A scholar once said, "If you can keep talking with anyone for one minute and interest them, you are the best communicator."
This sentence seems simple, but it is not easy, because the scope of "anyone" is very wide, maybe an engineer, maybe a lawyer, or a teacher, or an artist. In a word, it's not easy for you to talk to him for a minute and make him interested in your words, no matter whether he is a well-educated person or a person from all walks of life.
no matter whether it is difficult or easy, we must overcome this difficulty. It is very painful that many people are relatively silent because they have no understanding of each other's careers. In fact, if you are willing to work hard, this "speechless" situation can be reduced, even if it is not difficult to become an excellent communicator.
"If a worker wants to do a good job, he must sharpen his tools first." Although it is an old saying, it still applies today. Therefore, you must first enrich your own eloquence knowledge.
a man with no ink on his chest, of course, you can't expect him to be responsive. Learning is a sharp weapon. With this treasure, everything can be solved easily. Although you can't have exquisite research on all kinds of specialized knowledge, the so-called "common sense" is necessary. With general "common sense", if you use it skillfully, it is not difficult to deal with anyone who makes a conversation that interests him for one minute.
"Breathe with the world", which is the best way to enrich yourself. Every newspaper and every famous magazine published every month must be read, which is the minimum preparation work, if you want to win the appreciation of others in the conversation. World trends, domestic military and political situation, general economic situation, new inventions and discoveries in the scientific community, places or news figures that the world pays attention to, as well as the contents of famous works of art, fashion, movies and dramas, etc., can be seen from the surrounding newspapers and magazines. In addition, you should listen to more speeches and read more books.
But if you want to read newspapers, listen to speeches and read books for the purpose of improving your eloquence, you still need certain skills.
When you read the newspaper, you should take a red and blue ballpoint pen, and hook up the most interesting news or good articles you see every day. It would be better if it could be cut. Just two a day, and after two weeks, you will remember many interesting things.
When you are reading a magazine or book, it is better to remember one or two sentences that you think are meaningful every day, draw a line next to that sentence with a red and blue ballpoint pen, or copy it in a diary or notebook.
yes, don't be greedy at first. Don't make yourself too embarrassed at the beginning, or you will give up in a few days.
just one or two sentences a day, which is convenient and easy to remember. But don't look down on this sentence or two. If you keep writing it down every day, you will find that your knowledge is much richer than before in two or three months. When talking, it is easy to think of them, or use their own words to play them. These meaningful words will jump out anytime and anywhere to help you and save your conversation dilemma.
When listening to a speech or listening to other people's conversation, you can always hear famous sayings or proverbs that show human wisdom. Keep these beautiful sentences in mind and copy them on paper. Over time, the subject matter and content of your conversation will become more and more interesting, and your eloquence will naturally become more and more refined. It won't be long before you can "speak freely" and say whatever you want clearly and vividly.
For example, I saw some paragraphs in a paper in a magazine:
"We modern people should be like this-that is, we should look far and broaden our horizons. Don't always stay in your corner, only see the same streets and people, the same walls and roofs, the same horizon. We must expand our life circle and use our eyes and ears, hands and feet to make us a member of the vast global village. "
"Modern people should learn to compare their own losses with those of many people, and compare their own lack with that of all people."
words like this are worth writing down if you can understand its meaning and be moved by it. Later, when you review your own behavior, or advise your friends not to haggle all day, or criticize a person who doesn't know the general situation will only ruin the overall situation, these paragraphs will jump out to help you and make your conversation more convincing and touching.
this kind of example is endless. In order to stimulate your motivation and interest in practicing eloquence, here are a few words that can be used frequently:
"Never refuse trivial things at work, because great careers are made up of complicated details."
"The most important thing to love a person is to love his future appearance."
"Man must take care of society, because it is the whole crowd that protects him."
"No matter who I am, if he only wants to give me bound love and friendship, then I don't want either."
"The only thing that never dies is career! Life can only grow in activities. "
"It's never too early to learn; It is never too late to change. "
"Wise people learn more from fools than fools learn from wise people."
I say "use" instead of "quote" here, because these words are copied from books, and they are more or less bookish. When you say it, just according to its main content, you will give full play to it yourself and make it more clear and smooth.
look at an example of how to use it!
In the past ten years, Mary has met many such things: her friends are in love, and her boyfriend always wants his girlfriend to stop studying, or quit her job and marry him immediately. Some girls have been in college for three years, only one year away from graduation, but the man can't wait. Some girls have a career with good income and development, and they play an extremely important role in her field of work. However, the man does not value the social status and job opportunities of the woman, and always hopes that his girlfriend will stay at home all day and do nothing to be his future wife. On this occasion, Mary always advises the man to change his mind if there is an opportunity. She would say, "Do you really love her? So why not plan for her future? " And said, "If you love her, why do you have to sacrifice her studies or social status that she has worked so hard for many years?" She also warned the girls who fell in love. She said, "No matter how much your boyfriend says he loves you, it is false. Unless his every move is for your future. It's not enough just to think about you. It's true love to think about your future. "
These words sometimes have a great effect. After listening to them, some friends can really change their minds to a greater or lesser extent, and take a longer view without being confused or restricted by temporary desires, impulses or current interests. These words are all based on the above-mentioned sentence "The most important thing to love someone is to love his future appearance".
The deeper you understand a sentence, the wider you can apply it, and it will become various forms and appear in your speech and behavior.
here is only one example of how to make use of the famous sayings quoted above, and the others have to be tried by yourself.
You can't talk about the same thing to all kinds of people. A person who studies science will not be interested in business. Similarly, a businessman may not be interested in his philosophy. Here is a little joke: a gentleman is good at eloquence, so someone asks him for advice on what the trick is. He says, "It's very simple, just tell him what he is." For example, talk to the butcher about pork and talk to the chef about bread. " The man who asked for advice asked, "If the butcher and the chef are present, what are you talking about?" He said, "I talk about sandwiches." From the above story, we can see that in order to deal with all kinds of people in society, you have to have a wide range of knowledge. So you need to read more and learn more.
if you can do this, you will naturally be competent and happy to deal with all kinds of people. Although you are not good at everything, you can use your skills all by yourself. Don't you know the law? But when you meet a lawyer, you might as well talk to him about a recent case, and you can provide the case (which you read in the newspaper), and let him talk about the rest of the legal issues.
There is a beauty salon in Tokyo, and its business is the highest in the area. Someone went to ask the boss about the business secrets. The boss frankly admitted that it was entirely because the beautician he hired was good at talking with customers at work. But how can we make beauticians all good at talking?
"It's very simple," said the shopkeeper. "I will buy all kinds of newspapers and magazines every month, and stipulate that every employee must read them before starting work every morning, as a daily lesson, so they will get the freshest chat topic in the society and win the favor of customers."
this is just one of thousands of examples. Knowledge is the foundation of any career. You should adapt your speech to anyone's preferences, and read more books, newspapers and magazines, so that the knowledge between heaven and earth can be stored in your mind. When it comes to application, you can answer people with your choice and arrangement.