You can think that people with bad temper are unpopular, which I don't deny.
I don't know what's the difference between your cognitive personality and my personality. And I think personality should be like this.
First, an honest man has two faces, one is a face and the other is honesty.
Second, words and deeds must be consistent, and it must be done: words must be done, and actions must be fruitful.
Third, love doesn't require you and me to be universal, but at least we can give all our love to our lover and spouse. And selfish people only love themselves, and they either beat or scold their lovers and children.
Fourth, don't talk about others behind their backs. But there are still many people who can do more, watch more and talk less about others.
Fifth, a tolerant smile can often make people laugh all over the world, and a big belly can hold everything the world can hold.
The above is what I think a good person should have. Whether there is a connection between a good personality and a bad temper needs to vary from person to person.
If a person has a bad temper and always hurts others with his bad temper, then this bad-tempered person may be associated with his bad personality.
On the other hand, if this person just has a bad temper and has never hurt others, then he cannot be defined as a person with a bad personality just because he has a bad temper.
And I am a bad-tempered person in real life, especially during my operation and management, countless employees have been scolded by me. But no one ever bears a grudge against me. On the contrary, I won the friendship of many people. Let me tell you two short stories.
I don't know if you have ever met peeping tom, who is also a female employee of our group, and peeping tom is a male employee of our company.
No one understands why she cried so sadly that night, only I know. Afterwards, I asked the male employee to confirm and fired him. Except for him, more than 200 people under my command don't know why I fired him. No one knows why female colleagues cry so sadly. I may not be able to comfort her, but all I can do is keep her secret.
I have a bad temper, but I have a good personality.
Just as I have never given a penny to beggars, I donated 5000 yuan during the Wenchuan earthquake. I lost my job this year and donated 10 thousand yuan to Wuhan.
I was advised to lose my temper, but I told him it was unnecessary.
There are thousands of people in the world. I don't need everyone to understand me. I just need one person to understand me, the one who understands the good intentions behind my anger.
Some people ... have a bad temper and are not cultivated well enough. ...
Temper is determined by personality, not directly related to personality. It may be a bad-tempered bodhisattva or a good-tempered smiling tiger. Everyone has his own personality. People with bad temper are generally fierce and careless. I feel that such a person should be worthy of making friends. Because he won't be mean to you, everything and thoughts are on his face. You can try to tolerate him. In this way, you will become friends! A person's temper is related to personality, and personality is related to virtue, which can't be faked. Virtue is cultivated bit by bit. People with bad temper are generally impulsive, and it is very bad to deal with problems only by their own perceptual knowledge when facing many things. If you don't treat problems so impulsively and rationally, your temper will be much better. A grumpy person will often talk and be aggressive when dealing with others, which will not only leave a bad impression on others, but also encourage your grumpy while others tolerate you. People with bad temper usually lack self-control, which is actually very easy to exercise. When you are doing something that you find interesting, stopping will not only make you feel unhappy. First of all, the most important thing is to have a good understanding of the harm of bad temper. In social life, we always contact and associate with others, hoping to get their goodwill, friendship, appreciation and cooperation (of course, it is impossible for everyone to do so), otherwise, we will feel lonely, lifeless and unable to move. Human behavior is regulated and controlled by consciousness. Knowing the harm of bad temper, you can get rid of it from your heart. Secondly, we should strengthen ideological cultivation. Only by always thinking of others and respecting their interests and needs can we be full of warmth, consideration and love for others. Only by putting the collective interests first at all times can we not be impulsive and opinionated, and we can be calm and think twice before acting. Finally, we should have determination and perseverance to get rid of bad temper. If you can't remember it today, be careful. Two days later, we are still the same. With determination and perseverance, bad temper is bound to get rid of.
Hello, I'm Xifeng Tianya. Thank you for inviting us to talk about this common problem on this casual Sunday.
First of all, I personally understand that people with poor character are mostly treacherous, mercenary and selfish. In fact, temper is a manifestation of personality, and there are many kinds of psychological analysis. For example, there are many tricky and eccentric people in our life. They look extremely clever or gentle, but they are scheming, cheating and ungrateful. These people are not necessarily bad-tempered, but they are all people with poor character. And we generally understand people with bad temper as irritable people.
I believe that many friends who drive have seen drivers who are "angry on the road": arguing for roads, whistling wildly, swearing, and even fighting, causing uncontrollable consequences; There are also domestic violence, all kinds of picky and melodramatic to family members, such as beating and cursing heroes. Like these kinds of grumpy people, we may really not compliment, which will really make people look down on themselves. In fact, they are weak and incompetent, harming others and not benefiting themselves; But like Zhang Fei in The Romance of The Three Kingdoms and Li Kui jy in The Water Margin, the authors portray their violent temperament as heroic, and their simplicity, frankness, loyalty, putting aside evil and promoting good make people feel lovely, and the public is willing to accept such people. Therefore, a bad-tempered person is not necessarily a bad-tempered person. Only those who are unreasonable and lose their temper are people with bad character.
Therefore, people's temper is still based on temperament, which has nothing to do with irritability or not, and is ultimately measured by morality. Therefore, the perfection of temperament is very important, and the management of emotions is very important. Society needs harmony, and everyone's integrity, gratitude, sympathy and empathy are needed to create together. A successful person will be a cautious, peaceful, sincere and loving person.
I hope my answer is the same as one or two.