how to adjust bad mood? The following methods can help you, you might as well try.
1. Tolerance. Don't care about the unintentional injuries of others, allow others the freedom to act and judge, and patiently and fairly tolerate opinions different from their own or traditional ideas. There is a psychologist who said: the harm from love exists everywhere. Students, you have to understand: some injuries may be necessary. Anyone who is close to you will break his heart, depending on why. Teachers set high standards for students, and when students' behaviors run counter to teachers' wishes, teachers "hate iron to produce steel" and criticize too much in a hurry, so the criticized students should be tolerant, such as haggling over every ounce and even being psychologically rebellious, which not only makes them unhappy with troubles, but also affects the relationship between teachers and students. Parents are eager for their children's success, and you may feel that their parents are nagging, but you must understand and be tolerant. People who refuse to tolerate can't get happiness by themselves. A boy lost his father when he was a little over two years old. The boy's mother was only 26 years old, graduated from college, and was young and beautiful. People are always sympathetic, especially men who think they can dominate the world, and often appear between boys and mothers. Boys hate their mothers very much, and they hate their uncles even more. He is often fidgety and seldom smiles. When the fourth boy from a poor family was born, his mother had no milk to feed him, let alone money to buy milk substitutes. So he gave him to a rich family. After knowing the truth, the boy once hated his mother until he became a father and forgave her. A mother who was overwhelmed by the burden of life had a bad temper and often beat and scolded her children, who refused to forgive her. It was not until I understood that "the human mind also needs to breathe" and that the reason why my mother can support labor may be due to the truth of venting in time that my eldest sister took the lead in forgiving my mother together. The children in the above cases can't understand and tolerate their mothers at an early stage, which brings great harm to their mothers' hearts and makes their lives unhappy. Empathy is the way to tolerate others. Through empathy, we can understand the rationality and necessity of other people's behavior, naturally slow down the resentment or hatred of others, and thus make our mind relaxed.
2. Take a step back and think about everything. This is another most effective way to relieve troubles. For example, a child without a mother thinks that he is lucky to have a father. A person who lost his left arm in an accident thought that thanks to the fact that his right arm was not injured, he could still create extraordinary achievements through hard work. If you can think about the problem in this way, your mood will naturally be cheerful and miracles may occur. Isn't Zhang Haidi such a typical example? She is paralyzed in the lower body and can't move, but she thinks that her brain can be used, so there is no need to be sad and feel inferior. So, I tried my best to teach myself a foreign language, translate works, learn medical skills and treat people. She has become a model for the youth of the world. Teacher Lu Jingping, a special-grade teacher in our school, ran in the dense fog in the morning and collided with someone, which caused spinal nerve paralysis and severely restricted his movement, but Teacher Lu didn't complain. Instead, he faced the reality positively and optimistically, gave full play to his intelligence and made great contributions to education. Zhao Chunyan, a girl in our school, lost her leg in a car accident when she was young. She didn't immerse herself in sadness and pain. She happily developed her specialty, practiced calligraphy, wrote a good hand and did well in school. Faced with the cruel reality, they can still treat it with optimism and work hard with tenacious will to create miracles unimaginable to ordinary people. In contrast, what can we not abandon the minor contradictions and pains in our lives?
3. compensation. Make up for some aspects of loss with a sense of accomplishment. For example, a poor and disfigured classmate, after being laughed at, turns difficulties and ridicule into motivation for learning, and often silently tells himself to study hard, redouble his efforts, and make up for it by ability and morality. As a result, he succeeded and became a good student with excellent academic performance in his class. He no longer feels inferior and has a sense of pride. Students also changed their attitude, from "looking down" and "laughing" to liking and respecting him, and taking him as a model. Please remember: "An inch is long, but a foot is short." Don't lose sight of the broad and bright sky because there is a dark cloud in front of you. Don't always stare at your weaknesses and forget your strengths. If your family is poor or looks bad, don't compete with others, and don't always show your face. You can write poetry, composition, painting, or take part in various activities that can give full play to your special skills. Develop strengths and avoid weaknesses, you can get a successful experience, enhance confidence, stimulate a happy emotional experience, and avoid the entanglement of troubles. Zhao Jie, a girl from our school, was in a broken family, and was not knocked down by pain and misfortune. With her tireless spirit, she published poems and novels in middle school. Became the first middle school student in our school to publish a novel. At school, she wrote and served as the editor-in-chief of Timely Literature, leading campus literature lovers to start a career. She is busy, she is full, so she has time to chew pain and misfortune. She gained success, and of course she was happy. Now, she plays her talents in college, and her career and love are going well. Dr. Zhao Xingliang, a doctor without hands, was born in a small mountain village in Xinning County, Hunan Province. At the age of 13, he used a homemade bomb to fry fish. Unfortunately, he blew up one of his hands, and pain and confusion attacked him. He endured pain and failure with perseverance unimaginable to ordinary people. The results of the college entrance examination are excellent, but they have failed for several years in a row. Just because he is disabled. Finally, an enlightened leader of Shaoyang Teachers College overcame all kinds of pressures and made an exception to admit him. He became an English teacher and was greatly admired by his students. He wrote on the blackboard with a pen tied with a tape. He worked hard to get a postgraduate degree. After graduation, he was assigned to Xiangtan University, and then he was admitted to a doctor's degree. Now he is studying Buddhism in Nanjing. Students, when it comes to troubles, who can compare with Zhao Hangliang? When we think of Zhao Hangliang, what do we care about?
4. Vent and guide appropriately. When you are worried about your pain because of a great injustice at school or at home, tell your relatives, friends or teachers what happened and your thoughts in time, even if you don't get any comfort, you will relieve a lot of pain. What's more, you will be enlightened and comforted. Or just cry behind closed doors, because sometimes tears can wash away the pain in your heart. The World Health Organization has studied the life expectancy of men and women, and found that the average life expectancy of women is several years longer than that of men, because women cry more than men. You can also find the right person to adjust the bad mood. For example, in a factory in Japan, the boss set up a venting room in order to make every worker work in a good mood. Before going to work, if someone comes to work with negative emotions, let him go into the venting room to find the rubber man, scold him or give him a big beating. After venting in this way, workers will go to work easily and happily to prevent accidents. We can also find a suitable vent object that neither affects others' emotions nor hinders our study and work to transfer and vent our negative emotions. For example, when you are in a strong mood and can't control yourself, kick a ball for a while and yell at the doll.
5. Distraction is a good medicine to relieve pain. When a heavy blow strikes, you'd better concentrate on something that interests you. Such as reading books, newspapers, practicing calligraphy, listening to music, walking, playing ball games, doing topics, etc. Or change the venue and way of activities. In this way, you can transfer your negative emotions and inject new vitality into your life.
6. Read biographies of celebrities. Accumulating famous sayings can enlighten wisdom and enhance the courage to overcome difficulties. Learn from celebrities to overcome difficulties with extraordinary willpower, thus eliminating the sense of loss. For example: Zhang Haidi, Beethoven, Nobel, Helen Keller, etc., the touching deeds of these celebrities have led many people out of the predicament.
7. Establish a positive psychological protection mechanism. Such as sublimation and rationalization. Sublimation refers to linking some negative emotions with the flashing thoughts in your mind and turning them into beneficial actions. For example, after Goethe's lovelorn love, he turned pain into strength and wrote the world famous young werther. Rationalization is what people usually talk about as "self-comfort", which means that in order to avoid mental pain and anxiety, we find all kinds of high-sounding reasons or excusable excuses to defend ourselves, so as to feel at ease and relieve psychological pressure and emotional anxiety. One is to maintain psychological balance by denying the meaning of the unachieved goal and exaggerating its disadvantages to oneself, which is the so-called "sour grape method"; The other is to intentionally or unintentionally exaggerate the benefits of the obtained results, deny or narrow their defects, so as to alleviate the psychological pain caused by failing to achieve the predetermined goals and restore psychological balance. The so-called "sweet lemon method". In addition, the method of delegating responsibility can alleviate guilt. Comparing yourself to a successful person in fantasy by using the method of table similarity can reduce anxiety and maintain self-esteem, which is the so-called "spiritual victory method". It is worth noting that these methods should only be used as a last resort. After the mood is adjusted to a suitable state, it must be treated rationally again.
8. Ask for help in time. When self-regulation doesn't work, you should seek help from psychological counselors in time. Our school may set up a psychological counseling room. At that time, a teacher will help you solve your troubles. Before the consultation room is opened, students can consult me by letter. I love psychological counseling and counseling, and I have enough professional knowledge. I have been a class teacher all the year round, and I have been a girl tutor in recent years, and I have rich practical experience. As a Chinese teacher, I have strong language skills, and I am confident that I can be competent in psychological counseling and counseling. I take it as my career to help students improve their psychological quality. If you trust me, you will usually get a satisfactory answer. I will guide you to the course, guide you out of the emotional trough, and let you see the sunshine of life.
Students, when you are troubled by negative emotions, your heart is painful and your life may be bleak. Everyone longs for light and happiness, so whenever bad mood comes to your life, we should face it with a positive and optimistic attitude, try to find all kinds of suitable ways and get rid of it as soon as possible. Only in this way can we happily spend the most difficult period of emotional development in adolescence and let the beautiful youth radiate dazzling brilliance! I wish you more happiness and less trouble. Please remember Pushkin's poem: If life deceives you, don't be sad and don't be impatient; Gloomy days need to be calm, believe it, that happy day is coming.