As for children's education, the ancients have long said: if the son doesn't teach, the father makes a mistake. When children grow up, parents' morality and behavior will directly affect their growth and future.
I once saw a story on the Internet. On the flight from China to Los Angeles, a 6-year-old Xiong Haizi harassed his Japanese-born China brother next door (including kicking people). Brother suggested Xiong Haizi's parents take care of the children, but the parents didn't take any measures. After three hours of forbearance, my little brother finally broke out and scolded his parents.
Not to be outdone, Xiong's parents responded with more intense insults. The father even grabbed his little brother's neck angrily, and the two wrestled together through the child.
This incident alarmed the FBI. After the plane landed, Xiong Haizi's family of three were waiting for the long-awaited customs enforcement officers of the FBI.
According to local media reports, because Xiong Haizi's father hit someone first on the plane, the US Customs refused entry to his family for intentional injury, and arranged a flight on the spot the next morning to repatriate the three people to China. Besides, you will never be allowed to go to America again.
This result is caused by the father's doting, protecting children and indulging himself.
I don't know when it started. Many parents in China believe that connivance is the nature to release their children. If a child bullies others, let them leave it alone. Don't you know that indulgence without a bottom line will only harm children?
Without the control of knowledgeable parents and the respect and observance of social rules, any child can become a useful talent.
Children must learn to respect their parents before they can respect this society, but fathers want their children to respect themselves, so they should be like their fathers.
Just like this Xiong Haizi on the plane, he must have something to do with his father.
Children never listen to what you say, but watch what you do. There are many examples of educating children back and forth.
20 17 "Chinese poetry conference" ignited senior one student Wu. Seeing her standing on the stage calmly, she will be impressed by her profound knowledge and the thick bookishness revealed in her body. Many parents will think, whose child is this? How to educate? It's amazing!
Wu's father Leo gave the best answer:
At home, she never looks at her mobile phone, but only concentrates on reading poetry and literature. Wu Yishu was naturally infected. Seeing that her father has been studying for a long time, she likes studying more and more.
Give your daughter high-quality companionship. As long as you get off work, you should concentrate on accompanying your daughter. Usually, father and daughter do most things together, such as playing idioms solitaire, crossword puzzles, poetry games and so on. In the game, Wu's poetic accomplishment has been promoted and accumulated.
Wu Yishu, the champion of the second season of Chinese Poetry Conference, got a high score of 6 13 in the college entrance examination, and was admitted to Tsinghua University Xinya College, becoming a child of others.
We only see other people's children are excellent, but we don't see their parents working hard behind their backs and doing a lot of homework.
There must be a successful father behind a successful child. Look at them in history, and you will know how important the role of fathers is.
First, the education of a great scholar's father made his daughter a generation of literary giants.
Cai Wenji, a talented woman in the Han Dynasty, and her father, Cai Yong, a scholar, historian and literary leader at the end of the Han Dynasty, were famous all over the world at that time for their elegant temperament, profound knowledge and exquisite piano skills.
The Biography of Cai Yong in the Later Han Dynasty records that he is "a man with few titles, profound knowledge and good command of melody".
Cai Wenji is the only child of Cai Yong. When Cai Wenji was a child, his father was framed by eunuchs and exiled to the northern grassland, and his life was difficult. No matter how busy his parents are every day, they should take time to accompany their children, discover the truth from the little things around them, inspire their daughters and teach them how to survive in a difficult environment.
This kind of training enabled Cai Wenji to be plundered to Xiongnu at the age of 65,438+07, and he could live in the tough environment of Xiongnu for 20 years.
Cai Yong always carefully observes Wenxi's talent in the details of her daughter's education and training.
One day when Cai Wenji was four years old, Cai Yong stood in the yard and casually recited several classic poems in The Book of Songs: The pigeons in Guanguan, in Jiangzhou, were my fair lady, my gentleman was my fair lady, and the uneven vegetables flowed everywhere. ......
Unexpectedly, just after Cai Yong finished singing, Xiaoyuexi, who was playing by, began to sing in his father's voice, and they all sang verbatim.
He was surprised, but he still didn't believe it. He tried again, so he chose a long poem "Drinking Horses in the Great Wall Cave" to see how much he could remember. "Qinghe green grass, continuous Philip Burkart Road. A husband who is far away from home can not miss him all day, but he can see him in his dream soon. I saw him by my side in my dream and woke up to find that he was still in exile. There are different areas in China, and my husband is wandering in China. Know the wind when you die, and the sea will know the cold ... "
Unexpectedly, my father just finished reading it and recited it sentence by sentence, which was exactly the same.
Cai Yong was really shocked and began to educate Xiao Wenxi. Gradually, Xiao Wenxi was able to recite nearly 4,000 books of his father's family, including more than 400 manuscripts of his father.
Xiao Wenxi also has a talent for music. Once, Wenxi was joking with her mother when a wonderful piano sound came. Just as everyone was intoxicated with the sound of the piano, suddenly, a string broke. Wenxi told her mother that her father's second string was broken and she gave it to her father.
Father was surprised. In order to determine whether Wenxi can really understand music, Cai Yong deliberately broke the fourth string. I didn't expect Wenxi to say that his father broke the fourth string on purpose, so he didn't give it to him.
Cai Yong was so excited that he accidentally broke the strings and discovered his daughter's musical talent.
As a result, Cai Yong began to cultivate her daughter's musical expression, and Cai Wenji became her father's inheritor under his father's careful education.
At the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, after social stability, Cai Wenji returned to Dahan from Xiongnu with the help of Cao Cao. Due to the war, historical documents were almost destroyed. Twenty years later, Cai Wenji can still write more than 400 manuscripts of his father from memory, so that the history of China will not be out of date.
Cai Wenji is one of the earliest female calligraphers in China. Zhong You, a disciple of Wenxi, and Mrs Wei, a disciple of Zhong You, are teachers of calligrapher Wang Xizhi. It can be said that Wang Xizhi inherited Cai Yong's calligraphy.
Being good at observation, being able to discover her daughter's talent in time and educating her in a targeted way are the most important ways for Cai Yong to successfully educate her daughter.
Cai Wenji lived up to her father's entrustment and became a famous female scholar in history. Became the heir to my father's career. Her works "Poems of Sorrow and Indignation" and "Eighteen Beats of Hu Jia" are still circulating today.
Second, the father's self-discipline made a family of three fathers and sons known as "eight masters in Tang and Song Dynasties".
Su Shi's father, Su Xun, didn't study hard when he was young and didn't pass the exam. When Su Xun was 27 years old, Su Dongpo was born. Su Xun looked at his little son and suddenly realized that I should study hard and set an example for my children.
Su Xun, who started studying again, burned the articles he had written before and read poems, books, classics, biographies and books of a hundred schools of thought through the ages. Sitting in the study every day, people study hard for six or seven years and swear not to write any articles, which is considered mature.
When reading these books, Su Xun was 27 years old. So Ouyang Xiu made an epitaph, and Zhang made an epitaph. All biographies in history said, "At the age of 27, I began to study angrily.
Later, Su Xun, Su Shi and Su Zhe's two sons, * * *, were famous all over the world, known as the "Three Sus", and were all included in the "Eight Masters of Tang and Song Dynasties".
There were eight masters in Tang and Song Dynasties, and their Su family occupied three seats.
Su Shi was very naughty since he was a child. He doesn't like studying. He often takes his younger brother Su Zhe out to play in class. Su Xun refused to listen to many times' education. Su Xun decided to change the way of education.
From then on, whenever children play, he deliberately hides in a corner where children can easily find books. When the child came, he deliberately hid the book. Su Shi and Su Zhe are both curious and think that their father must have something good to hide from them. Out of strong curiosity, the two "stole" the book while their father was away and read it carefully. In this way, Su Xun gradually made Su Dongpo and his brothers form the habit of reading, and really felt the endless fun of reading.
The success of Su Xun's godson lies in that he did not use simple and rude education methods such as "stick" and "beating and cursing", but skillfully guided the children's curiosity and thirst for knowledge, and finally achieved success.
Su Shi is gifted and talented, and his literary talent is outstanding. He is often praised by his teachers, so he proudly posted a couplet in front of his door, "Know the words of the world and read the books of the world". In other words, Su Shi felt that there were no unknown words and no understandable books.
Soon, an old woman really brought a book and asked Su Shi to tell her what it was. Su Shi was puzzled at first sight and didn't know it yet. Feel ashamed.
Su Xun made a slight change in front of two poems, and it became "learning all the words in the world and determined to read all the books in the world". Since then, Su Dongpo has never been high-profile and impetuous.
Try to arouse children's interest in reading, study hard and set an example for them.
Su Xun's self-discipline not only made him successful, but also brought up two sons.
There is no denying that Su Shi and Su Zhe are very clever, but they would not be so successful without their father's example and guidance.
Children never care what their parents say, but what they do.
Companionship is the best education, and father is the best example!