A successful businessman invited a friend to dinner one day, and it happened that the businessman's father came from his hometown to visit his son. Knowing that his father was coming, the businessman immediately invited his father to have dinner with him.
On the wine table, the merchant's father said nothing, listening to his son drinking and chatting with his friends. While they were drinking and picking vegetables, the merchant's father saw a detail. When that friend picks up a dish, he always likes to turn it over with chopsticks, and a dish is turned upside down by his friend.
However, after I put the dish in the bowl, I ate it with a big mouth, regardless of other people's feelings. After eating, there was still a grain of rice in my mouth and I walked out of the restaurant without wiping it off.
When the businessman and his father got home, his father asked the businessman how he met his friends. Do you know him well? Meanwhile, what's his personality like? The businessman answered his father's questions one after another.
I met that friend because of a business cooperation; Not very well, I can only say that I have known each other for a long time; He is not well-known at present, after all, he has little contact.
Father frowned at the businessman's answer, and then said seriously, "son, you shouldn't be a close friend." From the way he eats with chopsticks, I feel that he is selfish and narrow-minded, and he will do whatever it takes in the face of interests. You must be careful. "
The businessman looked at his father nervously in shock and asked, "Father, he shouldn't be like this." . Father picked up the teacup and was silent for a while, then added, "I'm a good judge of people, just wait and see."
Sure enough, the businessman's father expected that because the businessman was short of money once, the so-called "friend" immediately turned against others and looked for a new partner.
What is a partner? It means that you will always be with you when you need cooperation opportunities, and you will not interrupt all due cooperation because of your financial problems or other reasons. If it is only the cooperation of interests, it is obvious business cooperation, and there is no friend factor in it.
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My parents are very strict with my younger brother and me when picking vegetables with chopsticks. When eating at the table, you must never open your chopsticks too wide, and you must not turn around in the bowl when you are holding vegetables. In the process of picking vegetables, first of all, we should pick them with goals, and pick them directly when we see the dishes we like, especially when we have guests at home.
I remember that once a guest came to my house, my brother rudely stirred it in the bowl. At that time, my father knocked heavily on the back of the head. My dad also said, "Is it polite to tell you that you can't turn when picking up vegetables?" Can't you see there are guests at home? "
A series of tough words from my father immediately hurt my younger brother's young heart. My brother's tears came down, but he didn't cry because he knew he was wrong. I was there then. Since then, my brother and I have developed the habit of not turning vegetables. First, we "scan" vegetables with our eyes, and then when we see the right dishes we like, we insert chopsticks.
Eating with vegetables is also a habit. If you have a good habit since childhood, it is also a reference for your future life. Although this wine table culture can't be completely accurate, some people may really be their own habits, but at least it can be used as a reference.
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In high school, I had two very good classmates. For three years in high school, the three of us were almost inseparable. We often go to the canteen to eat together. We eat our own food. Because we often eat together, the three of us have similar tastes. So the food is almost the same. A student used to take food from our plates. In fact, the dishes and quantity of the three of us are the same. He had to eat his share and take some from our plates.
At first, it didn't matter to us that he was like this. Later, after a long time, I found him like this every time. Slowly, another classmate and I became a little disgusted with him. Sometimes the three of us will improve the food, and occasionally order a few side dishes outside the school to rub together and find the same problem.
That classmate used to stir every dish, stir all the dishes, and then put a small piece in. We don't know what to say after seeing it, so we can only watch him play it silently. When he finished eating, we were full, too, because we had no appetite for his stirring.
Maybe a habitual action is formed inadvertently and will last for a lifetime. In this process, they offended their friends, touched their loved ones and lost themselves. In fact, they want to change and don't want to change, and they are also very anxious, but they just can't control their emotions.
Now my classmate is working in a processing factory in Yiwu, Zhejiang, unmarried. I heard that he doesn't even have a few friends. Perhaps it was his habit of eating vegetables that caused him to lose a lot, not only his friends, but also his circle.
Wine table culture seems simple to eat and drink, but it contains a lot of philosophy. If you can understand it, it's wine table culture, but if you can't understand it, it's simple communication and communication in life. The process of every meal is actually a process of mutual communication and soul contact, but at the moment of contact, their souls have merged.
Using chopsticks was originally just a process of eating and picking vegetables, and it did not involve talking about character. However, such a small process reflects the truth, goodness and beauty of life. The use of chopsticks is good, and it feels like a beautiful scenery. The use of chopsticks is not perfect, which shows another "beauty" and personality.
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