It is said that time flies, in fact, time has always been there, but our own hearts and feelings are changing. People often say that you can't resist time. In fact, time can't resist our impetuousness.
We don't climb mountains all our lives, but you should have a mountain in your heart to keep you climbing high, to keep you working hard and to look up and see hope at any time.
The best age is the day when you finally know and firmly believe how good you are, not empty, not grandiose, not popular, but knowing clearly in your heart that yes, I am so good!
Don't wait, there are not many opportunities that really belong to you, and action is always more important than fantasy;
Don't complain, face up to contradictions and problems, complaining can only prove your incompetence;
Don't be promiscuous, have three or two confidants, and don't expect to be good friends with anyone;
Don't be impetuous Travel and study when you have time, cultivate your body and mind with the environment and enrich your mind with culture.
Don't regret it, as long as it is your choice, even if it is difficult and helpless, you must grit your teeth and stick to it. Don't let those unimportant things affect us and let us lose those really important things.
Sometimes the world is so big that our generation has no chance to meet it. Sometimes the world is so small that we can see your smiling face when we look up, so we must be grateful when we meet, cherish when we fall in love, and smile when we turn around.
The simpler our hearts are, the simpler the world will be, and happiness will grow; If you have a free heart, you will live freely and be happy everywhere. Be optimistic when you are proud, but optimistic when you are frustrated. There are many things in life that can be put down. Only by putting them down can you afford them.
Try to simplify your life, and you will find that the scenery that is blocked is the most suitable life. Don't be too persistent, lest you give yourself a heavy burden.
Be more tolerant, be more generous, wave your hand and smile, and all unhappiness will become a thing of the past. Because there is nothing we can do, let it be. Because our hearts have nothing to do, we should take pleasure in it. If our hearts are simple, our world will be particularly simple.
The first sentence, no matter who you meet, he is the right person;
The second sentence, no matter what happens, it is the only thing that will happen;
The third sentence, no matter when things start, it is the right time;
The fourth sentence, what should be over is over.
In fact, these words will remind us of something similar that Buddha Sakyamuni said: No matter who you meet, he is the one who should appear in your life. It is no accident that he will teach you something.
In fact, life will always give us answers, but it won't tell us everything at once. It will always tell us through the occurrence of some facts: this is the best arrangement in heaven!
So in our real life, if things go against our wishes, we must believe that there must be other arrangements, and everything that happens now and now is the best arrangement!
This topic will involve the character of self-cultivation, keeping a wise and harmonious attitude to live a leisurely life. It looks beautiful in theory, but it is not so easy in practice. I can talk about my personal life experience and discuss it with my literary friends!
I grew up in the mountains and was timid by nature. My temperament has not changed since middle school. Often shy of interacting with people, more withdrawn. In retrospect, it stems from my inner self-distrust. An opportunity, I joined the army and joined the barracks. Due to the training of the army, my will quality and self-discipline ability have been improved. Subjectively unwilling to lag behind, communicate more with comrades. I am also cheerful and optimistic. Coupled with my personal expertise in painting and calligraphy, my three-year military career has won me many awards. In the 1990s, spiritual rewards were the mainstay, supplemented by material rewards. It also greatly enhanced my self-confidence and upward motivation. I sometimes think, if I don't serve in the military camp, how can I have the courage to change my personality? The army may not be perfect, but it is essential to transform the weak and slightly inferior temper of young people in my place into a healthy, sunny and strong soldier.
Later, I went to further study, took part in the work, and acted in a resolute manner. Sometimes I disagree with my colleagues, and sometimes I quarrel too much. I was young, inexperienced and impatient at that time. Later, I moved to Beijing and Shenzhen. When I was older, I had a lot of calm temperament, priorities, treating people with things, and some rules. Time is a whetstone, grinding away the sharpness and edges.
Now married, relatively stable, and loves painting and calligraphy in his spare time; Sometimes I know myself from time to time, drinking tea and laughing; Or pack wild donkeys and indulge in the mountains; Find some rhythm of self-cultivation in groping, and get a little balance between material desire and spirit!
Calm, the wind is light and the clouds are light, all of which are the results of life experience and precipitation. It is inseparable from the determination of young people to forge ahead. This is a step, not a leap. Otherwise, the so-called calm and carefree days after tomorrow are rootless trees, castles in the air, and body odor may not be profound!
If you want to cultivate this character as soon as possible, you can cultivate reading or other spiritual life styles in advance, such as calligraphy and painting, chess, bible study, yoga, travel and study, so as to promote peace and simplicity of mind.
Calm and calm is from the heart, concentration can be calm, calm can be calm. People who are good at keeping quiet have a broad mind like the sea and a clear heart like a mirror. When a person's heart is as calm as water, his heart is as spotless as a mirror. In the face of secular troubles, we can treat them with a peaceful attitude. Inner peace and tranquility can make people avoid complicated life and keep a innocence for themselves.
Calm, is a life attitude, is a realm of life. It comes from people's pursuit and satisfaction of ordinary and simple life.
Su Dongpo said: "Quiet is the movement of the group, and empty is the world." Only with a peaceful mind can we face the troubles of the world correctly and get rid of the temptation of fame and fortune.
Calm is a kind of life force. In a complex world, it is really not easy to calm yourself down. In quiet time, I like to make a pot of tea, read quietly, write a paragraph quietly, remember the good times quietly, and taste the ups and downs of life quietly. Only when you are calm can you reach the distance. If the heart is simple, the world will be simple.
When the clouds are light and the wind is light, there are tea and books. Listen to your inner voice calmly. Without the noise of the world, there is no desire. With a peaceful heart, look at the clouds and clouds, and with a pure heart, feel every fragrance in life. Draw your best wishes with pen and ink, draw full affection, and be poetic in plain.
Zeng Guofan also said: "People's hearts can be calm. Although there are many changes, nothing is clear." Quiet in the heart, not in the realm. "
Some people say: "The so-called happy life must mean a quiet life, because only in a quiet atmosphere can we have real fun in life."
Calm, don't have to escape into the mountains, isolated from the world, but with the heart of "being born", live a life of "joining the WTO" and always maintain a peaceful attitude towards life.
Zhuangzi said: "The husband pushes heaven and earth with emptiness and stillness, and is connected with everything. This is called Tianle. "
A quiet life has no intention of resisting the boredom and poverty in the world, but just wants to enjoy the inner richness and perfection.
Feng Zikai said: "Since there is no pure land, it is better to meditate."
People who are leisurely and willing to live a plain life are gentle, emotionally stable, calm and calm.
Calm people are often not so high-profile, not so extreme and not so low-paid. They know how to calm down. They know that the more anxious they are, the less they can get things done. Therefore, they are calm and serene. Associating with such people will make us feel at ease, natural, comfortable and comfortable.
Yi Shu said: "Everything is quiet, come quietly, go quietly, work quietly, harvest quietly, and avoid noise." The quiet world is beautiful. Small bridges and flowing water, empty valleys and secluded orchids, lonely smoke in the desert and snow-covered, are all quiet.
Qi Baishi once said that painting is the way of quietness, which can be cultivated, and painting and calligraphy can be achieved. If the heart is restless, the painting will be impetuous.
In Qi Baishi's paintings, even if the paper shrimp is full of flying and lifelike, it also has a quiet charm. Even if he painted an eagle with wings spread, he still has a calm spirit and a static dignity.
Perhaps it is the peace of mind, as the painting of the old man Baishi said, "When the heart is idle, it will be calm when hanging ink, calm when pondering ideas, and there will be a calm and quiet soul in the painting."
As long as we are quiet and persist in quietism, we can get rid of all external thoughts and distractions. On the other hand, we can be reasonable, not tired of foreign things and calm down.
Qing Dynasty painter Yun once said: "When painting is beautiful, there must be quietness. When the cover is swept away, there is no trace of axe chisel, and the static air condenses between paper and ink. Static gas makes people talk, painting is static, and its peak is related! "
Greek tragedy master euripides once said: "There is only one thing in the world that can withstand the impact of life forever: a quiet heart."
In this vain world, tranquility is the ultimate destination of the soul; Silence is the sustenance of spiritual home.
Zhou Zeng said: "The best state of life is abundance and tranquility. Quiet, because get rid of the temptation of the outside world. Rich, because you have the treasure of the inner spiritual world. "
Static can overcome impetuousness, and static can produce wisdom. The world is noisy and people are impetuous. The calmer they are, the wider the road under their feet will be.
Personally, I think it takes time to precipitate, that is, the growth of age can be realized. In other words, young people rarely have this mentality.
Young and energetic, it is generally impossible to have a calm mind. Only through social tempering, setbacks and grinding away the edges and corners will the mentality be stable. At this time, things have changed.
You can't have too many inner desires. The more things you desire, the more impetuous your heart will be and the more calm you will be.
There are excellent quotations in Zen, and reading more Zen books is particularly effective. A monk asked the Zen master: What is the Buddha's heart? Zen master A: Eat and sleep!
Whether a person is really calm or not is easy to see from his expression and movements. The face is calm, the eyebrows are slow, and the eyes are soft. Walk steadily and briskly.
If the heart is clear, the sky will not collapse.
Live up to your mission and watch the flowers bloom before the court; I have no intention of staying or staying, just looking at the clouds outside the sky.
The quieter the human heart, the more objective it is to know the world. It's not that I don't have the ability to see through, but that my heart is too chaotic. "Indifference means no ambition, and quietness means no distance." . Quiet makes wisdom, so the wise are not confused. Besides studying, it is more important to be quiet. If you want to see the world clearly, you must precipitate your own heart. Don't let a stone break your heart.
How to cultivate a calm mind? The specific approach is:
(1) Parents should set a good example for their children to lead calmly. 1, cultivate children's habit of communication when things go wrong; 2. Cultivate children's habit of patience after setbacks; 3. Tell children that sadness, disappointment and anger will not only affect themselves, but also affect the emotions of others; 4. Help children experience the ability to deal with other people's emotions.
(2) Relax and be naturally open-minded;
(3) When something happens, we should look at its essence and not be fooled by superficial phenomena;
(4) think positively about coping methods and don't make fearless efforts.
(5) Learn to empathize. Try to look at the problem from the standpoint of others and learn to forgive others.
How to cultivate a calm mind? This topic seems superficial, but I think it is quite meaningful!
To cultivate the "nourishment" in this "nourishment", we have to ponder: children are breastfed, vegetables are nourished by fertilization, and flowers are nourished by watering. It turns out that "nurturing" is so simple, milk, fertilizer and water are enough!
What you need to improve now is your mentality.