How to adjust bad mood? The following methods can help you, you might as well try.
1, tolerance. Don't care about others' unintentional injuries, allow others to have the freedom of action and judgment, and patiently and fairly tolerate opinions different from their own or traditional ideas. A psychologist once said: The harm from love is everywhere. Students, you should understand that some injuries may be necessary. Anyone close to you will be heartbroken, depending on why. Teachers have high standards for students. When students' behaviors run counter to teachers' wishes, teachers "hate iron to produce steel" and criticize too much in a hurry. Therefore, be tolerant of criticized students, such as haggling over every ounce and even being psychologically rebellious, which will not only make them unhappy, but also affect the relationship between teachers and students. Parents are eager for their children's success. You may think that parents are nagging, but you must understand and be tolerant. People who refuse to tolerate can't be happy on their own. A boy lost his father when he was a little over two years old. The boy's mother is only 26 years old, graduated from college, young and beautiful. People are always sympathetic, especially men who think they can dominate the world, and often appear between boys and mothers. Boys hate their mothers, and they hate their uncles even more. He is often fidgety and seldom laughs. When the fourth boy from a poor family was born, his mother had no milk to feed him, let alone spend money on milk substitutes. So he gave him to a rich family. After the boy knew the truth, he once hated his mother until he became a father. A mother who is overwhelmed by the burden of life has a bad temper and often beats and scolds her children, and the children refuse to forgive her. It was not until I understood that "people's hearts need to breathe" and that my mother could support labor, perhaps because of the truth of venting in time, that my elder sister took the lead in forgiving my mother together. The children in the above cases could not understand and tolerate their mothers in the early stage, which brought great harm to their mothers' hearts and made their lives unhappy. Empathy is a way to tolerate others. Through empathy, we can understand the rationality and necessity of other people's behavior, naturally slow down the resentment or hatred towards others, and thus relax our mind.
Step back and think about everything. This is another most effective way to relieve troubles. For example, a child without a mother thinks he is lucky to have a father. A man who lost his left arm in an accident thinks that thanks to the fact that his right arm is not injured, he can still make extraordinary achievements through hard work. If you can think like this, your mood will naturally be cheerful and miracles may occur. Isn't Zhang Haidi such a typical example? She is paralyzed in the lower body and can't move, but she thinks her brain can still be used, so there is no need to feel inferior. So, I tried to teach myself a foreign language, translate works, learn medical skills and treat people. She has become a role model for the youth of the world. Teacher Lu Jingping, a special-grade teacher in our school, ran in the dense fog in the morning and collided with someone, resulting in spinal nerve paralysis and severely limited movement, but Teacher Lu did not complain. Instead, he faced the reality positively and optimistically, gave full play to his intelligence and made great contributions to the cause of education. Zhao Chunyan, a girl in our school, lost a leg in a car accident when she was young. She was not immersed in sorrow and pain. She happily developed her specialty, practiced calligraphy, wrote a good hand and got good grades in school. Facing the cruel reality, they can still be optimistic, work hard with tenacious will and create miracles unimaginable to ordinary people. In contrast, what can keep us from abandoning the small contradictions and pains in life?
3. compensation. Make up for some losses with a sense of accomplishment. For example, a poor disfigured classmate, after being ridiculed, turns difficulties and ridicule into motivation for learning, and often silently tells himself to study hard, redouble his efforts, and make up for it with ability and morality. As a result, he succeeded and became a good student with excellent academic performance in his class. He no longer feels inferior and has a sense of pride. Students also changed their attitudes, from "looking down" and "laughing" to liking and respecting him and taking him as an example. Please remember: "one inch long, one foot short." Don't lose sight of the broad and bright sky just because there is a dark cloud ahead. Don't always stare at your weaknesses and forget your strengths. If your family is poor or not good-looking, don't compete with others and don't always show your face. You can write poems, write compositions, draw pictures, or take part in various activities that can give full play to your special skills. We can gain successful experience, enhance confidence, stimulate happy emotional experience and avoid entanglement of troubles. Zhao Jie, a girl in our school, came from a broken family and was not knocked down by pain and misfortune. With her tireless spirit, she published poems and novels in middle school. Become the first middle school student in our school to publish a novel. At school, she wrote and served as the editor-in-chief of Timely Literature, leading campus literature lovers to start businesses. She is busy, she is full, so she has time to chew pain and misfortune. Of course she is happy that she has succeeded. Now, she plays her talents in college, and her career and love are going well. Dr. Zhao, a doctor without hands, was born in a small mountain village in Xinning County, Hunan Province. /kloc-at the age of 0/3, he fried fish with a homemade bomb and unfortunately blew off a hand. Pain and confusion attacked him. He endured pain and failure with unimaginable perseverance. Excellent results in the college entrance examination, but failed for several years in a row. Just because he is disabled. Finally, an enlightened leader of Shaoyang Normal University overcame all kinds of pressures and made an exception to admit him. He became an English teacher and was greatly admired by his students. He wrote on the blackboard with a pen with tape. He studied hard to get a postgraduate degree. After graduation, he was assigned to Xiangtan University, and then admitted to the doctor. Now studying Buddhism in Nanjing. Students, when it comes to troubles, who can compare with Zhao Hangliang? When we think of Zhao Hangliang, what do we care about?
4. Vent and channel appropriately. When you are worried about your pain because you have been wronged a lot at school or at home, tell your relatives, friends or teachers what happened and what you think in time, even if you don't get any comfort, it will alleviate a lot of pain. More importantly, you will be enlightened and comforted. Or simply close the door and cry, because sometimes tears can wash away the pain in your heart. The World Health Organization has studied the life expectancy of men and women and found that the average life expectancy of women is several years longer than that of men, because women cry more than men. You can also find the right person to adjust your bad mood. For example, in a factory in Japan, the boss set up a vent room to let every worker have a good mood to work. Before going to work, if someone comes to work with negative emotions, let him go into the vent room to find the rubber man, scold him or beat him. After venting in this way, workers will go to work easily and happily to prevent accidents. You can also find a suitable venting object that does not affect others' emotions and does not hinder your study and work to transfer and vent your negative emotions. For example, when you are in a strong mood and can't control yourself, kick the ball for a while and yell at the doll.
5. Distraction is a good medicine to relieve pain. When a heavy blow strikes, you'd better concentrate on what you are interested in. Such as reading books, reading newspapers, practicing calligraphy, listening to music, walking, playing ball games, doing topics, etc. Or change the location and mode of activities. In this way, you can transfer your negative emotions and inject new vitality into your life.
6. Read biographies of celebrities. Accumulating famous sayings and epigrams can enlighten wisdom and enhance the courage to overcome difficulties. Learn from celebrities and overcome difficulties with extraordinary willpower, thus eliminating the sense of loss. For example: Zhang Haidi, Beethoven, Nobel, Helen Keller, etc. The touching stories of these celebrities have helped many people out of the predicament.
7. Establish a positive psychological protection mechanism. Such as sublimation and rationalization. Sublimation refers to linking some negative emotions with ideas that flash in your mind and turning them into beneficial actions. For example, after Goethe was lovelorn, he turned pain into strength and wrote the world-famous Young Werther. Rationalization is what people usually call "self-comfort", which refers to finding all kinds of high-sounding reasons or excusable excuses to defend themselves in order to avoid mental pain and anxiety, so as to feel at ease and relieve psychological pressure and emotional anxiety. One is to maintain psychological balance by denying the meaning of not achieving the goal and exaggerating its disadvantages to oneself, which is the so-called "sour grape method"; The other is to intentionally or unintentionally exaggerate the benefits of the achievements, deny or narrow their defects, so as to alleviate the psychological pain caused by failing to achieve the predetermined goals and restore psychological balance. The so-called "sweet lemon method". In addition, the method of delegating responsibility can alleviate the sense of guilt. Comparing yourself to an imaginary successful person with tabular similarity method can reduce anxiety and maintain self-esteem, which is the so-called "spiritual victory method". It is worth noting that these methods should only be used as a last resort. After the mood is adjusted to a suitable state, it must be treated rationally again.
8. Ask for help in time. When self-regulation doesn't work, seek the help of a psychological counselor in time. Our school may set up a psychological counseling room. There will be a teacher to help you solve your troubles. Before the consulting room is open, students can write to me for advice. I love psychological counseling and counseling and have enough professional knowledge. I have been a class teacher all the year round, and I have been a tutor for girls in recent years, with rich practical experience. As a Chinese teacher, I have strong language skills, and I am confident that I can be competent in psychological counseling and counseling. I take it as my duty to help students improve their psychological quality. If you believe me, you will usually get a satisfactory answer. I will guide you to the course, guide you out of the emotional trough and let you see the sunshine of life.
Students, when you are troubled by negative emotions, your heart is painful and your life may be bleak. Everyone is eager for light and happiness, so whenever a bad mood comes to your life, we should face it with a positive and optimistic attitude, try to find various suitable ways and get rid of it as soon as possible. Only in this way can we happily spend the most difficult period of adolescent emotional development and let the beautiful youth glow with dazzling brilliance! I wish you more happiness and less trouble. Please remember Pushkin's poem: If life deceives you, don't be sad or impatient; Dark days need peace, believe it, that happy day is coming.