When it snowed heavily, Xie An, the prime minister of Jin Dynasty, was talking about literature with his family. After a while, it snowed heavily. Xie An said, "What is snow like?" His nephew Xie Lang said, "It's like sprinkling salt in the air." Xie Daowen, his niece, said, "It's better to say that catkins are caused by the wind." Xie An laughed.
Since then, people have said that Xie Daowen is a talented poet. Xie Daowen was a famous talented woman at that time, but the husband she was looking for was not so good.
Xie An was the prime minister of the Tang Dynasty. He came to look for the past and finally found Wang Ningzhi, the second son of the great calligrapher Wang Xizhi, for Xie Daowen.
It is said that Wang Ningzhi's father is the great calligrapher Wang Xizhi of Preface to Lanting Collection. With such an awesome father, the son should be excellent.
However, after Xie Daowen and Wang Ningzhi got married, her marriage was unhappy, and she was unhappy all day. Xie An was surprised and asked Xie Daowen, "He is not a mediocre man. Why are you unhappy? " Xie Daowen said, "Every child in Xie's family is excellent. I didn't know there was Wang Lang in the world. " Left the idiom "Heaven and Earth Wang Lang".
In fact, Wang Ningzhi is indeed a mediocre person. In 399 AD, Sun En rebelled and prepared to attack Huiji. The Governor of Huiji is Wang Ningzhi. At that time, Xie Daowen advised her husband to organize military forces and build fortifications to resist Sun En's attack, but Wang Ningzhi considered himself a Pentecostal, and Sun En was also a Pentecostal. He thought that Sun En might not really attack Huiji, but he was wrong. He prayed to God and worshipped Buddha three times a day, but he was greeted by military forces in Sun En.
After the enemy invaded the city, they burned and looted, and Wang Ningzhi and all his children died at the hands of the rebels.
Faced with this mediocre husband, Xie Daowen refused to grieve. She organized her family to protect her family together. Enemy soldiers killed Xie Daowen's home, and Xie Daowen himself took a long sword. In order to protect his three-year-old grandson, he killed several enemy troops in succession, but in the end, he was a woman and was captured alive by the enemy.
Xie Daowen said, "This is all about Wang Ningzhi. What does it have to do with others? If you must kill this child, kill me first. " Sun En listened to her words and was moved by her imposing manner, and finally released her and her little grandson.
It can be seen that if a mediocre husband marries such a talented woman, then your vulgarity must be unbearable for her. If it is a modern society, divorce is a necessary ending.
When Yuan Mei, a litterateur in Qing Dynasty, was a county magistrate in Jiangning, there was a Songjiang woman named Zhang who lived in a nun's house, and her sister Wan Yu married the Cheng family in Huaibei. She got along badly with her husband and ran away.
The local county magistrate issued a document asking Yuan Mei to look for a trial. When Yuan Mei tried Wan Yu's case, Wan Yu wrote a poem to Yuan Mei in class:
Su Xinhua, in the depths of the Five Lakes, mistakenly entered Huaixi to estimate the Hakkas, so he met Bai Sima in Jiangzhou and dared to sue Pipa.
Yuan Mei suspected that someone else had written it for her, so she pointed to a dead tree in front of the court and asked Wan Yu to write poems. Wan Yu freely made out:
Long-term independence, facing the sun, who can plant and move to the backyard.
Later, Yuan Mei sent Wan Yu home.
Soon, Feng, the county magistrate of his hometown, came to Jiangning County. Yuan Mei asked Feng, the magistrate, "How did you deal with Zhang's daughter?" Magistrate Feng replied: "This matter should not be divorced, but it is really inappropriate for a talented woman to marry a tacky businessman. Therefore, she should be exempted from the crime of escape and let Wan Yu go back. " Yuan Mei asked again: "Why do you know that Wan Yu is talented?" The magistrate in Fengxian said, "Wan Yu wrote another poem, saying,' Cry and beg the gods to kill you and let my slave go back to his hometown. He changed a Shu bird and tied it to your side. "
This true story is about a talented woman who married a tacky businessman and fled her marriage because of three views.
It can be seen that if you are a vulgar person and find a talented woman, but your thoughts can't keep up with the pace of talented women, you will be left far behind. That is, in ancient times, this tacky businessman could find such a talented woman. If it is modern, it is impossible for a real talented woman to find a person with different views.