"Cousin, what skin care products did you use? Feel the skin growing back! Cousin hid her face and smiled: "I use the same as you!" " I looked at her incredulously. Cousin paused and continued: "Because I have a good father! 」
Looking at my cousin's happy expression, I suddenly understood that my daughter is good and my father is really important!
A good father is the confidence of a daughter's happy life.
On my cousin's wedding day, my uncle said to my cousin in front of the groom and all relatives and friends:
"Cloud, in your bag, dad gave you the key to the new house. There will inevitably be quarrels and quarrels in marriage, and you are angry. Slam the door without saying three words. The house is small, but it is enough to shelter you from the wind and rain and give you time to calm down ... "
Yes, married women know that when two people quarrel, what they need most is a nest of their own, where they can lick their wounds and calm down.
A good father, when his daughter is about to become someone else's wife, supports a solid wall for his daughter with deep fatherly love and teaches her how to face the running-in period in marriage with his own life experience; A wise and loving father is the regulator of her daughter's happy life, while a stupid and powerful father is the catalyst of her unfortunate life.
A few years ago, the father of China actress Tong Liya conducted a popular search.
Tong Liya and Chen Sicheng made up a Chinese wedding in Happy Camp, and Tong Liya's father appeared to send his daughter wedding wishes. He said these words to her:
"I gave my daughter to the Chen family today! Then I hope that I can do more work when I arrive at Mr. Chen's house, cook for Mr. Chen, serve my in-laws, and take time to see us. " Tong's father's words attracted the dissatisfaction of countless netizens: didn't the ancient maids all use the word "serve"? Dad also confidently replied to netizens: Is it wrong to serve in-laws?
When her husband Chen Sicheng cheated on her in June+10 last year, he asked Tong Liya to develop a patient, open-minded and wise heart. So, when asked in a program what you would do if you had a rival in love, Tong Liya smiled and said, "What can I do? I can only show myself well and then fight for it. 」
Tong Liya received his father's cold, hard-hitting education since childhood, and became less and less confident, more and more inferior, and even did not resist his tragic marriage. Two fathers, two ways, created two daughters' completely different lives. Whether the background color of a daughter's life is happy or unhappy, bright or gloomy, depends on her father first.
As China actress Ma Yili said in the Reader program:
"Especially girls, if there is a father who loves her very much, this girl will be very confident in the world. If the daughter is her father's little cotton-padded jacket, then the father is a thick raincoat to shelter her daughter from the wind and rain.
Second, a good father is a spiritual beacon for his daughter.
British writer Hubbard once said: A good father is better than 100 principals. It is more important for a father to lead his daughter spiritually.
Last July, China men's table tennis world champion Liu was not mentioned by fans for a long time, and he went on a popular search. This time, the topic is not himself, but his 7-year-old daughter Liu Yujie. Liu Yujie won the 8-year-old and under-8 championships in Las Vegas, USA.
At the award ceremony, she delivered her acceptance speech in English:
"I want to thank my father, who has always been my role model. I have a dream that one day I will surpass him. Today I want to tell him that I won the world championship when I was only seven years old ... "
Because of her father's role model, Sister Xiaoyu started playing ball at the age of 3 and started playing games all over the country at the age of 6. She won't show weakness in front of her opponents, even those older than her. Liu encouraged her daughter in Weibo: I am at the Rio Olympics, you are training in the United States, and we are working hard together on the road to the Grand Slam.
A good father is a beacon for his daughter along the way, constantly giving spiritual support and leading her to success step by step.
Just like your father, a China writer and literary translator, when he first joined Qian's family, his father strongly opposed asking him to stay at home and not go out to work. And tell Qian and his son in the most powerful language of a father:
"I spend so much effort to train my daughter, not to give you money and possessions, but to be an unpaid old maid! When choosing subjects, Jiang Yang asked his father which subject to choose, and his father said, "What you like is sexual intimacy, which suits you best. With the support and guidance of his father, Jiang Yang followed his heart and chose liberal arts.
In this way, a generation of literary superstars rose slowly with the support and recognition of their fathers. Without the encouragement and guidance of his father, Mr. Yang's generation would not be stunning. Also regarded by her husband Qian Zhongshu as: the most virtuous wife and the most talented woman.
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Adler, a famous psychologist, said: Of all the behaviors in family life, the last thing needed is the existence of authority. A good father knows how to unload the heavy patriarchy, respect and agree with his daughter's opinions, complete a tall, pious and warm spiritual image in her heart, and lead them all the way forward.
Third, a good father is a spiritual mentor for his daughter.
Liu Yong, a writer in Taiwan Province Province, once wrote a love letter to her daughter: No matter how * * *, you should protect yourself; No matter how stable the relationship is, I refuse to take private photos. Never exchange your body for uncertain love, but use your body to liberate certain love.
When the daughter grows up, the father is not calm. They are afraid that their daughters will encounter any grievances and injuries, especially emotional ones, when they step into the big dye vat of society. Therefore, if you want your daughter to live a happy life, you must become a soul tutor and give her the most profound lesson at the most critical crossroads in her life.
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There is a plot in the movie: 17 Sophia wants to date her boyfriend, but this date may have sex, and Sophia is still a virgin, so she tells her father about it and hopes to get his help. For China's father, whose traditional thoughts are deeply rooted, the first reaction when he heard such a thing was: No, absolutely not. Simple and rude, without any reason.
But the father in the movie said this to his daughter:
"Don't go to his house because he is unhappy. This should not be the only reason. What I want to say is that this is an important moment in your life and something you will remember all your life. If you think about it later, no matter what, it will make your mouth smile, so do it! But if you don't think so, or you're not sure, forget it! Because you still have a lot of time. 」
A wise father will not force his daughter's life. He will stand in her position, give them a full sense of security and give her the wisest advice at critical moments. Through this kind of education, girls can often understand self-respect and love, and they can also see the boy clearly.
Cao Qitai, the host of Taiwan Province Province, once said: Daughter, I want to cultivate her vision and find a responsible and reliable boyfriend when she grows up. A girl with connotation and opinions must have a pair of discerning eyes, and a really good man can be seen at a glance in their eyes.
Similarly, a girl who has a noble soul and knows how to love herself can also attract the attention of excellent men and be cherished and cared for.
If you have a daughter, please ask her to be a strong and independent girl, not being held hostage in front of feelings and not being tempted in front of money; If you have a daughter, please teach her to be a self-respecting girl and take good care of her body and soul in order to have a happy and splendid life.
Psychologist Wu Zhihong once said, "The relationship between father and daughter determines the happiness of a daughter's life. The father is the first man his daughter met, and his image directly affects the happiness of her future life.
■ A good father can give his daughter affirmation and encouragement, so that they can look at the world with confidence and live their lives firmly.
■ A good father can give spiritual nutrition to his daughters, making them calm, not afraid of strong enemies, not discouraged and not failing.
■ A good father is the shaper of his daughter's noble soul, and they will never lose themselves at any time.
In the movie "Winner is King", there is a father's line that makes people move:
"As a father, I should guard her. As long as she decides, I will accompany her. Sometimes when I am frustrated, I will wait for her to come back and cry. If she doesn't cry, well, then I'll cook a delicious table ... she can only be happy with me and nothing else. 」
May every good father be treated gently by time, and may your daughter smile with a low eyebrow and live a quiet life.
If she is fine, you will be very happy.