People cannot always be in a good mood. Since there are setbacks and troubles in life, there will be negative emotions. A mentally mature person is not a person without negative emotions, but a person who is good at regulating and controlling his emotions. So, how to be good at regulating and controlling your emotions? One is consciousness control. When your angry emotions are about to explode, you should use your consciousness to control yourself, remind yourself that you should remain rational, and you can also use self-suggestion: "Don't get angry, getting angry will hurt your body." A well-educated person can generally control things. The second is self-encouragement. Use certain philosophies or famous quotes to comfort yourself and encourage yourself to fight against pain and adversity. Entertaining yourself will make you feel better. The third is language adjustment. Language is a powerful tool for influencing emotions. If you are sad, reciting funny sentences can relieve your sadness. You can also regulate your emotions by using self-reminders, self-commands, and self-suggestions such as "controlling anger," "forbearance," and "calmness." The fourth is environmental constraints. The environment plays an important role in regulating and restricting emotions. When you are emotionally depressed, taking a walk outside can help regulate your mood. When you are unhappy, go to the casino and play games to relieve your boredom. When you are feeling worried, the best thing to do is to watch funny movies. The fifth is comfort. When a person pursues a certain goal but fails to achieve it, in order to reduce his inner disappointment, he can find a reason to comfort himself, just like a fox saying sour grapes when he cannot eat them. This is not a self-deception, it can be very beneficial as a way to relieve your emotions occasionally. Sixth is transfer. When anger rises, consciously changing the topic or doing something else to distract your attention can relieve the emotion. Playing ball, taking a walk, and listening to pop music can also help divert unpleasant emotions. Seventh is catharsis. When you encounter unpleasant things or grievances, don't bury them in your heart. Tell your close friends or relatives or cry loudly. This kind of venting can release the negative emotions accumulated in the heart and is beneficial to maintaining physical and mental health. However, the object, place, occasion and method of venting must be appropriate to avoid harming others. Eight is humor. Humor is a special emotional expression and a tool for people to adapt to the environment. Having a sense of humor helps people maintain a positive and optimistic attitude toward life. Using humor to deal with many seemingly troublesome things can often make people's unpleasant emotions disappear and make them feel relaxed immediately. Ninth is to go into nature. The beautiful mountains and rivers of nature can often shock people's hearts. When you climb a mountain, you will feel your mind broadening. Looking at the sea, you will feel a sense of detachment. When you walk into the forest, everything feels so fresh. This kind of beautiful feeling is often an inducer of good emotions. The heart can only be broken once. There may be pain in the future, but the pain will never be as bad as the feeling of being broken. And the pain after heartbreak is not so hard to erase. At least the pain will feel better than the broken pieces. If you hurt yourself and tire of others, why bother with yourself. In fact, there is only a slight difference between happiness and sadness. There are many ways to deal with emotions, but staying mindful is the most important and critical. Most people's confusion and pain are caused by their lack of awareness, their inability to see themselves clearly, and their inability to understand others, so they are confused and restless. But looking at yourself is also the most difficult thing to do, because your ego is so big that it is difficult for you to let go and become humble. It’s also because we don’t know how to cultivate our minds and nature and look for ways to calm down. The source of negative emotions can be negative experiences, or it can also be said to be negative inertia. The events that evoke your negative experiences are just borrowed catalysts. If the emotion exceeds the scope of one's control, the best way is not to release or suppress it, but to do nothing, and learn to calm down first, because when the negative energy is too great, if it is released indiscriminately, even you may not be able to bear it. , and it is easy to influence others. Suppression is absolutely impossible, because the source of the problem is suppression. When you are confused, you must first calm down, take care of your emotions, don't agree with them, don't judge them, let them appear, put your feelings where your heart is, no matter if your eyes are still teary or your breathing is messy. The heart is the largest emotional control center. To stabilize your emotions, you must start from the heart and learn how to center your mind. As for the method, everyone has to find it on their own. There are many, many Dharma-doors. The key is not the Dharma, but your intention and willingness. Believe that you have the ability to go all out and the sky is brighter. Everyone's path to cultivating their mind is different, so there's no need to compare, just go on your own. . We need to be the masters of our emotions and refuse to be controlled. Emotions are not the same as events. It's the emotion that gets aroused and bad, not the event itself. We just can't figure it out, and we identify that I am the totality of that emotional state. We are asking for trouble, pleasing emotions and impulses, but losing ourselves. We can use self-control methods to calm down our emotions and stay awake and autonomous. This is mature mind management. Self-control is not the same as suppression, because the former is an action after awakening, and the latter is a reaction of being lost. The so-called self-control is to learn a set of methods of handling emotions that suit you. Once you see yourself being attacked by emotions, you must protect yourself immediately. Remind yourself that it is just the inertia of pure thinking that uses weakness to defeat reason, and find appropriate ways to break it up. Focus on negative emotions, such as exercise, meditation, yoga, watching movies, volunteering, creating, talking to close friends, going to a spa, dressing up, etc., to draw out all the positive energy. Helping yourself requires determination and perseverance, and is a path that must be walked and completed alone. It is also a responsibility for growth. Self-treatment is always the most practical and practical method of self-protection, and no one can rely on it.