs to be re-planned, such as:
Of course, according to everyone's situation, the causes of anxiety are different. For example, if the elderly also help to take care of the children, there may be conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and different parenting concepts between husband and wife may affect the mother's mood and mentality.
You know, every mother is a mother, and it is also the first time to be a mother.
Every detail is actually a test for mothers. They will be careful if they are not careful, and even touch all their sensitive emotions.
All these worries and anxieties, anxieties and panic about full-time nannies are actually due to anxiety about insecurity. The lack of this sense of security comes from oneself, children, family, work and life, and all aspects affect the sense of security of Bao Ma.
In the time of taking care of the baby full-time, instead of being depressed alone, it is better to try this way and let yourself adjust slowly and truly.
0 1 Make more friends
After becoming a mother, Ma Bao's circle of friends is basically confined to home, or community, and there are fewer people who can exchange and chat with each other, which makes it easy to be depressed.
Therefore, mothers might as well go out and get to know their neighbors and friends in the community, so that their bodies and minds can have someone to talk to.
Exercise more, pay attention to diet, ensure nutrition, and maintain regular work and rest habits.
The time to take care of the baby was also stressful.
At this time, regularly do exercise and yoga at home or in the open space of the downstairs community to stretch your body and mind and waist, so that your body can get exercise and get active. Not only can you cheer yourself up, but you can also exercise and find your old body.
It's comforting to think about it this way.
Read more books and raise children scientifically.
You can find time to read a book, or discuss and study with other treasure moms, get to know each other, exchange experiences and parenting knowledge, so that you can learn more about raising a baby, and in the process of chatting and communicating, mothers also feel the support and encouragement of other treasure moms, and cheer together.
Recognize the importance of companionship and accompany children.
Mothers also need to realize that it is really tiring to take full-time care of their babies, but at this time, mothers should realize that it is also a beautiful and worthwhile thing to accompany their children to grow up. It is a great thing to witness the slow growth of a little life. It is really beautiful.
Use the time with children to cultivate their full sense of security, let them put on the armor of love, and let them have the ability to love. Participate in children's growth every day and witness their daily changes. Record the beauty of his growth and capture his wonderful moments. Cultivate yourself by taking care of your children and grow up with them.
I believe I can cultivate a very smart, lovely, brave and strong child, and I believe in the future of the child. Because of your company and careful upbringing, I will have an independent personality and excellent quality in the future.
Study when you are with your baby, and don't forget to improve yourself.
While taking care of the baby, you should know that you have to re-enter the workplace in the future, learn more about your own advantages, plan your future career direction, and make preparations for it. Many treasure mothers never give up studying, researching, reading and learning to recharge during pregnancy, and never stop the pace of promotion and growth.
Read more books, such as some workplace, inspirational, managing husband-wife relationship, maintaining customer relationship, workplace social aspects and so on.
Learn some workplace skills, such as PPT /WORD/EXCEL/PS, and others, such as speaking style, meeting etiquette, writing ability, video editing ability, and so on;
If you can, you can also take some relevant certificates, such as accounting, law, calligraphy, painting and so on. Learn more and understand more.
These are all things you can do when you are with your baby. On the one hand, it can make your time with your baby less boring. On the other hand, you can also prepare for returning to the workplace.
Learn to communicate and manage the relationship between husband and wife.
At any time, your lover is the closest person to you. The birth, growth and education of children are actually the common responsibility of two people. If you feel uncomfortable or anxious, you can actually talk to your lover.
Communicate with your lover more, let him accompany and understand you more, understand your difficulties and difficulties more, manage your marriage well and manage the relationship between husband and wife well.
Only in this way can we feel the fullness and calmness of our hearts, feel that being loved is valued, and mothers will feel more gratified and calm, feel practical, and be less anxious and impatient.
It is not easy for Ma Bao to take full-time care of the baby. Family members should know how to understand and help, and lovers should know how to share and be considerate. Let Ma Bao adjust his body and mind step by step, readjust his mood, take care of the baby together, and witness the growth of the child together in a harmonious and friendly family atmosphere.
As a mother, we must pay attention to self-regulation. I believe we can get rid of anxiety and regain more confidence.
* * * Encourage.