When I was learning video, the barrage often said "I don't want to work hard" and then punched in the next day. Older young women are determined to be independent women in the new era. They work hard and don't want to get married. They are the children who can't help hugging other people's flesh when they go home during the Spring Festival. Older young men are reluctant to bear heavy mortgages and are forced to be branded as "bachelors".
Modern society is proud of civilization, but prejudice and hypocrisy are everywhere. Clearly want to "want" but can't afford it, and finally can only say "no". Why is everyone a fox who says grapes are sour when he can't eat them?
I think the reason behind it is that we want to keep a decent share that we can't afford, and the young people in Buddhism invariably choose a kind of "negative freedom". When everyone is preaching that your talent is not worthy of your ambition, you have to work hard and you believe it, so you have to know, study, study, work and work every day. Those who achieve their goals will enjoy the fatigue of success, while those who miss their goals will be immersed in the fatigue of failure.
So I think the "low-desire society" is just an illusion, but it is true that we are welcoming a "tired society".
One: Prometheus metaphor, endless repetition is the essence of a tired society. You may have heard the story of Prometheus. Prometheus couldn't bear to witness human suffering, disobeyed Zeus' orders and secretly brought the fire to the world, so Zeus locked him on the cliff of Caucasus Mountain. Zeus sends an eagle to eat his liver every day. After eating it, it grows and is eaten again. In this story, most people will praise Prometheus' dedication.
However, I think this story has something in common with the stones in Sisyphus. After eating the liver for a long time, the stones were pushed away. This endless repetition has long been noticed by the ancient Greeks and written in the form of stories to warn the world of the tragedy of fate.
Prometheus must have hated and tortured this endless repetition, so it became a kind of torture in Greek mythology. Because he is very easy to make people fall into a state of burnout, even if he is a god.
But Prometheus' fatigue is only his own. At that time, human beings were still in primitive society, with rich imagination, curiosity and desire to explore the world. It is for this reason that the splendid civilization of ancient Greece was created. Marx also called Greek civilization a "normal child".
As soon as we turn to modern society, we can see the ideal of the world with our fingers, and we have little curiosity and desire to explore. What most people repeat every day is as boring as what Prometheus repeats. This also makes many people feel tired. Burnout is the same, but different times and people of different times. Today, our ability to resist burnout is far less than that of Prometheus.
Why is this?
Second, information overload in modern society makes people fall into "sympathy fatigue" and cannot break through the bondage, thus bringing a sense of burnout in the depths of the soul. To answer the above questions, it is necessary to recall the outbreak time. Brush your mobile phone crazily every day and always pay attention to news figures.
According to a report by Counterpoint Research, more than half of people spend five hours on their mobile phones every day. The most exaggerated thing is that 26% people don't even play mobile phones for seven hours.
Think about it, this is still the time we usually spend on mobile phones.
Reading information through mobile phone is the only way for us to keep in touch with the outside world. We can see that behind the digital growth is vivid life, and behind the news reports are life stories full of joys and sorrows ... But what practical actions can we do besides replacing these with our own true feelings? With the rapid development of mass media, our actions are far behind the speed of information dissemination. For a long time, we have fallen into "sympathy fatigue".
In short, before we had a mobile phone, everyone cared about things within a few miles of Fiona Fang, and we lived a comfortable life. With a mobile phone, everything in the world is related to me.
This is the tragedy of modern society. Technology makes people passively fall into the sea of information. This sense of powerlessness is similar to Prometheus who is bound. The relationship between Prometheus and vultures is like the relationship between modern people and information. We are constantly exploiting ourselves. The liver and information itself are actually painless, and the pain it brings is tiring.
The troubles brought by the outside world, such as the rapid development of science and technology, make people exhausted. The internal cause is that in this environment, people are not only tired of pain and don't want to change, but also gradually depressed mentally. Sometimes, seemingly busy, in fact, it is passively trying to break through this bondage, in fact, it is just experiencing a mental violence of self.
Third, depression is the product of a tired society. Overactive modern people are experiencing a series of mental violence. People living in the 2 1 century wander around gyms, office buildings, banks, airports, or shopping centers ... We seem to know what we should do, not what we want to do. For example, fitness is to have a good figure, work is to have a good income, and reading is to improve self-cultivation. Everyone is eager to set goals for themselves, and we become our own employers, not just satisfied with achieving the performance given by our boss. It seems that saying "I can do it" has become everyone's responsibility and obligation.
This passive and over-active attitude makes people feel wronged. Depression has become one of the biggest mental diseases of modern people ... Allen Eigenberg once looked at depression from the perspective of self-management, and he said:
"When the discipline mode of controlling behavior gave way to another norm, in other words, in the past, social class and gender roles were allocated through authority and prohibition, now everyone must act spontaneously and everyone has the obligation to achieve themselves. Depression became popular at this time. ...... People with depression have not developed themselves to the maximum extent and are exhausted in the process of trying to achieve themselves. "
In this way, those who ask you to be yourself are very irresponsible. Think of the famous motto engraved on the temple of Delphi in the holy city of Greece-"Know yourself!" Some people have never realized who they are all their lives, so how can they make their own statements? This is really a paradox worthy of reflection.
According to the report of the World Health Organization, there are currently 350 million people suffering from depression in the world. It is predicted that by 2020, depression will become the second most disabling disease in the world. At present, there are about 90 million people suffering from depression in China, and about 200,000 people commit suicide every year.
Why is there such a huge and daunting number? Because positive people are not active, most of them are passive. For example, through the blind comparison of people around us, technical information always conveys "urging", which makes people have a desire for action with another purpose from the heart. Either too positive or negative, it becomes passive burnout.
Excessive positivity is one of the reasons why modern people suffer from depression. Because this positive purpose is not self-generated, just to adapt to the external environment. When this excessive enthusiasm fails to achieve its own purpose, people will fall into self-denial, thus being depressed and unable to extricate themselves.
In fact, depression is not just an internal problem. The increasingly fragmented and divided society makes our interpersonal relationship scarce, and mobile phones have become our most loyal friends, but in the illusory world, we can't achieve a full life after all. Reluctant self-denial makes us suffer from a series of mental violence ... We all suffer from disease burnout syndrome, which is different from depression. It is not to express the tired self, but to express our exhausted and burned-out hearts.
Four: In a tired society, how to massage your mind? 1- Cultivate a sense of faith and make your soul more determined.
Although faith is really mysterious, it does exist. I think it is reflected in not being eager for quick success and instant benefit to achieve some secular goals, such as buying a house, getting married and having children before how old, but living every moment carefully and waiting for a suitable opportunity to experience these things naturally. It is more a heartfelt belief, believing in the value of one's existence and believing that one can have a better life. Speaking of it, I like a sentence in "The Fantasy Journey of the Shepherd Boy", "When you really want to pursue something, the whole universe will unite to help you complete it". I think that a person who keeps awe of nature and is willing to grow old in time will eventually get some peace, which comes from the gift of faith.
2- Reading stimulates the senses and builds up one's own spiritual world.
I have read too many articles on the internet and used so many repeated reasons to promote the meaning of reading. What? When you see the sunset and lonely Qi Fei, autumn waters make the sky look the same. Instead of: my god, there are so many birds.
When you are lovelorn, you can sing in a low voice: If life is just like first sight, why draw a fan in the autumn wind? Instead of shouting everywhere: blue skinny, mushrooms. They always like to present the results to achieve the purpose of persuasion, which leads us to habitually ignore the process. In fact, reading is the first thing that pleases you. From the moment you started reading, the book was really with you, and it was separated from the objective real world for a short time. It constantly satisfies your curiosity, and at the same time, one book is connected with the next, connecting your own unique spiritual world in series. People with richer spiritual world are more likely to have a sense of faith, and they will live more actively instead of passively indulging in bouts of burnout.
3- Try new things, and the body will drive the pleasure of the spirit.
Learn flower arranging, calligraphy, dancing, or musical instruments ... We can keep trying some new skills. If you insist on living at two o'clock and one line every day, you will inevitably struggle in boredom. There is a saying: "There is no time to shed tears when you are busy". Fill your time carefully with all kinds of hobbies. Your starting point is to do it from the heart, so the time to enter the boring period will naturally be extended. In short, if your brain is tired, you can try to exercise more. It will be easier to change.